Another day, another disappointing man who deserves neither wife nor mistress.
#1384: “Was I stating a boundary, or was I abusing?”
When someone is consistently mean to you, and you say "if you keep being mean to me, we might have to break up," may I humbly suggest that you are not The Problem.
#1382: “My mum won’t accept anything I tell her unless it’s been ‘fact-checked’ by my brother or my dad.”
Bold of your mom to set herself up as the sole arbiter of your life circumstances, Letter Writer!
#1381: “How to make someone known for going back on their promises put a big financial promise into writing.”
The answer to "how to make someone _____" is almost always, "Sorry, you can't make anybody do anything."
#1379: Friend is going back on an informal housing agreement.
The problem with informal agreements.
#1375: “Guilt trips with a side of trauma.”
Both anxious and avoidant attachment styles respond badly to pressure and benefit from structure, or, "Mom, I can't be your on-call therapist."
#1366: “Malicious, controlling mother-in-law wants to move in”
Ultimatums are scary for a reason: Sometimes people force you to follow through on them.
#1364: “Gender is elusive, and I cannot teach it to you, Mother!”
Don't let a side quest for understanding get in the way of doing - or demanding - care and kindness.
#1358: GUEST POST: “I think my professors $#@%-ed me up.”
Thriller author Amy Gentry answers this letter about abusive professors who feed like vampires on the potential of their students.
#1347: “My friend asked me if we could add ‘benefits,’ I still feel weird about it, am I justified in ending the friendship?”
"Good news, I finally persuaded my fiancée to let me sleep with other people, now we can finally act out all my fantasies about you over Zoom!" Whoa, seems sexy!