Both anxious and avoidant attachment styles respond badly to pressure and benefit from structure, or, "Mom, I can't be your on-call therapist."
There are a lot of steps between "starting a farm" and "figuring out who gets it after we die." Content Warning for ableism.
Death comes for us all, but we don't have to like it.
"False Spring" in Chicago, is that wedding bells I hear?
Ultimatums are scary for a reason: Sometimes people force you to follow through on them.
Don't let a side quest for understanding get in the way of doing - or demanding - care and kindness.
There's a reason parents of little kids are freaking out right now, howabout we start with not treating their fear like it's a baseless inconvenience?
Maybe your avoidant parent will be so avoidant that he'll do what you want in order to avoid conflict.
The problem with ultimatums is sometimes people take you up on them.
Weird family stuff AND art school? Welcome to my wheelhouse.