Content note for pregnancy complications and raging misogyny.
#1386: “How do I go No Contact with my dad again now that he’s no longer dying?”
"We had the dramatic deathbed reunion everybody pressured me into and then the jerk lived. What now?"
#1382: “My mum won’t accept anything I tell her unless it’s been ‘fact-checked’ by my brother or my dad.”
Bold of your mom to set herself up as the sole arbiter of your life circumstances, Letter Writer!
#1381: “How to make someone known for going back on their promises put a big financial promise into writing.”
The answer to "how to make someone _____" is almost always, "Sorry, you can't make anybody do anything."
#1375: “Guilt trips with a side of trauma.”
Both anxious and avoidant attachment styles respond badly to pressure and benefit from structure, or, "Mom, I can't be your on-call therapist."
#1372: “Help me plant the right boundaries for the future.”
There are a lot of steps between "starting a farm" and "figuring out who gets it after we die." Content Warning for ableism.
#1369: “Is there a polite way to tell my mother-in-law that she will, someday, die?”
Death comes for us all, but we don't have to like it.
#1367: “I made a sacrifice to keep the peace. Was it right?”
"False Spring" in Chicago, is that wedding bells I hear?
#1366: “Malicious, controlling mother-in-law wants to move in”
Ultimatums are scary for a reason: Sometimes people force you to follow through on them.
#1364: “Gender is elusive, and I cannot teach it to you, Mother!”
Don't let a side quest for understanding get in the way of doing - or demanding - care and kindness.