Let's you and me drive a stake through the heart of NiceGirl™ Summer.
Category: Overthinking It
#1335: Advice about anxiety about over-committing to in-person hangouts written by a person with ADHD who struggles with time.
When fear of over-committing meets terror of letting other people down, that's where you'll find me and way more than one of you, if my inbox is any indication.
#1334: “If someone keeps RSVP-ing “yes” but never attending, do I have to keep inviting them to stuff?”
Here is blanket permission to not worry very much about offending people who neither show up to your parties nor ever explain why.
#1331 and #1332: Awkward Neighbor Stuff!
Good fences continue to make good neighbors, metaphorically and literally.
#1328: “I’m a junior with a thing for a graduating senior. Is this thing doomed before it even starts?”
"Dear Captain Awkward, how can I find out if my crush likes me back?"
Nature is healing!
#1321: “I have nightmares about hosting the Fancy Lady Craft Circle in my terrible apartment.”
There's a lot to be said sometimes for faking it until you make it, but I'm a big fan of dropping the act and dropping the shame right along with it.
“I want to reach out but I have no idea what to say.”
If you don't know what to say, revert to first principles: Something is probably better than nothing.
#1315: How do I tell acquaintances about a death in the family without sounding dramatic?
When you want to share an extremely mood-ruining thing (death of a parent) without ruining the mood: Be brief and direct, and let other people be nice to you for a minute.
#1314: “I put my emotions in the fridge and went away for a few years and now I’m afraid of what’s growing in there.”
Numbness can be a survival skill, but the feeling's gotta come back sometime.
#1311: “I don’t wanna hang out post-pandemic.”
The question u asked: "How do I decline future social invitations from people I don't like anymore?"
The question I answered: "It is okay to outgrow friendships and only RSVP 'yes' to the parties you want to attend."
