The problem with ultimatums is sometimes people take you up on them.
Category: Overthinking It
#1356: “I don’t want to be friends with my neighbor anymore.”
Are you overreacting or are you just reacting to evidence of observed behavior and patterns?
#1352: Recovering from an Awkward Lie
Just because you're judging yourself inside your head, it doesn't mean that other people are participating.
#1349: “I asked out a shy guy, he told me his (non-existent) girlfriend would be jealous. What now?”
An invented girlfriend as an excuse to say "no" is in no way LESS of an impediment than an actual jealous girlfriend?
#1348: “How to tell an ex you’re pregnant when it’s not theirs and not your ex”
Your partner's ex, your partner's friend group, your partner's life choices are your partner's job to manage.
#1343: “How do I make myself stand the person in the friend group I can’t really stand?”
It's okay if someone you strongly dislike gets an inkling that the feeling is mutual.
#1340: “I sat for my friends’ cats for years, but they won’t return the favor now:” Friendship, Favors, and Reciprocity
There is "what might be technically owed" and "what is realistic and workable now." In general, don't try to extract the former at the expense of the latter with people you'd like to stay friends with.
#1338: “*surprised Pikachu face* Another friendship that stresses me out!”
Let's you and me drive a stake through the heart of NiceGirl™ Summer.
#1335: Advice about anxiety about over-committing to in-person hangouts written by a person with ADHD who struggles with time.
When fear of over-committing meets terror of letting other people down, that's where you'll find me and way more than one of you, if my inbox is any indication.
#1334: “If someone keeps RSVP-ing “yes” but never attending, do I have to keep inviting them to stuff?”
Here is blanket permission to not worry very much about offending people who neither show up to your parties nor ever explain why.
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