#1191: Guest Post:”My Mom’s Boyfriend is a Sex Offender!”

If it's not obvious why from the subject line, we're putting this post behind a cut so people can choose whether to engage further. FYI there are mentions of past assaults and predatory behavior in addition to describing sex offender registries and designations. Upsetting stuff, though the LW is doing a good job with an impossible … Continue reading #1191: Guest Post:”My Mom’s Boyfriend is a Sex Offender!”

It Came From The Search Terms: January Song

It is time for the return of the feature where we answer things people typed into search engines to find this place as if they are questions. Obviously we are missing details and nuance and the larger story. (That's what makes it fun). First, as traditional: music with the month somewhere in the song. https://youtu.be/jpVgPEWNiRkContinue reading It Came From The Search Terms: January Song

#1166: “My mom kidnapped my kid for 30 minutes. How fired is she?”

Hi Captain! My quirky, genius, self-centered, deeply insecure, pathological boundary pushing mother took my 5 year old "out" without telling me while we were visiting over the holiday. I didn't know where he was, he was in his pajamas (it was 40 degrees out), she did not have a jacket for him. She did not … Continue reading #1166: “My mom kidnapped my kid for 30 minutes. How fired is she?”

#1162: “Is there room for compromise when it comes to alcohol and driving?”

Dear Captain Awkward, I use she/her pronouns. I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for almost four years. We live in different but nearby cities, and I don’t own a car (though I can get access to one with advance notice), so he often drives to mine. In our region, there is a … Continue reading #1162: “Is there room for compromise when it comes to alcohol and driving?”

#1149: “We decided to leave our abusive ex and move to another state, only she came with us and is living on our couch?”

This letter contains emotional abuse of people, potential physical harm of animals (now stopped/interrupted/not ongoing/the animals are ok for now!, but still I know some people can't safely read about that), and enough WHAT THE FUCK that you'll need a comfy chair and a cold washcloth, at minimum. If you want the teachable moment without … Continue reading #1149: “We decided to leave our abusive ex and move to another state, only she came with us and is living on our couch?”

#1148: “Navigating the aftermath of the abuse in the social circle.”

Hey there, Captain Awkward - My dear roommate (Clay)'s ex-boyfriend was abusive. He had mental health issues, and emotionally manipulated roommate (they/them) in various ways. I spent a lot of time helping my roommate to process the feels and vulnerabilities emerging around what happened in their relationship - and potentially over invested myself in their … Continue reading #1148: “Navigating the aftermath of the abuse in the social circle.”

It Came From The Search Terms: Flaming September

Hello friends! It's that time, where we answer the things people typed into search engines as if they were questions. It's a good way to check in with people's preoccupations on a large, anonymous scale and it's usually pretty fun. First, as is traditional, a song: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QZCiMp7F65o (Lyrics at the YouTube link) Also I know … Continue reading It Came From The Search Terms: Flaming September

#1143: “Talking about emotional abuse and leaving my marriage with my potential support network.”

Behind a cut for emotional abuse. Hi Captain, This is a follow-up question to letter 1141. I'm not that letter-writer, but I'm in a very similar situation. My husband has become emotionally abusive and extremely controlling, we have young children together, and I do not have much of a support network. I'm working with a … Continue reading #1143: “Talking about emotional abuse and leaving my marriage with my potential support network.”

#1141: “Help with De-Escalating Arguments when Dr. Jekyll Turns into Mr. ‘Abandonment/Control Issues’ Hyde”

Behind a cut for controlling and emotionally abusive behavior. Dear Cap, My husband (he/him) and I (she/her) have been together for five years. I'd say 95% of the time things are great. We're really in tune, we share values and interests and have the same long term goals. The problem is the other 5% (maybe … Continue reading #1141: “Help with De-Escalating Arguments when Dr. Jekyll Turns into Mr. ‘Abandonment/Control Issues’ Hyde”