It is time to celebrate the mostly-monthly ritual of rounding up the snippets that people typed into search engines to find this place and answering them like questions. Please enjoy this jazzy bittersweet tune about lost love and memory (When April Comes Again, sung by Mel Tormé). https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pZ48CqWjPmM 1 "How to get over a … Continue reading It Came From The Search Terms: “When April Comes Again”
As promised, Lenée's regular writing project has launched at RaisingMothers.com, starting with a beautiful essay about ambivalence toward becoming a parent and figuring out the right choice for herself. Did you know there is an advice column devoted to helping you find just the right poem for a given situation? This weekend I vomited a … Continue reading Monday Links!
Hello readers! I'm excited to get back into the blogging swing next week, but first, some chitchat! Medical News: Surgery went fine, all is well as can be though last week sucked so bad as my body tried to decide between "pain regulation" and "all other bodily functions." I'm back to my normal routine, got … Continue reading Friday Updates & Open Thread
Dear Captain Awkward, I have a great younger brother who realized he was gay and came out a few years ago in his mid-twenties, which was met generally with cheerful support by family and friends. Coming out really kickstarted his interest in social justice issues, which is awesome; we both grew up in a fairly … Continue reading #1190 Guest Post: “When ‘Woke’ Becomes A Fetish”
Dear Captain Awkward, I've met somebody lovely and we're getting married in the summer. (My pronouns: she/her, my fiancee's: they/them) I'm thrilled to celebrate with all my family and friends...except one person. My uncle has mainlined Fox News for longer than I've been alive and has selected me, his queer, liberal niece, as a prime … Continue reading #1189: “Fox News, Immigrant Family, and the F******* Wedding Invite List”
Hi Captain, My estranged father is about to die (I am working with family to make the degree of peace with which I feel comfortable). My mother died about a decade ago. Besides the problem of anticipatory grieving and emotions feelings around an estrangement, I am struggling with a desire not to go to his … Continue reading #1187: “People from my past at my estranged father’s funeral (do not want).”
Hi Captain! My fiancé (they/them) and I (she/her) recently bought a house. My little sister (she/her) also lives with us. It’s awesome. We throw parties, where people drink (sometimes a lot – fiancé and sister are college students, I’m a few years older) and hang out. We’re planning on implementing a house rule where people … Continue reading #1185: “Need scripts for moderating how much guests drink in my home.”
Dear Captain, I'm graduating from college very soon, and I'll be the first in my immediate family to do so. This road has been a long one, and I am so happy to finally be done. I've had amazing support from key people in my life, aka: My Home Team-- a mix of family and … Continue reading #1180 & #1181: Graduation Days
It's time to answer the things people typed into search engines as if they are questions. Here is a seasonal jam by The Avett Brothers: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rkVM4AxzxCE Lyrics are here. 1 "I can't stand going to my friend's house because she smokes inside." Legit! I have a very hard time with smoke (asthma trigger), the same … Continue reading It Came From The Search Terms: February Seven
Hello Captain, I've got a few older women in my life who keep talking to me like I'm one of their kids. It's either unsolicited advice or outright orders in a snotty tone. One of these women volunteers at the same place I do. She orders people around constantly, is generally rude and condescending, and … Continue reading #1176: The limits of respecting one’s elders just ’cause they are elders.