Yo, Captain! I have a friend who I care about dearly but he keeps sending quite rude (almost downright racist) messages over a group chat I have with all of my friends, often targeted towards me and my heritage. A recent example is that he sent a photo of a map from almost 200 years … Continue reading #1076: The Xenophobe In The Group Chat
Hey Captain, I was hoping I could still get some assistance with a minor but ongoing irritation in my life. I am Jewish, and I live in the Midwest, and that is awkward. I'm almost always the only Jewish person in my social circle, workplace, etc. Eleven months out of the year, this is a … Continue reading #1064: Christmas Help For A Non-Christian
Dear Captain Awkward, Four years ago, the first fling I had after I left my ex was with a guy at a large multi-day costume event in a far-off state. He came on really strong (in character) and as we have friends in common, I knew he was engaged and asked him about this. He … Continue reading #1063: Is this all-in-good-fun old-timey-cosplay flirting or weird boundary-pushing flirting?
Hi Captain, I'm such a fan of your kind and logical advice! I'm hoping for scripts to deal with a nasty pattern that my family falls into at mealtimes when we're visiting my parents and brothers- it's kind of like the abilene paradox on steroids, but while hungry. I tell spouse and my parents that … Continue reading #1051: “The nightly dinner debate during family visits is making me very cranky indeed.”
Dear Captain Awkward, Over the years, my smart, funny, fun friend Elizabeth has become ruled by her insecurity, anxiety, and grievances. She's close with my friends from a couple of overlapping friend groups — I met my boyfriend through her — and somehow, her emotional needs have become the center of our lives. We are … Continue reading #1035: “My friend feels like she is being Left Out of social stuff, and her passive-aggressive reactions are making me want to…leave her out of social stuff.”
Hi Captain, I have a minor problem that as of now is entirely one sided. I am in college and have a group of friends who graduated ahead of me because I had to take a year off from school due to medical reasons. During that time they got close to another person lets call … Continue reading #1021: “Pressured by a friend to hang out with someone I know doesn’t like me.”
Hello! Los Angeles trip was great. The Chris Killip exhibit at the Getty floored me. I am home now, under a cat. Let's awkward. Dear Captain Awkward, I have a friend who instantly escalates every interaction we have. Not in a confrontational way, but just that she always wants MORE MORE MORE. Imagine a scale of … Continue reading #1004: “The Escalator.”
Hi Capt, Surely this has been asked before, but I can't find anything this straightforward in the archive. What do you say when someone wants to be your friend but you just don't like them? I feel like at any given time there are a few people in my life who really want to be … Continue reading #977: “I just don’t want to be your friend:” “No thanks!” is NOT mean.
Hi Captain, I have a friend of 20 years who got married a few years ago to a man who has a total lack of boundaries. Their marriage coincided with a lot of bad things happening in my life (horrendous breakup and various other life circumstances), so when I relocated back to my home state … Continue reading #961: My friendship is being suffocated by my friend’s overbearing spouse.
Dear Captain Awkward, I have a situation that is getting very awkward indeed. In a few months, I will be going on vacation to Tokyo with my best friend. This has been a dream of ours for a long time, so we have a lot of plans. A coworker – with whom I’m friendly, but … Continue reading #942: “A coworker invited herself along on my vacation.”