Hello! I'm sorry, this is complicated. I am in my late thirties and have fallen in love for the first time in my life. We have been in love for a year. I believe he is the love of my life, which I have never believed about anybody, and he believes that I am his. … Continue reading #1147: “My lover wants me to keep our relationship secret from his ex and kids.”
Hello friends! It's that time, where we answer the things people typed into search engines as if they were questions. It's a good way to check in with people's preoccupations on a large, anonymous scale and it's usually pretty fun. First, as is traditional, a song: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QZCiMp7F65o (Lyrics at the YouTube link) Also I know … Continue reading It Came From The Search Terms: Flaming September
Dear Captain Awkward, A couple of months ago, one of my best friends (we'll call her Beth) and her partner (we'll call him Dylan) broke up. Beth and Dylan had been together for six years and living together for five. They seemed to have a pretty good relationship, although Dylan dominated the apartment with his … Continue reading #1144: “My best friend is having ex-sex and I don’t know how to support her.”
Captain Awkward, I've found myself in a really damn sticky situation. I'm polyamorous. I just recently told my partner, we've been together for 18 months this June, we're engaged, and we have a kid together. (For anonymity, I'll be referring to my partner as Darin and our son as Ash.) I love Darin, and I … Continue reading #1098: “Oops, just figured out I’m polyamorous, 18 months into a serious monogamous relationship with the father of my child.”
Dear Captain, My partner and I have been together almost a decade and our relationship has been polyamorous all that time. For the most part (aside from perhaps two 'near misses, completely, in fact) it has been me in other relationships (my partner has never been interested in looking, or hasn't reciprocated others' advances). Our … Continue reading #1046 Ethical non-monogamy & a difficult conversation.
I had a bunch of travel in July and never got that month's version up. So, here's another round of that thing where we answer people's search engine queries like blog questions. 1 "Awkward coworkers who wont get hint ." Hints don't work. They just create a sea of plausible deniability for clueless people to splash … Continue reading It Came From The Search Terms: Summer Pledge Drive Edition
Dear Captain Awkward, Recently, my husband and I have been talking about taking a step to be more open in our relationship. We had made attempts to do this before, but we sort of jumped in without enough discussion and then had to pull back because if something hadn't been explicitly outlined for him as … Continue reading #1001: “Let’s open up our marriage so I can sleep with this really untrustworthy person!”
Hey Cap! Okay so this is going to be a little complex, but I hope that you could maybe provide some insight on the situation. I met a guy online (a long-distance situation) and we've been in contact almost daily for a year and a half now. We've gotten to know each other and it … Continue reading #983: “How do I comfort my friend…my sexy friend…who lied to me about having a girlfriend…about his recent breakup with that girlfriend?”
If you're here because you saw my talk on constructive criticism at work at GOTO Chicago yesterday, welcome! I really enjoyed meeting so many of you and I'm interested to adapt the talk to make it more applicable. Thank you for letting the weird art kid come play in your sandbox. Edited to Add: My … Continue reading Links & Stuff
Dear Captain Awkward... I started seeing a man who claimed he and his wife were ok to seek outside relationships. He said the friendship of those outside liaisons was important to him. Seemed on-board; I heard his wife mention one or two outside-the-marriage dalliances. I fell into an emotional clusterfuck with him. I truly didn't … Continue reading #921: “Captain, can you e-slap some sense into me, please?” or, 12 steps for getting over a charismatic lying sexy jerkface.