#1222: “Love my family, hate my mean red-pilling brother who is always around.”

Behind a cut for emotional abuse, misogyny, and discussion of these things as specifically related to recent gun violence and the possibility thereof, which is not what the Letter Writer asked, but definitely something I saw in the question. I did a giant dump of cat photos for patrons if you need to click on … Continue reading #1222: “Love my family, hate my mean red-pilling brother who is always around.”

Short Question & Answer Friday, July 26, 2019: Part 1 of 2

Hello! It's time for the monthly ritual where I answer short questions and give priority to the patrons who keep the lights on and the web-hamsters running. We've got twelve questions this week, I've written up the first batch and will post the rest later in the weekend. Topics: Passive-aggressive coworkers, celebrating a climb out … Continue reading Short Question & Answer Friday, July 26, 2019: Part 1 of 2

Birthday Blues Bulletin Board: Advice + Open Thread

I'm accumulating questions from people about birthday stuff, and Mr. Awkward just had a birthday (jaunty photo at link) so we're gonna talk about birthday stuff. The questions are along the lines of: "I make a big deal out of my spouse's birthday, they treat mine like an afterthought (if they remember at all)." "I've … Continue reading Birthday Blues Bulletin Board: Advice + Open Thread

#1203: “I’m getting married to God. How do I tell my family they’re not invited?”

Hi Captain! I'm 24 years old, and next year I'm undergoing the "consecration of virgins" ceremony from Catholic tradition, where essentially I agree to give up romantic attatchments and "marry" myself to God, like halfway to being a nun. I'm very excited about this, and have already started plans for the ceremony, including dresses and … Continue reading #1203: “I’m getting married to God. How do I tell my family they’re not invited?”

IT’S MOTHEREFFING WEDDING SEASON AGAIN, SO LET’S CHAT

:Captain Awkward Opens Mailbox: :Captain Awkward Stares At Mailbox: CONGRATULATIONS, ALL YOU BEAUTIFUL PEOPLE GETTING MARRIED SOON. Let's talk about some stuff I know about weddings. This is probably my one wedding-related post for at least the remainder of 2019. I'm going to try to hit all the bases I know how to help with. … Continue reading IT’S MOTHEREFFING WEDDING SEASON AGAIN, SO LET’S CHAT

Books: “What My Mother And I Don’t Talk About: Fifteen Writers Break the Silence”

"Sometimes I imagine what it would be like to give this book to my mother. To present it to her as a precious gift over a meal that I’ve cooked for her. To say: Here is everything that keeps us from really talking. Here is my heart. Here are my words. I wrote this for … Continue reading Books: “What My Mother And I Don’t Talk About: Fifteen Writers Break the Silence”

It Came From The Search Terms: “When April Comes Again”

It is time to celebrate the mostly-monthly ritual of rounding up the snippets that people typed into search engines to find this place and answering them like questions. Please enjoy this jazzy bittersweet tune about lost love and memory (When April Comes Again, sung by Mel Tormé). https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pZ48CqWjPmM   1 "How to get over a … Continue reading It Came From The Search Terms: “When April Comes Again”

Monday Links!

As promised, Lenée's regular writing project has launched at RaisingMothers.com, starting with a beautiful essay about ambivalence toward becoming a parent and figuring out the right choice for herself. Did you know there is an advice column devoted to helping you find just the right poem for a given situation? This weekend I vomited a … Continue reading Monday Links!