It Came From The Search Terms: Endless Summer

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5EVhiBGvVFc Video: Snappy dance music, Polish soccer, what's not to love? It's that time again, when we answer the things people typed into search engines like they are questions. 1. "Dating a Midwestern man" High probability of at least one of these things going on: beer, cheese, beards, & warm, burly hugs. What's not to … Continue reading It Came From The Search Terms: Endless Summer

#966: “Boundaries, Love, Death, Denial, Manners, & Kink” or “1 Husband, 1 Lover, 1 Burned-Out Caregiver & The Next Five Years”

Hi Captain! All names have been changed to protect the guilty. Sorry this is long, but the backstory is rather necessary. I'm a 45 year old pansexual poly woman. I've been with Wolfie since I was 18, married him at 23, and had two sons with him, who are now both out of the house. … Continue reading #966: “Boundaries, Love, Death, Denial, Manners, & Kink” or “1 Husband, 1 Lover, 1 Burned-Out Caregiver & The Next Five Years”

#943: “I’m being pressured by my family to reconcile with my estranged grandmother now that she’s dying.”

Hello, Preferred pronouns: they/them I found out a few weeks ago that my grandmother was in the hospital due to an illness. This surprised me, but I also knew she was getting older. I decided I needed to start thinking if I wanted reconciliation. When I was around 12 or 13, I purposefully discontinued all … Continue reading #943: “I’m being pressured by my family to reconcile with my estranged grandmother now that she’s dying.”

#938: “My husband is dying and does not want to tell his parents. Should I intervene?”

Dear Captain-- My husband was diagnosed with lung cancer last spring. At the time, it was considered not the worst possible type of cancer and he had a 70% chance of going into remission. He chose not to tell either of his parents (who have been divorced for 45 years) or anyone else on his … Continue reading #938: “My husband is dying and does not want to tell his parents. Should I intervene?”

#932: “My deceased Aunt was having an affair with a married dude. Should I tell his wife?”

Content Note: Violent death, mentioned in passing. Hi, I have a moral quandary. My Aunt O was murdered a few weeks ago (my cousin had a psychotic break and killed her -- it's as awful as it sounds but that part doesn't come in here) so our family has been going through her things. One … Continue reading #932: “My deceased Aunt was having an affair with a married dude. Should I tell his wife?”

#896: “One wedding, one funeral, and a crapton of sibling conflict.”

Dear Captain Awkward, My brother died suddenly in an accident in May. He was my only full sibling. The only sibling I grew up with and lived with. I also have 3 older half siblings from my father’s first marriage- we’re not super close, we see each other at holidays and text quarterly updates. After … Continue reading #896: “One wedding, one funeral, and a crapton of sibling conflict.”

#817: “Death, strained relationships, and ‘what if?'”

Dear Captain Awkward, I wrote letter #243: Mother's Day: Not Always a Holiday and...Biological Mom passed away suddenly last weekend. I can't pretend my relationship with Biological Mom wasn't fraught with heartache, disappointment, and a lot of sadness...but her sudden death has brought the painful emotions of the abuse, the disappointment of choices, questioning the … Continue reading #817: “Death, strained relationships, and ‘what if?'”

#748: I feel responsible for my friend’s suicide and his family agrees.

Behind a cut for a discussion of suicidal ideation, obsession, and suicide. The post has been edited a bit from its original form thanks to constructive feedback from commenters on ways that word use heightened stigma around mental illness around suicide. I deeply apologize and hope that this draft serves the LW without making the … Continue reading #748: I feel responsible for my friend’s suicide and his family agrees.