#1221: “My husband’s friend Hulked out on him/us, accused us of bullying him, and isn’t taking our calls. Is it because he has a crush on me, and do I need to do anything about that?”

Dear Captain Awkward, Yesterday night, seemingly out of nowhere, my husband “Andy” (he/him) got a message from a friend of ours, “Marc” (he/him). In this very long message, Marc wrote that he felt hurt and attacked by Andy during his recent (2-3 days ago) visit to our house. Marc used words like "venomous" and "vitriol" … Continue reading #1221: “My husband’s friend Hulked out on him/us, accused us of bullying him, and isn’t taking our calls. Is it because he has a crush on me, and do I need to do anything about that?”

#1202: “My friend proposed moving into a shared office, I said yes and made all the necessary arrangements, but now she’s suddenly changed her mind. Am I a bad sport if I need some space from spending time with her?”

Dear Captain Awkward, I am a psychotherapist, and a friendly colleague who is also a psychotherapist said she would like me to take a room in a three-room office she was acquiring. This plan didn't work out because the sale fell through. She then bought a two-room office and the idea, always an idea in … Continue reading #1202: “My friend proposed moving into a shared office, I said yes and made all the necessary arrangements, but now she’s suddenly changed her mind. Am I a bad sport if I need some space from spending time with her?”

#1152: “How to accept an apology when the apology isn’t complete and you still hurt?”

Hello, Community. Mr. Awkward is improving and we're starting to talk about release either later this week or next week. Thanks so much for the kind words and the Uncle Julio's. Shall we tackle a question? Hello Captain! I've got a sort of weird question for you. How in the world do you accept an … Continue reading #1152: “How to accept an apology when the apology isn’t complete and you still hurt?”

#1022: “I’ve got angry Feelingsmail from a friend.”

Dear Captain, Over the last year, a once close friend of mine and I have been experiencing the African Violet of broken friendship. We had been through a very intense multi-year creative work project together, and after the project finished and she moved onto another job, we kind of drifted apart. For my part, I … Continue reading #1022: “I’ve got angry Feelingsmail from a friend.”

It Came From The Search Terms: November Has Come

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IrdI2iC-sYY It's time for the monthly ritual where I answer the questions that people typed into search engines to find this place. 1 "I have a crush on a guy who treats me badly." Crushes can be fun, but unlike what you've seen on Buffy The Vampire Slayer and every other show/movie/comic, love doesn't turn … Continue reading It Came From The Search Terms: November Has Come

#896: “One wedding, one funeral, and a crapton of sibling conflict.”

Dear Captain Awkward, My brother died suddenly in an accident in May. He was my only full sibling. The only sibling I grew up with and lived with. I also have 3 older half siblings from my father’s first marriage- we’re not super close, we see each other at holidays and text quarterly updates. After … Continue reading #896: “One wedding, one funeral, and a crapton of sibling conflict.”

#888 & #889: “That thing you did is not cool, friend.”

Blanket statement: Friendships have to be able to withstand boundary-setting and communications that certain behaviors are not cool, like "You are hurting my feelings" or "That thing you did is not okay, could you stop?" If you are always biting your tongue when the other person hurts your feelings, what you have is not a … Continue reading #888 & #889: “That thing you did is not cool, friend.”