Hi Captain - I have a question about keeping yourself sane while trying to get out of a bad situation. I'm trying to leave my job. Everyone I work with is too. I'm at a very small startup, and the main person in charge is both incredibly demanding and extremely volatile, which makes it virtually … Continue reading #934: “How do I keep myself together in order to leave a toxic work situation?”
Update from LW below! Dear Captain, I love your site and have read 99% of your archive. I love the honesty and practicality of your responses and find a lot of helpful truth in them. This one, though, is stymieing me. I have built a career that has been very successful and train people in … Continue reading #854: “Is it ethical to ‘fire’ a disruptive workshop participant?”
i.e. "Your Old High School Friend Is Not A Pacifier" Dear Captain, I have a dilemma I hope you can help me with. I seem to have acquired an internet friend with needs a bit beyond my capacity. I've struggled with depression all of my adult life. Fairly recently I decided to go on medication, … Continue reading #847: “I’ve become an impromptu therapist for an internet stranger.”
Captain, I have a question about dealing with a Geek Social Fallacy #5 carrier, with a work-related twist. I have a live-in position and a good working relationship with the other live-in staff members. Naturally we often spend our free time together, sometimes as a large group get-together but more often in smaller groups of … Continue reading #593: “You’re not invited”, a “use your words” classic.
Hi Captain, I have a friend. He's a reasonably good friend and has been there for me during some tough times. Which is why I feel guilty about what I'm about to say. For the last year or so, we’ve spent a lot of time together chatting and hanging out. We had some sexual tension … Continue reading #587: Renegotiating a friendship with Velcro Victor
My feet are cold, but my heart is warm thanks to the generosity of the Winter Pledge Drive contributors. Thank you so much! Support the site if you can! Today's letter is about money and family and when those things come together in a manipulative and possibly sinister way. Dear Captain Awkward, My parents passed … Continue reading #541: What kind of financial “help” do I “owe” my uncle?
Dear Cap'n, I don't know how best to help my DH. This message follows us having a long, slightly drunk but happy and loving chat about his life. DH's family history is complicated. His upbringing includes some things which, when we talk about them, he agrees were "probably abuse", but explains that he's somewhat normalised … Continue reading #467: How do I help my partner communicate better with his family?
Before we jump into sad, serious things, Gollum dreamed a dream (of coming to your party?) Courtesy of my friend @spyscribe. You guys watch The Lizzie Bennet Diaries, right? Now, some letters about living situations gone bad (#451) and very, very bad (#452). Dearest Captain, I need some help with relationship ambivalence. It's been 3 years … Continue reading Cohabitation Situations: Ambivalence Deliverance (#451) & Eviction Prescription (#452)
Hey Capt., Cliff notes. My sister got pregnant three years in a row, giving birth to three healthy babies by c-section. With baby 1 she was put into bed rest almost immediately and I was assigned to make sure she didn't jeopardize her or the baby's health. This was a difficult task only made worse … Continue reading #418: My mom wants me to prioritize caring for my sister over caring for myself. What do I do?
Hi! This is very sweet, right? But don't spring it on someone the first or second time you meet them. Friend-date people for a little while and if you're meant to be friends you will totally figure it out. Dear Captain Awkward: I ended my first romantic relationship earlier this year. I'm in my early … Continue reading #407: Was I “leading this guy on” when I asked him if we could be friends and then he suddenly showed up where I live?