Hi Cap’n. Here is issue: My partners’ ex, and boundaries. I have great relationships with my exes, I think it’s healthy and awesome. This is a new and different world, apparently. My partner's most recent ex is in our lives a LOT. There are good reasons for this that go beyond their ongoing friendship, but … Continue reading #1085: “My partner keeps inviting his ex-girlfriend to stay with us and by stay with us I mean ‘in our bed.'”
Dear Captain Awkward, I've been dating this guy for 3 months now. He has this pattern of disappearing for a couple of days and then come back. At the beginning he was all super flirty on text and showered me with compliments and sent each other snaps and nudes and said all the sweet things … Continue reading #1037: “What should I do when the guy I like ghosts on me?”
Dear Captain Awkward: I have been engaged for 1 1/2 years now. We are both in our 40's and have been married before. I have no contact with my ex. When my fiancé and I first got together I made the mistake of discussing things from my previous marriage. There was nothing good about my … Continue reading #1032: “Fiancé thinks I’m still in love with the ex!”
Dear Captain, I am currently with someone whom I know is completely toxic for me. He's selfish, emotionally unavailable, dismissive of my needs and feelings, and apparently very depressed due to recently losing his career and having trouble finding a job. Even when things were good, he spent most of his time alternately being unwilling … Continue reading #1029: “I know this relationship is over, why can’t I let go?”
This is an amalgamation of actual letters in my actual inbox: Dear Captain Awkward, I'm dating someone wonderful who really loves me, he (IT'S ALWAYS HE, DON'T @ME) but he has terrible political views, like, he thinks immigrants and black people and women and gay people and trans people aren't really people something something about … Continue reading So, about those pesky Nazis again.
Dear Captain Awkward, What do you do if your significant other thinks that you will go no where with your dream? My boyfriend is a well known, local photographer. He does mainly fashion photo-shoots and is honestly, very talented at what he does. I'm newly, discovering modeling. I had tried it before when I was … Continue reading #1002: “My boyfriend doesn’t believe in my dreams.”
You read that right. Welcome. Dear Captain Awkward, I am a 34 year old straight woman in an open marriage with a 39 year straight man. I have taken far more advantage of the openness of our marriage than my husband, at least until recently. I have had a string of long-term affairs and short-term … Continue reading #992: “My husband is dating my mom.”
#TFG = #thatfuckingguy Ahoy, Captain! I would appreciate any advice you could give on supporting a friend (female pronouns) who is not yet ready to leave an unhealthy relationship with her boyfriend. This has been an ongoing issue for about 2 years, but something happened a few days ago and I could use an outside … Continue reading #981: Watching from the sidelines in horror: How do I be a supportive friend to my friend who’s involved with #TFG?
Hi, Captain! I've got a nice, awkward, many-years-running situation for you! So when I was in my early 20s, I dated someone I shouldn't have dated, whom I'll call Dean. I dated him for five years. At the time, I was so isolated where I lived that it became a kind of "well, it's better … Continue reading #972: The Return of the Draining Boyfriend Of Yore
hi captain, i want to thank you so much for your website and lovely community and i hope this message finds you well. i'm having a hard time sorting through some relationship stuff and i'm hoping for some clarity. i'm dating a very sweet and loving man who is still dealing every day with mental … Continue reading #954: “I know that ‘a girlfriend is not a pacifier’ but I’m worried that I’m becoming a pacifier for my partner.”