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Category: control

#1384: “Was I stating a boundary, or was I abusing?”

September 8, 2022September 8, 2022 ~ JenniferP

When someone is consistently mean to you, and you say "if you keep being mean to me, we might have to break up," may I humbly suggest that you are not The Problem.

#1381: “How to make someone known for going back on their promises put a big financial promise into writing.”

July 6, 2022July 6, 2022 ~ JenniferP

The answer to "how to make someone _____" is almost always, "Sorry, you can't make anybody do anything."

It Came From The Search Terms: It’s Gonna Be May

May 18, 2022 ~ JenniferP ~ 195 Comments

Search strings, snap judgments. Comments are on, for a change!

#1374: “Help, a tutor keeps asking me for personal details.”

May 10, 2022May 10, 2022 ~ JenniferP

"Tell me your phone number and exactly where you live so I can judge if you are a SERIOUS STUDENT." Yikes.

#1358: GUEST POST: “I think my professors $#@%-ed me up.”

December 20, 2021December 20, 2021 ~ JenniferP

Thriller author Amy Gentry answers this letter about abusive professors who feed like vampires on the potential of their students.

It Came From The Search Terms: June 2021 Is Busting Out All Over

June 16, 2021June 16, 2021 ~ JenniferP ~ 87 Comments

Soft rejections, mixing finances, and a primer for dealing with loaded questions.

#1316: “I finally have a friend and my wife is jealous.”

March 4, 2021March 4, 2021 ~ JenniferP

Feelings (jealousy, discomfort, biphobia) clean-up in Aisle 7.

#1298: “Could my adult friend have been grooming me for years?”

November 19, 2020November 20, 2020 ~ JenniferP ~ 1 Comment

The subject line says it all, for content warning purposes, though if it helps: The Letter Writer sent the person packing and it was not a *successful* grooming attempt. 

#1288: “Saying ‘No’ To The Dress & My Overbearing Sister”

September 8, 2020 ~ JenniferP ~ 1 Comment

The world is on fire (in some places, quite literally), but it's a weird sort of comforting to know that wedding planning can still bring out the family bullies and control freaks like nothing else. 

#1283: “I need to resign as my friend’s son’s godmother.”

July 20, 2020July 20, 2020 ~ JenniferP

How do you back out when when someone manipulates you - successfully- into something you don't want to do? Plus, help for when you need to ghost a baby and his manipulative parents.

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