When someone is consistently mean to you, and you say "if you keep being mean to me, we might have to break up," may I humbly suggest that you are not The Problem.
Category: control
#1381: “How to make someone known for going back on their promises put a big financial promise into writing.”
The answer to "how to make someone _____" is almost always, "Sorry, you can't make anybody do anything."
It Came From The Search Terms: It’s Gonna Be May
Search strings, snap judgments. Comments are on, for a change!
#1374: “Help, a tutor keeps asking me for personal details.”
"Tell me your phone number and exactly where you live so I can judge if you are a SERIOUS STUDENT." Yikes.
#1358: GUEST POST: “I think my professors $#@%-ed me up.”
Thriller author Amy Gentry answers this letter about abusive professors who feed like vampires on the potential of their students.
It Came From The Search Terms: June 2021 Is Busting Out All Over
Soft rejections, mixing finances, and a primer for dealing with loaded questions.
#1316: “I finally have a friend and my wife is jealous.”
Feelings (jealousy, discomfort, biphobia) clean-up in Aisle 7.
#1298: “Could my adult friend have been grooming me for years?”
The subject line says it all, for content warning purposes, though if it helps: The Letter Writer sent the person packing and it was not a *successful* grooming attempt.
#1288: “Saying ‘No’ To The Dress & My Overbearing Sister”
The world is on fire (in some places, quite literally), but it's a weird sort of comforting to know that wedding planning can still bring out the family bullies and control freaks like nothing else.
#1283: “I need to resign as my friend’s son’s godmother.”
How do you back out when when someone manipulates you - successfully- into something you don't want to do? Plus, help for when you need to ghost a baby and his manipulative parents.