#939: “Don’t have the energy to interact with church members right now. What do I say?”

Hey, Captain. I've got a bit of a social conundrum and would appreciate any tips/scripts to help me deal with people I don't want to talk to at all. Short back story: My husband is a youth minister at a church. We have been living in the church parsonage rent-free for the past 8 or … Continue reading #939: “Don’t have the energy to interact with church members right now. What do I say?”

#898: “My friend’s wife loathes at least half of us but comes to our weekly games night to hang out anyway.”

Hi Captain Awkward, I have a good female friend, V. Friend V has a wife, O. Every weekend, all of our friends group and SO's will get together Saturday night to hang out, have a drink and play games. This is great. What is not so great is that O has privately reached out to … Continue reading #898: “My friend’s wife loathes at least half of us but comes to our weekly games night to hang out anyway.”

#897: “Every time I invite our friends to something, this person suggests a competing event.”

Hi Captain Awkward, I find myself in a very awkward but relatively low-stakes situation with a classmate. There is a woman in my cohort at college who has this weird habit of rescheduling other students' social events (not just mine, but mostly mine). For example, someone invites the group by email out to go hiking, … Continue reading #897: “Every time I invite our friends to something, this person suggests a competing event.”

#879: “I want to hang out with my cool former coworkers but NOT my toxic manager:” On bouncing back after leaving a terrible job.

Dear Captain Awkward, I was just fired after less than a year at a toxic job. I was vomiting from anxiety on a semi-regular basis... it was awful. My team and peers were amazing, but my relationship with my manager was terrible. After months trying to fix it, I began seeing a new psychiatrist and … Continue reading #879: “I want to hang out with my cool former coworkers but NOT my toxic manager:” On bouncing back after leaving a terrible job.

#836: “How do I apologize for my mean drunk friend’s behavior to my other friends?”

Hello, My close friend from childhood, "Jake," is a kindhearted person with a drinking problem. I have learned that his drinking problem is not something for me to either fix or enable, so I do neither. Most of the time I simply hang out with him before he starts drinking for the night, and then … Continue reading #836: “How do I apologize for my mean drunk friend’s behavior to my other friends?”

#833: When your spouse won’t set boundaries with your in-laws.

Dear Captain, I am married to a wonderful, funny, smart man. We have an amazing two-year-old and I just found out that I am expecting again. Life is good, except that his normally-long-distance family is suddenly in the area (an hour's drive away) and thus all the issues about my dislike of them that we … Continue reading #833: When your spouse won’t set boundaries with your in-laws.

#830, #831 and #832: Boundaries and the power of “no!”

Three letter writers who need some help saying "nope!" and making it stick. Dear Captain, I'm rapidly running out of patience with my housemate and am at the same time increasingly concerned about him, and I could really use an outside opinion on what, if anything, I can do to help him without damaging myself … Continue reading #830, #831 and #832: Boundaries and the power of “no!”

#828: Can you live with your ex? (Spoiler: Not this time!)

Dear Captain and Company, I recently finalized the ending of a relationship...I say finalized because I've been trying to break up with my ex since October, but she finally was able to accept it months later...no matter how many times I told her, "my feelings for you have changed," "I'm no longer attracted to you," … Continue reading #828: Can you live with your ex? (Spoiler: Not this time!)

#784: The Geek Social Fallacy Host – Missing Stair Guest Relationship

Dear Captain Awkward, I think my partner has a big Geek Social Fallacy problem. We live together in a small house in an expensive area where lots of people live with parents or roommates. So, ever since before we met, he’s hosted huge blowout theme parties for his entire geeky friendgroup. He always encourages them … Continue reading #784: The Geek Social Fallacy Host – Missing Stair Guest Relationship