#1204: “I’m losing my hearing and my patience with my dad’s girlfriend (among other things).”

Dear Captain Awkward I (she/her) am having some issues with my father's partner (also she/her). I don't know how much of my discomfort and dislike of the woman stems from the adolescent area of my brain screaming "you're not my mother, you don't get to tell me!" and how much of it is legitimate and … Continue reading #1204: “I’m losing my hearing and my patience with my dad’s girlfriend (among other things).”

#1168 and #1169: Friendship, Conversation, and TAKING TURNS

Here is #1168: "Is it unreasonable to want your friend to feign polite interest in your interests?" Hey Captain, I (she/her) have a close friend (he/they) who I've known for going on six years now. We originally met through real life things and bonded over having similar fandom-adjacent interests, although over the last few years … Continue reading #1168 and #1169: Friendship, Conversation, and TAKING TURNS

#1167: “Tips for staying positive when your body hates you.”

Dear Captain Awkward, Thanks so much for this blog! I read most of the archives during a recent overnight hospital stay and it really helped keep me entertained. I (she/her pronouns are fine) was a year away from completing my dissertation when my body rebelled. I have two very large liver adenomas, larger than the … Continue reading #1167: “Tips for staying positive when your body hates you.”

#1147: “My lover wants me to keep our relationship secret from his ex and kids.”

Hello! I'm sorry, this is complicated. I am in my late thirties and have fallen in love for the first time in my life. We have been in love for a year. I believe he is the love of my life, which I have never believed about anybody, and he believes that I am his. … Continue reading #1147: “My lover wants me to keep our relationship secret from his ex and kids.”

It Came From The Search Terms: Flaming September

Hello friends! It's that time, where we answer the things people typed into search engines as if they were questions. It's a good way to check in with people's preoccupations on a large, anonymous scale and it's usually pretty fun. First, as is traditional, a song: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QZCiMp7F65o (Lyrics at the YouTube link) Also I know … Continue reading It Came From The Search Terms: Flaming September

Short Answer Friday! Reading a story tonight! Kittens! Exclamation points!

Hello readers, You can submit questions at the Patreon thread (advantage: you get more than 280 characters and first dibs) or on Twitter (@CAwkward, #awkwardfriday). Submissions close at noon. FYI answers will slide slightly later today and probably won't be updated piece by piece since I have a last minute appointment at noon. Like, everything … Continue reading Short Answer Friday! Reading a story tonight! Kittens! Exclamation points!

Rule Explainer: Why We Don’t Diagnose People Through The Internet

There's a really interesting conversation about narcissism that popped up in a comment thread yesterday that made me think harder about the "Don't offer diagnoses for people based on letters or internet comments" rule we have here and I'd like to expand on it. At length. This rule has been in place almost from the … Continue reading Rule Explainer: Why We Don’t Diagnose People Through The Internet

#1126: “My Mother-In-Law won’t stop ‘helpfully’ commenting on my new Sister-In-Law’s body. Does she think we’re bonding?”

Hello! I had a kid about two years ago, and as a result have developed a much closer relationship to my mother-in-law. (I've been married to her son for eleven years now.) In many ways, this is great! She is a smart, serious, get-shit-done kind of person who was the first woman to do some … Continue reading #1126: “My Mother-In-Law won’t stop ‘helpfully’ commenting on my new Sister-In-Law’s body. Does she think we’re bonding?”

#1020: “Is this relationship doomed or do I just need to put in more work?”

Hiya Cap’n! I’ve been dating my boyfriend for just over three years, and after a stint of long-distance, the two of us have recently moved in together. Captain, it’s not going well. Most of the ways it’s not going well are problems on my end, though, and they’re all pretty minor, falling into the category … Continue reading #1020: “Is this relationship doomed or do I just need to put in more work?”