#1236: “My ex keeps gnawing at the edges of my work and social life.”

Behind a cut for mention of consent violations. Hi Captain, I (she/her) divorced my ex (he/him) a year ago. There were a lot of reasons, but one reason was constant sexual pressure to perform and do things I don't enjoy. This pressure usually took the form of guilt trips, but once escalated to a situation … Continue reading #1236: “My ex keeps gnawing at the edges of my work and social life.”

It Came From The Search Terms: The Last Day In May

Hello gentle friends, it's time for that thing where we treat the things people typed into their search engines to find this place as if they are questions in their own right. As is traditional, we begin with a tune: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Hi5A9OCAyIk   Then we begin the no-context guessing games and assumptions! 1 "Adult male using … Continue reading It Came From The Search Terms: The Last Day In May

#1149: “We decided to leave our abusive ex and move to another state, only she came with us and is living on our couch?”

This letter contains emotional abuse of people, potential physical harm of animals (now stopped/interrupted/not ongoing/the animals are ok for now!, but still I know some people can't safely read about that), and enough WHAT THE FUCK that you'll need a comfy chair and a cold washcloth, at minimum. If you want the teachable moment without … Continue reading #1149: “We decided to leave our abusive ex and move to another state, only she came with us and is living on our couch?”

#1147: “My lover wants me to keep our relationship secret from his ex and kids.”

Hello! I'm sorry, this is complicated. I am in my late thirties and have fallen in love for the first time in my life. We have been in love for a year. I believe he is the love of my life, which I have never believed about anybody, and he believes that I am his. … Continue reading #1147: “My lover wants me to keep our relationship secret from his ex and kids.”

#1144: “My best friend is having ex-sex and I don’t know how to support her.”

Dear Captain Awkward, A couple of months ago, one of my best friends (we'll call her Beth) and her partner (we'll call him Dylan) broke up. Beth and Dylan had been together for six years and living together for five. They seemed to have a pretty good relationship, although Dylan dominated the apartment with his … Continue reading #1144: “My best friend is having ex-sex and I don’t know how to support her.”

#1085: “My partner keeps inviting his ex-girlfriend to stay with us and by stay with us I mean ‘in our bed.'”

Hi Cap’n.  Here is issue: My partners’ ex, and boundaries. I have great relationships with my exes, I think it’s healthy and awesome. This is a new and different world, apparently. My partner's most recent ex is in our lives a LOT. There are good reasons for this that go beyond their ongoing friendship, but … Continue reading #1085: “My partner keeps inviting his ex-girlfriend to stay with us and by stay with us I mean ‘in our bed.'”

#1037: “What should I do when the guy I like ghosts on me?”

Dear Captain Awkward, I've been dating this guy for 3 months now. He has this pattern of disappearing for a couple of days and then come back. At the beginning he was all super flirty on text and showered me with compliments and sent each other snaps and nudes and said all the sweet things … Continue reading #1037: “What should I do when the guy I like ghosts on me?”