Update for #1208: “Question about Mom-friends being Too….’Mothering.'”

Once upon a time, a kind reader wrote in for advice about her friend, "Mary." Mary just cared about the Letter Writer SO MUCH, you see, that she felt entitled to advise her on any and all of life's challenges, kiss her on the top of the head, take over in the kitchen, recount a … Continue reading Update for #1208: “Question about Mom-friends being Too….’Mothering.'”

#1297: My friends had a huge falling-out with my wife. Can we ever be friends again?

Content note for mention of suicidal ideation, and reminder that roommate fights are for "It's your turn to buy toilet paper," not "It actually oppresses me when your face does that." Dear Captain Awkward, I have a question about reconciling with friends when everyone involved has made mistakes. Sorry this is so long... My wife … Continue reading #1297: My friends had a huge falling-out with my wife. Can we ever be friends again?

#1280: “Am I a terrible daughter for moving out and leaving my mom to care for my grandma?”

Hi Captain, I'm the youngest kid in a South Asian family. I've lived with my parents for four years because I have a career in the arts and have only recently started to earn enough money to pay rent and also, like, eat. I've also stayed with them this long because my frail grandma lives … Continue reading #1280: “Am I a terrible daughter for moving out and leaving my mom to care for my grandma?”

#1277: “Abuse, agency, and the limits of advice.”

Behind a cut for mention of physical and emotional abuse of adult children by parents as well as some frustrations and victim-blaming attitudes that are common in friends and support networks of people who are embroiled in abusive situations. Abusers ruin everything, pretty much. Dear Captain Awkward, I (31, nb, he/him) have a friend who … Continue reading #1277: “Abuse, agency, and the limits of advice.”

#1276: “Setting boundaries when there’s a significant power difference (and you’re the one with less)”

Hi Captain, I’m wondering if you have a script for setting boundaries where there’s a significant power differential. Briefly, I’ve recently hired a lawyer who specializes in disability rights to represent me in a human rights case against a corporation that discriminated against me based on my mental health disability. The lawyer is very competent, … Continue reading #1276: “Setting boundaries when there’s a significant power difference (and you’re the one with less)”

#1270: “My mom has always hated my boyfriend. Now she says it’s because he resembles someone who abused her.”

Behind a cut for mention of child abuse, sexual abuse, and abuse from a therapist. See also, bullying about weight and fat-shaming. Basically a bingo card of triggering, problematic shit and a very awesome Letter Writer trying to handle it all gracefully. ❤ Dear Captain Awkward, I (31/she) started seeing my partner/boyfriend (33/he) in January … Continue reading #1270: “My mom has always hated my boyfriend. Now she says it’s because he resembles someone who abused her.”

#1248: “How to set boundaries with someone who just doesn’t listen to me?”

This is another one in a series about difficult parent relationships: A dad who wants to talk on the phone for hours about only the things he wants to talk about and who reminds his daughter, when she tries to set boundaries, that he has nobody else to talk to. It's about guilt and about … Continue reading #1248: “How to set boundaries with someone who just doesn’t listen to me?”