Ahoy Captain, I am a part of a lovely circle of friends that at its core is good and strong and free of toxicity. If you graduate out a bit in the social circles, we have a couple of friends that kind of move in and out of the friend group that are prone to … Continue reading #1113: Weed Allergies, Geek Social Fallacies, and the Gordian Knot
Dear Captain, I’m a woman in her mid-30’s who’s been dating a man a few years older than myself. We’ve only been together for about 6 months. Neither one of us has a very extensive dating history; he’s only dated one other woman, and I’ve only dated two other men. At first he seemed like … Continue reading #1079: “Boundaries and ‘shoulds.'”
Dear Captain, I have been thinking about this one for some time now, and I'm stuck: What is a good response to "What are you up to tonight / this weekend / next Thursday?" I loathe this question, and I've been getting it a lot lately. I get it from friends (who usually just want … Continue reading #1078: “Sooooooo…what are you doing this weekend?”
Dear Captain Awkward, Four years ago, the first fling I had after I left my ex was with a guy at a large multi-day costume event in a far-off state. He came on really strong (in character) and as we have friends in common, I knew he was engaged and asked him about this. He … Continue reading #1063: Is this all-in-good-fun old-timey-cosplay flirting or weird boundary-pushing flirting?
Dear Captain, This seems like a very minor thing to be asking for help with, I know. But I feel like even if there's no solution to my "problem", getting the input of a bunch of neutral parties (particularly neutral parties with solid understandings of boundaries) would make me feel better, and if you feel … Continue reading #1059: The reluctant pet-sitter (An ‘Art of No’ Post)
Dear Captain, I write fiction, mostly fantasy. I admit I can be humorless about it. My friend “Shawn” writes fiction of similar genre. We used to talk about writing and about our ideas a lot, but less so since I got a day job. Shawn starts projects all the time and most of them never … Continue reading #1049: “Getting talked at by a fellow amateur writer.”
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Mic9CSv91b4 Video description: The Bangles cover Big Star's September Gurls in Pittsburgh in 1986. It's time for the monthly thing where we answer the things people typed into search engines as if they are actual questions. This feature is generously funded by Patreon supporters. 1 "How to stop a neighbour and hubby putting me down … Continue reading It Came From The Search Terms: September Gurls
I had a bunch of travel in July and never got that month's version up. So, here's another round of that thing where we answer people's search engine queries like blog questions. 1 "Awkward coworkers who wont get hint ." Hints don't work. They just create a sea of plausible deniability for clueless people to splash … Continue reading It Came From The Search Terms: Summer Pledge Drive Edition
Hello Captain & Community! The short version of my problem is: I am never going to have children. My mother refuses to accept this. The long version is as such: Since the age of eleven, I’ve had a mystery medical condition. My mother has never accepted its existence. While I’ve never been explicitly told “You … Continue reading #1005: Mom: “You *must* give me grandbabies!” You: “You must STFU.”
Dear Captain Awkward, I recently moved with my partner to a very popular area for tourists. We've encountered an issue with friends and acquaintances who visit to view the area, not necessarily visit us. We end up financially supporting their visit... including parking costs, gas money, wear and tear on the car, and groceries. They … Continue reading #990: Living in a tourist city, feeling like a hotel.