Content note for mention of suicidal ideation, and reminder that roommate fights are for "It's your turn to buy toilet paper," not "It actually oppresses me when your face does that." Dear Captain Awkward, I have a question about reconciling with friends when everyone involved has made mistakes. Sorry this is so long... My wife … Continue reading #1297: My friends had a huge falling-out with my wife. Can we ever be friends again?
Category: Mental Health
#1296: “Gender may be made up but it’s still messing with me”
Rae is back, restoring a sense of discovery and play to figuring out who the heck you are.
#1294: “I work with an Angry Yelling Man and it’s triggering my PTSD.”
Alert, alert, Mantrum in progress! Do not approach! Mantrum in progress!
#1286: “How do I create good art when life is tough and might not get easier?”
Dear Captain, The situation: I (she/her) am a homemaker and mum to a toddler. I’ve suffered from depression, anxiety, and fibromyalgia for eighteen years, aka my entire adult life and then some. I’m on meds and pretty much a self-care rockstar, but I still spend LOTS of time and energy coping with pain, fatigue, dizziness, … Continue reading #1286: “How do I create good art when life is tough and might not get easier?”
It Came From The Search Terms: July 2020
Yes! It is time! Time to treat the search strings people typed in right before they washed up on these blog shores as if they are actual questions! Inside: Mask etiquette, reformed Nice Guy™ apologies, overly-neighborly neighbors, favor-sharking defined, and more.
#1279: “My metamour isn’t taking social-distancing precautions and my partner is unfazed.”
Dear Captain, My partner (P) and I (both mid-30s, she/her) are happily engaged, and have been living together for a few years now. Things have been great. We’ve both had a lot of trauma to work through, and have been nothing but supportive and understanding with each other as each we’ve dealt with our own … Continue reading #1279: “My metamour isn’t taking social-distancing precautions and my partner is unfazed.”
#1277: “Abuse, agency, and the limits of advice.”
Behind a cut for mention of physical and emotional abuse of adult children by parents as well as some frustrations and victim-blaming attitudes that are common in friends and support networks of people who are embroiled in abusive situations. Abusers ruin everything, pretty much. Dear Captain Awkward, I (31, nb, he/him) have a friend who … Continue reading #1277: “Abuse, agency, and the limits of advice.”
#1276: “Setting boundaries when there’s a significant power difference (and you’re the one with less)”
Hi Captain, I’m wondering if you have a script for setting boundaries where there’s a significant power differential. Briefly, I’ve recently hired a lawyer who specializes in disability rights to represent me in a human rights case against a corporation that discriminated against me based on my mental health disability. The lawyer is very competent, … Continue reading #1276: “Setting boundaries when there’s a significant power difference (and you’re the one with less)”
#1273: “How do I stop making a big deal out of small stuff that turns into arguing?”
Hi there, My husband (27M) and I (27F) have been married for 3.5 years and we live in the US. Generally, we click on just about everything major - kids, faith, goals, finances, etc. We have the same type of humor, can laugh together and all-around can just have a good time together. To be … Continue reading #1273: “How do I stop making a big deal out of small stuff that turns into arguing?”
#1271: “I went no-contact with an abusive parent who is dying now. What are the rules here?”
Content notes for alcohol addiction, emotional abuse, illness requiring hospitalization. O Captain, My Captain, My mother was always (imo) an emotionally abusive narcissist. I'm the oldest of 3 and the scapegoat. She became an alcoholic when I was 16 or 17, has been hospitalised with liver failure a number of times in the last 12 … Continue reading #1271: “I went no-contact with an abusive parent who is dying now. What are the rules here?”