#1122: “I ghosted a guy three years ago. Now he’s back! What do I owe him?”

Dear Captain, A bit over 3 years ago, I (she/her) went out with a guy (he/him) I met through an online dating site. We had some drinks, slept together, and then I basically ghosted him - ignored a couple of texts, then moved out of the country, changed my number, and never thought about him … Continue reading #1122: “I ghosted a guy three years ago. Now he’s back! What do I owe him?”

#1099: “My family keeps pressuring me to make peace with my abusive brother.”

This is behind a cut for sexual violence and violent threats. Dear Captain, I barely know where to begin. I (she/her) used to be close to my brother (he/him), but we no longer have a relationship. When I was 19, I was sexually assaulted twice, by two different men that I knew. I went through … Continue reading #1099: “My family keeps pressuring me to make peace with my abusive brother.”

#1041: “How do I get my much older work ‘friend’ to stop messaging me late at night to talk about his relationship problems?”

Dear Captain, I have a colleague, "Peter", who I've known for several years. We first worked together at a festival, and added each other on facebook/phone for organisational reasons, as he was the crew leader. Over time we have become friends, although I do see him as more of a colleague as he is 20 … Continue reading #1041: “How do I get my much older work ‘friend’ to stop messaging me late at night to talk about his relationship problems?”

#1036: “My newly nudist/naturist friend and unwanted naked photos.”

Putting this behind a cut given the "Guy In Your Office Who Gives Weird Backrubs And Ends Every Sentence With 'That's What She Said' Is Totally #IBelieveYou About Your #MeToo Social Media Posts" and "Pretty Much Every Movie You Loved In The 1990s Is Now Kinda Gross To Think About" week we've had. Dear Captain … Continue reading #1036: “My newly nudist/naturist friend and unwanted naked photos.”

#987: “Coming out as trans to family at (or before) a family wedding.”

Dear Captain, I am transgender (he/him pronouns), and came out to my immediate family last year. I have not come out to my extended family because - well, I don't consider it their business! In my mind it would be like telling loosely connected acquaintances. The issue is this: my younger brother is getting married … Continue reading #987: “Coming out as trans to family at (or before) a family wedding.”