#929: “I said I’d be in someone’s wedding even though I wanted to fade out on our friendship. Now what?”

Dear Captain, I have a school friend, “Susan.” We met last year when I started the program. Around the time this school year started, I started therapy to address Issues, and I came to the decision that Susan should become a Small Doses Friend. I find Susan kind of draining to interact with, and I … Continue reading #929: “I said I’d be in someone’s wedding even though I wanted to fade out on our friendship. Now what?”

#898: “My friend’s wife loathes at least half of us but comes to our weekly games night to hang out anyway.”

Hi Captain Awkward, I have a good female friend, V. Friend V has a wife, O. Every weekend, all of our friends group and SO's will get together Saturday night to hang out, have a drink and play games. This is great. What is not so great is that O has privately reached out to … Continue reading #898: “My friend’s wife loathes at least half of us but comes to our weekly games night to hang out anyway.”

#888 & #889: “That thing you did is not cool, friend.”

Blanket statement: Friendships have to be able to withstand boundary-setting and communications that certain behaviors are not cool, like "You are hurting my feelings" or "That thing you did is not okay, could you stop?" If you are always biting your tongue when the other person hurts your feelings, what you have is not a … Continue reading #888 & #889: “That thing you did is not cool, friend.”

#873: “My friend might be pregnant and our friends are not taking it well.”

Dear Captain, I'm a longtime reader, and love your blog! I'm an older college student whose school friends are all in the 17-20 range. They're pretty mature for their ages, though by virtue of more life experience I often fill a mentor/counselor/older sibling role for them. One of them has recently realized she might be … Continue reading #873: “My friend might be pregnant and our friends are not taking it well.”

#776: “How do I help my recovering friend navigate a visit with his abusive family?”

Hi Captain My best friend, "Toby" has been living in my city for about a year now and over that time he's gone from being homeless and alcoholic to having a sweet flat and ten months of sobriety under his belt. I'm trying to be as engaged in his recovery and support as possible because … Continue reading #776: “How do I help my recovering friend navigate a visit with his abusive family?”

#763: Being supportive when your friend’s troubles are of their own making.

Greetings Captain! I don't know how to be a good friend to my best friend, who I will call Belinda, right now. Basically, she is living with a friend and Belinda has been flirting with / sexting with this friend's, who I will call Tabitha, husband behind Tabitha's back. Tabitha just told Belinda - via … Continue reading #763: Being supportive when your friend’s troubles are of their own making.

#755: “Cool story(s), friend. Can someone else talk now?”

Dear Captain and Awkward Army, My roommate and friend, Pat, is lonely and under socialized. Not always, but often, when Pat enters a conversation, he does not respond to the organic flow of the conversation or attempts to change the subject. Instead, he will wait until you are fished, then be like "Cool. So anyway, … Continue reading #755: “Cool story(s), friend. Can someone else talk now?”