It Came From The Search Terms: Flaming September

Hello friends! It's that time, where we answer the things people typed into search engines as if they were questions. It's a good way to check in with people's preoccupations on a large, anonymous scale and it's usually pretty fun. First, as is traditional, a song: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QZCiMp7F65o (Lyrics at the YouTube link) Also I know … Continue reading It Came From The Search Terms: Flaming September

It Came From The Search Terms: August

It's time for that thing we do, where we use the search strings people typed in to find this place as if they were questions. First, as is traditional, a song: https://www.youtube.com/watch?time_continue=51&v=iBjo55ZvRnU Lyrics here. 1 "How to encourage husband to make friends." The subtext runs deep with this one, does it not? Like, where is … Continue reading It Came From The Search Terms: August

#1125: “I’m stressed and embarrassed whenever I have to go places with my bigoted parents.”

Behind a cut for the casual fatphobia, racism, and misogyny of entitled white folks of a certain age. Update: People are sharing some of the specific slurs and types of comments their bigoted relatives say and asking how to challenge those things esp. in the comments, so I would counsel POC and other marginalized folks … Continue reading #1125: “I’m stressed and embarrassed whenever I have to go places with my bigoted parents.”

#1120: The Creepy Guy In The Friend Group, Revisited: Four More Geek Social Fallacies

Content note: After the jump I mention Rape Threats Dudes Have Sent Me for saying what I think about creepy dudes. Dear Captain, Over the past several years I've drifted to the periphery of a friend group where one member is a sexist creep. I immediately found him slimy and pushy and off-putting upon meeting … Continue reading #1120: The Creepy Guy In The Friend Group, Revisited: Four More Geek Social Fallacies

#1087: “Girlfriend and I are getting a dog, and people are being weird about it.”

Dear Captain, My girlfriend and I are getting a dog (jeey!). We are both women and some people have commented this is like getting a baby for us. It hurts to think about us not being able to reproduce “just like” a man and woman would be. Do you have any tips about reacting to … Continue reading #1087: “Girlfriend and I are getting a dog, and people are being weird about it.”

It Came From The Search Terms: Summer Pledge Drive Edition

I had a bunch of travel in July and never got that month's version up. So, here's another round of that thing where we answer people's search engine queries like blog questions. 1 "Awkward coworkers who wont get hint

." Hints don't work. They just create a sea of plausible deniability for clueless people to splash … Continue reading It Came From The Search Terms: Summer Pledge Drive Edition

#1003: “Getting married in 30 days and the parent drama is making me wish we’d eloped.”

Dear Captain Awkward, My wedding is in a month.  There is new parental drama that makes me wish we were eloping.  How do I still enjoy my wedding? Fiancée and I are introverts and did not want a huge wedding.  My parents do not understand why we would not want 300 guests (despite numerous attempts … Continue reading #1003: “Getting married in 30 days and the parent drama is making me wish we’d eloped.”

#917: “How to set boundaries with people who think boundaries and hurt are manipulative? AKA Help implementing boundary advice?”

Hello, Cap and friends! I have a couple of questions about boundary-setting with people who don't believe in boundaries. The Awkward team's advice and scripts on setting boundaries have been so wonderfully helpful in my life, but what (if anything) can you say to people who believe that setting boundaries in a family is controlling? … Continue reading #917: “How to set boundaries with people who think boundaries and hurt are manipulative? AKA Help implementing boundary advice?”