Let's you and me drive a stake through the heart of NiceGirl™ Summer.
When fear of over-committing meets terror of letting other people down, that's where you'll find me and way more than one of you, if my inbox is any indication.
Here is blanket permission to not worry very much about offending people who neither show up to your parties nor ever explain why.
Good fences continue to make good neighbors, metaphorically and literally.
"Dear Captain Awkward, how can I find out if my crush likes me back?"
Nature is healing!
There's a lot to be said sometimes for faking it until you make it, but I'm a big fan of dropping the act and dropping the shame right along with it.
If you don't know what to say, revert to first principles: Something is probably better than nothing.
When you want to share an extremely mood-ruining thing (death of a parent) without ruining the mood: Be brief and direct, and let other people be nice to you for a minute.
Numbness can be a survival skill, but the feeling's gotta come back sometime.
The question u asked: "How do I decline future social invitations from people I don't like anymore?"
The question I answered: "It is okay to outgrow friendships and only RSVP 'yes' to the parties you want to attend."