#1175: “My teenager says their father (my ex of 1.5 decades) is sending me a V-Day Present. Help!”

Dear Captain Awkward, My teenager has informed me that their father told them he plans to mail me jewelry for Valentine's Day. Their father and I have been divorced for nearly a decade and a half and I've been in three committed, long-term relationships in that time. I have less-than-zero interest in my ex-husband romantically … Continue reading #1175: “My teenager says their father (my ex of 1.5 decades) is sending me a V-Day Present. Help!”

#1159: “Dude is misrepresenting me as an excuse to harass women. How do I stop it?”

Dear Captain, There’s a guy, let’s call him Ted, who I’ve known for about 15 years and hasn’t been in a relationship during that time but sometimes pursues them, always with much younger women. His feelings are never reciprocated and that’s partly because Ted comes across as…well, a bit creepy and patronising towards women in … Continue reading #1159: “Dude is misrepresenting me as an excuse to harass women. How do I stop it?”

#1148: “Navigating the aftermath of the abuse in the social circle.”

Hey there, Captain Awkward - My dear roommate (Clay)'s ex-boyfriend was abusive. He had mental health issues, and emotionally manipulated roommate (they/them) in various ways. I spent a lot of time helping my roommate to process the feels and vulnerabilities emerging around what happened in their relationship - and potentially over invested myself in their … Continue reading #1148: “Navigating the aftermath of the abuse in the social circle.”

It Came From The Search Terms: Flaming September

Hello friends! It's that time, where we answer the things people typed into search engines as if they were questions. It's a good way to check in with people's preoccupations on a large, anonymous scale and it's usually pretty fun. First, as is traditional, a song: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QZCiMp7F65o (Lyrics at the YouTube link) Also I know … Continue reading It Came From The Search Terms: Flaming September

Short Answer Friday/Chat – August 3 – Pledge Drive Concludes

Hello, it's on! Patrons can submit questions here (advantage: 1st dibs, more words). Anyone/Everyone can submit on Twitter (@CAwkward, #awkwardfriday), questions close at noon Chicago time, I answer as many as I can and update as I go between noon and 1pm. Whatever I don't have time for gets held over for next week. Comments … Continue reading Short Answer Friday/Chat – August 3 – Pledge Drive Concludes

#1127: “I think my friend is falling in love with me and I don’t feel the same way.”

Dear Captain, Nearly 2 years ago I joined a MMORPG community for the first time. Through a series of events, I met a guy who has become one of my best friends. We are bizarrely similar at times and he's really been there for me. It started out just online but we now have each … Continue reading #1127: “I think my friend is falling in love with me and I don’t feel the same way.”

#1122: “I ghosted a guy three years ago. Now he’s back! What do I owe him?”

Dear Captain, A bit over 3 years ago, I (she/her) went out with a guy (he/him) I met through an online dating site. We had some drinks, slept together, and then I basically ghosted him - ignored a couple of texts, then moved out of the country, changed my number, and never thought about him … Continue reading #1122: “I ghosted a guy three years ago. Now he’s back! What do I owe him?”

#1120: The Creepy Guy In The Friend Group, Revisited: Four More Geek Social Fallacies

Content note: After the jump I mention Rape Threats Dudes Have Sent Me for saying what I think about creepy dudes. Dear Captain, Over the past several years I've drifted to the periphery of a friend group where one member is a sexist creep. I immediately found him slimy and pushy and off-putting upon meeting … Continue reading #1120: The Creepy Guy In The Friend Group, Revisited: Four More Geek Social Fallacies