Do you want friends, as in autonomous human beings, or do you want an app that provides daily affirmations and asks no questions?
#1388: “A woman wants to bond with me over our shared history of an abusive man – and I’m struggling to be polite while also maintaining boundaries.”
Sometimes the enemy of your enemy is not your friend, and that's okay. Content note for mention (but not details) of past abusive relationships.
#1341: “How to keep the DRAMA out of drama?”
"Why is EVERYONE creating so much DRAMA?" -The Hot Mess Who Both Smelt It And Dealt It, usually
#1305: “Please help me close up the proverbial ‘woodwork’.”
"Say, Old Bean, it was really fun to have sex for a while, but I'm going to need you to find a new topic of conversation."
#1300: “Chronically-single abuse survivor tired of dating disasters.”
What if a) loneliness really sucks and b) finding romantic love is not primarily an internal and external makeover project?
#1298: “Could my adult friend have been grooming me for years?”
The subject line says it all, for content warning purposes, though if it helps: The Letter Writer sent the person packing and it was not a *successful* grooming attempt.
#1295: “Is my boyfriend a jerk or am I just Too Sensitive?”
#1286: “How do I create good art when life is tough and might not get easier?”
Dear Captain, The situation: I (she/her) am a homemaker and mum to a toddler. I’ve suffered from depression, anxiety, and fibromyalgia for eighteen years, aka my entire adult life and then some. I’m on meds and pretty much a self-care rockstar, but I still spend LOTS of time and energy coping with pain, fatigue, dizziness, … Continue reading #1286: “How do I create good art when life is tough and might not get easier?”
#1265: Guest Post: Lockdown Co-Parenting: Can I Please Get Some Alone Time? #COVID-19
Hey Captain! I (she/her) really appreciated your response to Miserable In Quarantine. My partner (he/him) and I are fortunately getting along better than ever. It’s nice to remember that we are friends first with all this extra time. Even with (especially with) all this extra closeness, my partner and I totally agree with the importance … Continue reading #1265: Guest Post: Lockdown Co-Parenting: Can I Please Get Some Alone Time? #COVID-19
#1256: Boundaries and parenting, when the adult child might be the problem
Dear Captain, I have read and enjoyed your advice site for several years and appreciate all the work and thought you put into each situation and your response. That being said, as someone who is on the far side of 50, I have noticed that the vast majority of your current audience seems interested in … Continue reading #1256: Boundaries and parenting, when the adult child might be the problem