Soft rejections, mixing finances, and a primer for dealing with loaded questions.
Category: COMMUNICATION
#1334: “If someone keeps RSVP-ing “yes” but never attending, do I have to keep inviting them to stuff?”
Here is blanket permission to not worry very much about offending people who neither show up to your parties nor ever explain why.
#1322: “My friend’s (white female) roommate is a creepy creep.”
"Don't touch me" isn't complicated. You know who makes it complicated? CREEPS, THAT'S WHO.
#1320: “How to be fair to a co-habiting ex who dumped me, but is acting all sad that I’m moving out?”
"You dumped me, remember? Kindly sigh into someone else's moving boxes."
“I want to reach out but I have no idea what to say.”
If you don't know what to say, revert to first principles: Something is probably better than nothing.
#1315: How do I tell acquaintances about a death in the family without sounding dramatic?
When you want to share an extremely mood-ruining thing (death of a parent) without ruining the mood: Be brief and direct, and let other people be nice to you for a minute.
#1311: “I don’t wanna hang out post-pandemic.”
The question u asked: "How do I decline future social invitations from people I don't like anymore?"
The question I answered: "It is okay to outgrow friendships and only RSVP 'yes' to the parties you want to attend."
#1305: “Please help me close up the proverbial ‘woodwork’.”
"Say, Old Bean, it was really fun to have sex for a while, but I'm going to need you to find a new topic of conversation."
It Came From The Search Terms: October Symphony (Oct. 2020)
Greetings, it is the time for the periodic tradition where I answer search strings people typed in as if they are questions. First, I want to share a few links - Here I am at Vice, writing about family arguments, and I also want to call attention to S. Bear Bergman's recent post there: How … Continue reading It Came From The Search Terms: October Symphony (Oct. 2020)
#1293: “I’m worried my family’s anger about me being a trans man will overshadow my sister’s wedding.”
Licensed therapist Rae McDaniel reminds a reader that discomfort is not harm, and trans people aren't messing up their family events by existing at them.
