#1063: Is this all-in-good-fun old-timey-cosplay flirting or weird boundary-pushing flirting?

Dear Captain Awkward, Four years ago, the first fling I had after I left my ex was with a guy at a large multi-day costume event in a far-off state. He came on really strong (in character) and as we have friends in common, I knew he was engaged and asked him about this. He … Continue reading #1063: Is this all-in-good-fun old-timey-cosplay flirting or weird boundary-pushing flirting?

#1051: “The nightly dinner debate during family visits is making me very cranky indeed.”

Hi Captain, I'm such a fan of your kind and logical advice! I'm hoping for scripts to deal with a nasty pattern that my family falls into at mealtimes when we're visiting my parents and brothers- it's kind of like the abilene paradox on steroids, but while hungry. I tell spouse and my parents that … Continue reading #1051: “The nightly dinner debate during family visits is making me very cranky indeed.”

#1035: “My friend feels like she is being Left Out of social stuff, and her passive-aggressive reactions are making me want to…leave her out of social stuff.”

Dear Captain Awkward, Over the years, my smart, funny, fun friend Elizabeth has become ruled by her insecurity, anxiety, and grievances. She's close with my friends from a couple of overlapping friend groups — I met my boyfriend through her — and somehow, her emotional needs have become the center of our lives. We are … Continue reading #1035: “My friend feels like she is being Left Out of social stuff, and her passive-aggressive reactions are making me want to…leave her out of social stuff.”

#1021: “Pressured by a friend to hang out with someone I know doesn’t like me.”

Hi Captain, I have a minor problem that as of now is entirely one sided. I am in college and have a group of friends who graduated ahead of me because I had to take a year off from school due to medical reasons. During that time they got close to another person lets call … Continue reading #1021: “Pressured by a friend to hang out with someone I know doesn’t like me.”

#977: “I just don’t want to be your friend:” “No thanks!” is NOT mean.

Hi Capt, Surely this has been asked before, but I can't find anything this straightforward in the archive. What do you say when someone wants to be your friend but you just don't like them? I feel like at any given time there are a few people in my life who really want to be … Continue reading #977: “I just don’t want to be your friend:” “No thanks!” is NOT mean.

#961: My friendship is being suffocated by my friend’s overbearing spouse.

Hi Captain, I have a friend of 20 years who got married a few years ago to a man who has a total lack of boundaries. Their marriage coincided with a lot of bad things happening in my life (horrendous breakup and various other life circumstances), so when I relocated back to my home state … Continue reading #961: My friendship is being suffocated by my friend’s overbearing spouse.