#1024: “How do I avert these burgeoning unhealthy relationship dynamics?”

Dear Captain, A few months ago, I met a cute new person and we clicked pretty well from the start. We both had another primary partner at the time and we often talked about those relationships as well as (of course) many other things. After a while, he and his primary broke up, and he … Continue reading #1024: “How do I avert these burgeoning unhealthy relationship dynamics?”

It Came From The Search Terms: September Gurls

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Mic9CSv91b4 Video description: The Bangles cover Big Star's September Gurls in Pittsburgh in 1986. It's time for the monthly thing where we answer the things people typed into search engines as if they are actual questions. This feature is generously funded by Patreon supporters. 1 "How to stop a neighbour and hubby putting me down … Continue reading It Came From The Search Terms: September Gurls

#988: “How do I have the ‘is this a real relationship?’ talk with someone without messing up the relationship?”

Dearest Captain, I've been dating a person for almost 3 months, and he is terrific and lovely. Sexy stuff is also ding ding ding jackpot!!!. I'm at the point where I would like to have a low-stress check-in about how we're both feeling regarding exclusivity and commitment. I know we're both currently not seeing anyone … Continue reading #988: “How do I have the ‘is this a real relationship?’ talk with someone without messing up the relationship?”

#954: “I know that ‘a girlfriend is not a pacifier’ but I’m worried that I’m becoming a pacifier for my partner.”

hi captain, i want to thank you so much for your website and lovely community and i hope this message finds you well. i'm having a hard time sorting through some relationship stuff and i'm hoping for some clarity. i'm dating a very sweet and loving man who is still dealing every day with mental … Continue reading #954: “I know that ‘a girlfriend is not a pacifier’ but I’m worried that I’m becoming a pacifier for my partner.”

#814: “You’re not doing anything wrong, but stop it!”

If this blog were a child it would be a five-year-old today, and I would buy it Star Wars action figures and a bake it a chocolate cake with cream cheese frosting in my mom's old Mickey Mouse-shaped pans. Happy New Year/Blogaversary, Awkward People! ¬†Here is a poem that I think is about forgiving yourself: … Continue reading #814: “You’re not doing anything wrong, but stop it!”