#987: “Coming out as trans to family at (or before) a family wedding.”

Dear Captain, I am transgender (he/him pronouns), and came out to my immediate family last year. I have not come out to my extended family because - well, I don't consider it their business! In my mind it would be like telling loosely connected acquaintances. The issue is this: my younger brother is getting married … Continue reading #987: “Coming out as trans to family at (or before) a family wedding.”

#959: “How much fighting in a new relationship is too much?” Spoiler: THIS IS WAY TOO MUCH/OH GOD BREAK UP NOW

Putting this one behind a cut for some sexual coercion. Hi Captain, Long time reader, first time question. I met this girl who seems really great, and I like her a lot-she’s attractive, smart and romantic. But we keep arguing about sex. We were having sex last night and I wanted to stop. Nothing was … Continue reading #959: “How much fighting in a new relationship is too much?” Spoiler: THIS IS WAY TOO MUCH/OH GOD BREAK UP NOW

#954: “I know that ‘a girlfriend is not a pacifier’ but I’m worried that I’m becoming a pacifier for my partner.”

hi captain, i want to thank you so much for your website and lovely community and i hope this message finds you well. i'm having a hard time sorting through some relationship stuff and i'm hoping for some clarity. i'm dating a very sweet and loving man who is still dealing every day with mental … Continue reading #954: “I know that ‘a girlfriend is not a pacifier’ but I’m worried that I’m becoming a pacifier for my partner.”

#936: “My best friend’s partner secretly records his guests while they are in the bathroom.”

Oh yeah. You read that right. Putting this one behind a cut. Dear Captain Awkward, My best friend and her fiancé invited my boyfriend and I away for the weekend to her parents’ house in the country. She and I have been best friends since we were 13 (we are now 29) and I am … Continue reading #936: “My best friend’s partner secretly records his guests while they are in the bathroom.”

#877: “Stop texting me about your questionable exploits, bro.”

Behind a cut for some questionable practices around consent.  Dear Captain, I have a situation I hope you can help with. For the last few years, I had a client that I've had a major crush on. We had a great rapport, shared political views, easy conversation, he'd bring thoughtful gifts as a tip, I … Continue reading #877: “Stop texting me about your questionable exploits, bro.”

#867: “My partner constantly harasses me about my weight. Any advice?”

I know we just talked about this, but this showed up in the box this morning and I want to show side-by-side how PREDICTABLE and DELIBERATE this kind of emotional abuse is. A partner who harps on you about your appearance is not a good partner. In other news, it's about to get very crowded … Continue reading #867: “My partner constantly harasses me about my weight. Any advice?”

#847: “I’ve become an impromptu therapist for an internet stranger.”

i.e. "Your Old High School Friend Is Not A Pacifier" Dear Captain, I have a dilemma I hope you can help me with. I seem to have acquired an internet friend with needs a bit beyond my capacity. I've struggled with depression all of my adult life. Fairly recently I decided to go on medication, … Continue reading #847: “I’ve become an impromptu therapist for an internet stranger.”

#829: When your harasser applies for a job where you work.

Dear Captain, My workplace received an application from someone I knew about 10 years ago. "Dick" stalked, emotionally abused, and sexually harassed my good friend "Anya". To make matters worse, at the time this occurred, Anya and I were both college students who knew him in his professional capacity--he was employed at our college, in … Continue reading #829: When your harasser applies for a job where you work.