Don't let a side quest for understanding get in the way of doing - or demanding - care and kindness.
Category: COMMUNICATION
#1363: “Am I overreacting to being constantly interrupted at work?”
To avoid the trap of trying to satisfy a group member who can never be satisfied, think about what you owe everybody else.
#1354: “Navigating social life after my partner’s recent cancer diagnosis.”
"Oh, we just tell people my partner is dying for funsies, that way we can hear all about yoga, religion, and diets in excruciating detail, I love getting medical advice from non-doctors!"
#1353: My friend always takes over a day to respond to messages.
If someone averages 36 hours between responses, what happens if you assume that their response time will be 36 hours?
#1343: “How do I make myself stand the person in the friend group I can’t really stand?”
It's okay if someone you strongly dislike gets an inkling that the feeling is mutual.
#1342: “Please help me stop people from assuming that my best friend and I are a couple.”
Like the creative writing workshop advice goes, if one person tells you a piece of feedback about your story, that's just their opinion, but if ten people give you the same note, there's probably something worth paying attention to on the input side.
#1339: Tired of “Moocher” Son-In-Law
Your house, your rules, so spell them out from now on and give your son-in-law a chance to surprise you.
It Came From The Search Terms: June 2021 Is Busting Out All Over
Soft rejections, mixing finances, and a primer for dealing with loaded questions.
#1334: “If someone keeps RSVP-ing “yes” but never attending, do I have to keep inviting them to stuff?”
Here is blanket permission to not worry very much about offending people who neither show up to your parties nor ever explain why.
#1322: “My friend’s (white female) roommate is a creepy creep.”
"Don't touch me" isn't complicated. You know who makes it complicated? CREEPS, THAT'S WHO.