Hello Captain! I have a question about racist strangers who think I am their friend. Occasionally, I'll be out in public waiting in line, reading at the library or just waiting for the bus and a stranger will approach me and feel compelled to make a racist observation about someone else who is present. I … Continue reading #522: Dealing with chatty racist strangers
Dear Captain Awkward, Things have started getting *awkward* with a good friend of mine, and I need advice on how to handle it. He’s this really quirky guy - I met him through my boyfriend - and since we all have a silly sense of humour we enjoy having a laugh (usually with a good … Continue reading #488: My friend’s new hobby is grossing everyone out, and, he likes it that way.
Dear Captain Awkward: I'm woman in my late 30s who uses a power wheelchair due to a medical condition that causes severe physical fatigue. Often, strangers - retail staff, waitstaff, members of the general public - assume that because I use a power wheelchair, I have an intellectual disability. I don't. I have a university … Continue reading #487: I use a wheelchair, and people are condescending as fuck.
Jolly's great comment to Monday's post is going to be very relevant to these seemingly very different questions: "You also don’t necessarily have to bring some of these things up in one big confrontation about The Whole Pattern Of Her Sucking. You could just make a point of standing up for yourself when she does … Continue reading #468 and #469: “Hey, knock it off”, or, Constructive Conflict, Continued.
Hi Captain Awkward, A few months ago, I met a guy who works in my field through a professional networking event. Since then, I have noticed that he has such a brutal case of White Knight Syndrome that he will actually create Drama just to "save" the women who happen to be in his presence, … Continue reading #434: Just me and my shadow, trying to network.
I am heading to Texas for the first time ever tomorrow morning, to hang out with my sweetheart's family & friends. January is a good time to get the hell out of Chicago for a few days, yes? So I won't be posting regularly for about the next week. In the meantime, per someone's request … Continue reading Open Thread: Crushes
Hi Captain Awkward, At a party over the weekend, I met a woman who was so verbally agressive to me, so insulting and so poisonous, that I still feel a little nauseous today. She's the girlfriend of someone who I'll be seeing again and again (he, my boyfriend and I share the same small-world past … Continue reading #402: Do I have to sit through dinner with someone who was a big jerk to me?
Dear Captain Awkward, I have a dilemma that I suspect is quite common, but I'm still running into mental roadblocks as to how to properly approach it. Background: I'm a lesbian and a big-eff Feminist working in a male-dominated field, in a male-dominated company. I've worked marketing, event planning and PR for rape crisis centres, … Continue reading #395: Confronting offensive bosses and coworkers.
Dear Captain Awkward, I write this as I lie in bed, too stressed to sleep. You think tonight I'd be feeling good. After more months then I'd like to admit to, I've finally got an interview on the books for one of the many jobs I've been applying for - one that I really want … Continue reading #362: Go the F*** to Sleep
Dear Captain Awkward, I live and work at an isolated location with six other people. We are nearing the end of our work rotation and everyone is wearing a little thin emotionally so that might be partially where this problem stems from. I have a really good relationship with the woman that I spend the … Continue reading #360: My coworker called me a virgin, why did that hurt my feelings so much?