#1147: “My lover wants me to keep our relationship secret from his ex and kids.”

Hello! I'm sorry, this is complicated. I am in my late thirties and have fallen in love for the first time in my life. We have been in love for a year. I believe he is the love of my life, which I have never believed about anybody, and he believes that I am his. … Continue reading #1147: “My lover wants me to keep our relationship secret from his ex and kids.”

It Came From The Search Terms: Flaming September

Hello friends! It's that time, where we answer the things people typed into search engines as if they were questions. It's a good way to check in with people's preoccupations on a large, anonymous scale and it's usually pretty fun. First, as is traditional, a song: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QZCiMp7F65o (Lyrics at the YouTube link) Also I know … Continue reading It Came From The Search Terms: Flaming September

Short Answer Friday! Reading a story tonight! Kittens! Exclamation points!

Hello readers, You can submit questions at the Patreon thread (advantage: you get more than 280 characters and first dibs) or on Twitter (@CAwkward, #awkwardfriday). Submissions close at noon. FYI answers will slide slightly later today and probably won't be updated piece by piece since I have a last minute appointment at noon. Like, everything … Continue reading Short Answer Friday! Reading a story tonight! Kittens! Exclamation points!

Rule Explainer: Why We Don’t Diagnose People Through The Internet

There's a really interesting conversation about narcissism that popped up in a comment thread yesterday that made me think harder about the "Don't offer diagnoses for people based on letters or internet comments" rule we have here and I'd like to expand on it. At length. This rule has been in place almost from the … Continue reading Rule Explainer: Why We Don’t Diagnose People Through The Internet

#1126: “My Mother-In-Law won’t stop ‘helpfully’ commenting on my new Sister-In-Law’s body. Does she think we’re bonding?”

Hello! I had a kid about two years ago, and as a result have developed a much closer relationship to my mother-in-law. (I've been married to her son for eleven years now.) In many ways, this is great! She is a smart, serious, get-shit-done kind of person who was the first woman to do some … Continue reading #1126: “My Mother-In-Law won’t stop ‘helpfully’ commenting on my new Sister-In-Law’s body. Does she think we’re bonding?”

#1020: “Is this relationship doomed or do I just need to put in more work?”

Hiya Cap’n! I’ve been dating my boyfriend for just over three years, and after a stint of long-distance, the two of us have recently moved in together. Captain, it’s not going well. Most of the ways it’s not going well are problems on my end, though, and they’re all pretty minor, falling into the category … Continue reading #1020: “Is this relationship doomed or do I just need to put in more work?”

It Came From The Search Terms: Summer Pledge Drive Edition

I had a bunch of travel in July and never got that month's version up. So, here's another round of that thing where we answer people's search engine queries like blog questions. 1 "Awkward coworkers who wont get hint

." Hints don't work. They just create a sea of plausible deniability for clueless people to splash … Continue reading It Came From The Search Terms: Summer Pledge Drive Edition

#967: “Am I signing up to be a business partner or reluctant caretaker?”

Dear Captain Awkward, Almost a year and a half ago, while I was in tenuous material circumstances myself, my partner of less than a year got sick. One minute they were having a biopsy and the next minute they were fresh out of what turned out to be cancer surgery. Shocked, I didn't have the … Continue reading #967: “Am I signing up to be a business partner or reluctant caretaker?”

#966: “Boundaries, Love, Death, Denial, Manners, & Kink” or “1 Husband, 1 Lover, 1 Burned-Out Caregiver & The Next Five Years”

Hi Captain! All names have been changed to protect the guilty. Sorry this is long, but the backstory is rather necessary. I'm a 45 year old pansexual poly woman. I've been with Wolfie since I was 18, married him at 23, and had two sons with him, who are now both out of the house. … Continue reading #966: “Boundaries, Love, Death, Denial, Manners, & Kink” or “1 Husband, 1 Lover, 1 Burned-Out Caregiver & The Next Five Years”