Both anxious and avoidant attachment styles respond badly to pressure and benefit from structure, or, "Mom, I can't be your on-call therapist."
Category: Parents
#1372: “Help me plant the right boundaries for the future.”
There are a lot of steps between "starting a farm" and "figuring out who gets it after we die." Content Warning for ableism.
#1369: “Is there a polite way to tell my mother-in-law that she will, someday, die?”
Death comes for us all, but we don't have to like it.
#1367: “I made a sacrifice to keep the peace. Was it right?”
"False Spring" in Chicago, is that wedding bells I hear?
#1366: “Malicious, controlling mother-in-law wants to move in”
Ultimatums are scary for a reason: Sometimes people force you to follow through on them.
#1364: “Gender is elusive, and I cannot teach it to you, Mother!”
Don't let a side quest for understanding get in the way of doing - or demanding - care and kindness.
#1362: “Family being opposite but equal butts about COVID – How do I maintain sanity?”
There's a reason parents of little kids are freaking out right now, howabout we start with not treating their fear like it's a baseless inconvenience?
#1360: “Is there any reasonable way to ask the father who abandoned me if I can have my dead mother’s wedding ring?”
Maybe your avoidant parent will be so avoidant that he'll do what you want in order to avoid conflict.
#1359: Sibling’s Christmas Decorations Are Making My Parents Break Down
The problem with ultimatums is sometimes people take you up on them.
#1357: “My sister won’t come home for Christmas.”
Weird family stuff AND art school? Welcome to my wheelhouse.
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