#1271: “I went no-contact with an abusive parent who is dying now. What are the rules here?”

Content notes for alcohol addiction, emotional abuse, illness requiring hospitalization. O Captain, My Captain, My mother was always (imo) an emotionally abusive narcissist. I'm the oldest of 3 and the scapegoat. She became an alcoholic when I was 16 or 17, has been hospitalised with liver failure a number of times in the last 12 … Continue reading #1271: “I went no-contact with an abusive parent who is dying now. What are the rules here?”

#1216 and #1217: The Weight Of Parental Love and Things And Time And “Help.”

Dear Captain Awkward; Hello! I am 48 years old, pronouns she/her, and having trouble with my parents, specifically, my mother and her hoarding. My mom is trying to give more stuff to me than I can handle, and the lever she pulls to make it more painful is, "but it was your grandmother's." if I … Continue reading #1216 and #1217: The Weight Of Parental Love and Things And Time And “Help.”

Books: “What My Mother And I Don’t Talk About: Fifteen Writers Break the Silence”

"Sometimes I imagine what it would be like to give this book to my mother. To present it to her as a precious gift over a meal that I’ve cooked for her. To say: Here is everything that keeps us from really talking. Here is my heart. Here are my words. I wrote this for … Continue reading Books: “What My Mother And I Don’t Talk About: Fifteen Writers Break the Silence”

#1178: “A friend paid me to read her book and it’s terrible.”

Hello Captain, Two years ago, a friend paid me to critique her novel because I studied writing and know the publishing industry. I agreed to read three drafts of the work. We did not sign a formal contract. Then I got the manuscript, and it’s terrible on all levels, from prose to plot. I’ve tried … Continue reading #1178: “A friend paid me to read her book and it’s terrible.”

It Came From The Search Terms: Fall Into November

It's time for that mostly monthly tradition where we answer the things people typed into search engines as if they are questions. First, as is traditional, a song: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E5Gu6c3YFCM Now, the terms! 1 "Captain Awkward is fat" Fuck yeah I am! 2 "Is it weird to feel lonely in a relationship of 6 months together" … Continue reading It Came From The Search Terms: Fall Into November

It Came From The Search Terms: Flaming September

Hello friends! It's that time, where we answer the things people typed into search engines as if they were questions. It's a good way to check in with people's preoccupations on a large, anonymous scale and it's usually pretty fun. First, as is traditional, a song: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QZCiMp7F65o (Lyrics at the YouTube link) Also I know … Continue reading It Came From The Search Terms: Flaming September

Short Answer Friday! Reading a story tonight! Kittens! Exclamation points!

Hello readers, You can submit questions at the Patreon thread (advantage: you get more than 280 characters and first dibs) or on Twitter (@CAwkward, #awkwardfriday). Submissions close at noon. FYI answers will slide slightly later today and probably won't be updated piece by piece since I have a last minute appointment at noon. Like, everything … Continue reading Short Answer Friday! Reading a story tonight! Kittens! Exclamation points!

It Came From The Search Terms: August

It's time for that thing we do, where we use the search strings people typed in to find this place as if they were questions. First, as is traditional, a song: https://www.youtube.com/watch?time_continue=51&v=iBjo55ZvRnU Lyrics here. 1 "How to encourage husband to make friends." The subtext runs deep with this one, does it not? Like, where is … Continue reading It Came From The Search Terms: August