Dear Captain and Company, I recently finalized the ending of a relationship...I say finalized because I've been trying to break up with my ex since October, but she finally was able to accept it months later...no matter how many times I told her, "my feelings for you have changed," "I'm no longer attracted to you," … Continue reading #828: Can you live with your ex? (Spoiler: Not this time!)
A series of letters from people who are trying to disengage but don't know how. There's some really toxic addiction and abusive behavior described in some of the letters, so, know that going in. Hey Captain Awkward, This is the LW of #776. This time my question isn’t about dealing with Toby’s parents, but Toby … Continue reading #825, #826, #827: The Art of Losing Is Actually Pretty Hard To Master
Behind a cut for sexual coercion and general ickiness. Ahoy there Cap'n, I require some assistance please. I have a male friend who I've known for about three years, after we met on a mutual friend's birthday trip. We kept in contact after the holiday and in the last year since he moved back to … Continue reading #823: Another Day, Another Creepy Dude Who Doesn’t Deserve Friends
Hi Captain My best friend, "Toby" has been living in my city for about a year now and over that time he's gone from being homeless and alcoholic to having a sweet flat and ten months of sobriety under his belt. I'm trying to be as engaged in his recovery and support as possible because … Continue reading #776: “How do I help my recovering friend navigate a visit with his abusive family?”
Oh Captain My Captain: I'm running into a communications problem, and could use some advice. First the backstory: I live with my parents. My mother, who is nearing seventy, is having arthritis issues and needs a little bit of extra help around the house; generally more help that I can reasonably provide while being a … Continue reading #725: “How do I get out of the middle of a situation that I set up?”
Hello Captain! I have an situation that I don't think has been discussed: how do you deal with Stranger Mansplainers when you are a lady doing things normally associated with manliness & they can't fathom how a lady could figure out how to do such things? For me: I am a lady & I participate … Continue reading #709: Stranger Mansplainer Danger
My friend told me a creepy story this weekend. A clean cut man with a clip board knocked on her door and asked her questions about one of her neighbors. He asked my friend if she knew the neighbor, and when my friend demurred because something about it felt off - "I just moved here, … Continue reading Small Safety Reminder Time
Dear Captain Awkward, I’m newly single, and getting back into dating. I went on a date last night with a guy I met on OKC. We met up at a bar, and he seemed cute and smart, and as we talked it seemed like we had lots in common! But about twenty minutes in, it … Continue reading #689: Did I overreact when my date told me a story about rape and then wanted to get me alone?
Captain Awkward, I just found your blog an hour ago, and haven't really found anything fitting my situation. I have a creepy friend I already turned down in no uncertain terms when asked on a date. I don't see him often, only every few weeks at work. But he touches me - every time, the … Continue reading #685: “Quit touching!”: A review
Oh, Captain, my Captain, I’m a lawyer, working at a small-ish firm in the Midwest. As a bit of background, my last job was at a non-profit, where I believed in the work, and loved my co-workers, but it was a bad fit. My old boss shredded my self-esteem, and my leave-taking was not entirely … Continue reading #684: My boss brought a machete to a disciplinary meeting with staff.