Soft rejections, mixing finances, and a primer for dealing with loaded questions.
Here is blanket permission to not worry very much about offending people who neither show up to your parties nor ever explain why.
"Don't touch me" isn't complicated. You know who makes it complicated? CREEPS, THAT'S WHO.
"You dumped me, remember? Kindly sigh into someone else's moving boxes."
If you don't know what to say, revert to first principles: Something is probably better than nothing.
When you want to share an extremely mood-ruining thing (death of a parent) without ruining the mood: Be brief and direct, and let other people be nice to you for a minute.
The question u asked: "How do I decline future social invitations from people I don't like anymore?"
The question I answered: "It is okay to outgrow friendships and only RSVP 'yes' to the parties you want to attend."
"Say, Old Bean, it was really fun to have sex for a while, but I'm going to need you to find a new topic of conversation."
Greetings, it is the time for the periodic tradition where I answer search strings people typed in as if they are questions. First, I want to share a few links - Here I am at Vice, writing about family arguments, and I also want to call attention to S. Bear Bergman's recent post there: How … Continue reading It Came From The Search Terms: October Symphony (Oct. 2020)
Licensed therapist Rae McDaniel reminds a reader that discomfort is not harm, and trans people aren't messing up their family events by existing at them.