It Came From The Search Terms: Flaming September

Hello friends! It's that time, where we answer the things people typed into search engines as if they were questions. It's a good way to check in with people's preoccupations on a large, anonymous scale and it's usually pretty fun. First, as is traditional, a song: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QZCiMp7F65o (Lyrics at the YouTube link) Also I know … Continue reading It Came From The Search Terms: Flaming September

It Came From The Search Terms: August

It's time for that thing we do, where we use the search strings people typed in to find this place as if they were questions. First, as is traditional, a song: https://www.youtube.com/watch?time_continue=51&v=iBjo55ZvRnU Lyrics here. 1 "How to encourage husband to make friends." The subtext runs deep with this one, does it not? Like, where is … Continue reading It Came From The Search Terms: August

#1125: “I’m stressed and embarrassed whenever I have to go places with my bigoted parents.”

Behind a cut for the casual fatphobia, racism, and misogyny of entitled white folks of a certain age. Update: People are sharing some of the specific slurs and types of comments their bigoted relatives say and asking how to challenge those things esp. in the comments, so I would counsel POC and other marginalized folks … Continue reading #1125: “I’m stressed and embarrassed whenever I have to go places with my bigoted parents.”

#1120: The Creepy Guy In The Friend Group, Revisited: Four More Geek Social Fallacies

Content note: After the jump I mention Rape Threats Dudes Have Sent Me for saying what I think about creepy dudes. Dear Captain, Over the past several years I've drifted to the periphery of a friend group where one member is a sexist creep. I immediately found him slimy and pushy and off-putting upon meeting … Continue reading #1120: The Creepy Guy In The Friend Group, Revisited: Four More Geek Social Fallacies

#1087: “Girlfriend and I are getting a dog, and people are being weird about it.”

Dear Captain, My girlfriend and I are getting a dog (jeey!). We are both women and some people have commented this is like getting a baby for us. It hurts to think about us not being able to reproduce “just like” a man and woman would be. Do you have any tips about reacting to … Continue reading #1087: “Girlfriend and I are getting a dog, and people are being weird about it.”

It Came From The Search Terms: Summer Pledge Drive Edition

I had a bunch of travel in July and never got that month's version up. So, here's another round of that thing where we answer people's search engine queries like blog questions. 1 "Awkward coworkers who wont get hint

." Hints don't work. They just create a sea of plausible deniability for clueless people to splash … Continue reading It Came From The Search Terms: Summer Pledge Drive Edition

#1003: “Getting married in 30 days and the parent drama is making me wish we’d eloped.”

Dear Captain Awkward, My wedding is in a month.  There is new parental drama that makes me wish we were eloping.  How do I still enjoy my wedding? Fiancée and I are introverts and did not want a huge wedding.  My parents do not understand why we would not want 300 guests (despite numerous attempts … Continue reading #1003: “Getting married in 30 days and the parent drama is making me wish we’d eloped.”