#1168 and #1169: Friendship, Conversation, and TAKING TURNS

Here is #1168: "Is it unreasonable to want your friend to feign polite interest in your interests?" Hey Captain, I (she/her) have a close friend (he/they) who I've known for going on six years now. We originally met through real life things and bonded over having similar fandom-adjacent interests, although over the last few years … Continue reading #1168 and #1169: Friendship, Conversation, and TAKING TURNS

#1163: “I’m screamingly jealous of my sister’s fiancé.”

Dear Captain Awkward, My sister is 37 and I (also female) am 34. We share an apartment and consider ourselves best friends. We’ve both had bad luck with relationships, and I had quietly given up on either of us marrying. But in the past few months she has finally found love and is now engaged. … Continue reading #1163: “I’m screamingly jealous of my sister’s fiancé.”

#1161: “Being the New Kid in my partner’s friend group, four years in, with a jillion weddings and other events on the horizon.”

Dear Captain Awkward, I'm reaching out because, while this is a relatively specific scenario, I'm sure a lot of people feel this way at one time or another. My partner's old friend group never really warmed to me when I first moved here, and I let that be okay because I knew his ex was … Continue reading #1161: “Being the New Kid in my partner’s friend group, four years in, with a jillion weddings and other events on the horizon.”

#1159: “Dude is misrepresenting me as an excuse to harass women. How do I stop it?”

Dear Captain, There’s a guy, let’s call him Ted, who I’ve known for about 15 years and hasn’t been in a relationship during that time but sometimes pursues them, always with much younger women. His feelings are never reciprocated and that’s partly because Ted comes across as…well, a bit creepy and patronising towards women in … Continue reading #1159: “Dude is misrepresenting me as an excuse to harass women. How do I stop it?”

#1120: The Creepy Guy In The Friend Group, Revisited: Four More Geek Social Fallacies

Content note: After the jump I mention Rape Threats Dudes Have Sent Me for saying what I think about creepy dudes. Dear Captain, Over the past several years I've drifted to the periphery of a friend group where one member is a sexist creep. I immediately found him slimy and pushy and off-putting upon meeting … Continue reading #1120: The Creepy Guy In The Friend Group, Revisited: Four More Geek Social Fallacies