"They bite, and are a total asshole with no home training, but I love them anyway" is for adorable cats you adopt out of the trash, not for friends. And when friends come over, those cats go in a nice room with water and a litter box and a door that closes.
Sometimes the enemy of your enemy is not your friend, and that's okay. Content note for mention (but not details) of past abusive relationships.
The Geek Social Fallacies are powerful, but they are not invincible.
It is okay to enjoy slightly different vacationing rules than other people.
Nobody loves separating the books and dishtowels, but when it's time, it's time.
Answers to unpublishable questions, like a New Year's cleanse for upsetting letters.
Are you overreacting or are you just reacting to evidence of observed behavior and patterns?
Your partner's ex, your partner's friend group, your partner's life choices are your partner's job to manage.
"Good news, I finally persuaded my fiancée to let me sleep with other people, now we can finally act out all my fantasies about you over Zoom!" Whoa, seems sexy!
"Inside this lady are two bigots, one is capable of acting nice sometimes and the other is not, don't feed either of them with your time, sympathy, or attention."