There is "what might be technically owed" and "what is realistic and workable now." In general, don't try to extract the former at the expense of the latter with people you'd like to stay friends with.
"I hated living with them so I moved the hell out. What is there to 'mediate?'"
Ahhhhhh that very recognizable feeling when you are so hungry for someone's company and yet all your instincts are to drive them away.
How to move on when you blew two chances and know that a third isn't coming.
To be fair, it was a Very Good apology. In the books. Where it happened exactly *one* time.
Ahhhh, the breakup where the dude wants to both sleep with other people and remain the center of your world. A classic!
Once upon a time, a kind reader wrote in for advice about her friend, "Mary." Mary just cared about the Letter Writer SO MUCH, you see, that she felt entitled to advise her on any and all of life's challenges, kiss her on the top of the head, take over in the kitchen, recount a … Continue reading Update for #1208: “Question about Mom-friends being Too….’Mothering.'”
Content note for mention of suicidal ideation, and reminder that roommate fights are for "It's your turn to buy toilet paper," not "It actually oppresses me when your face does that." Dear Captain Awkward, I have a question about reconciling with friends when everyone involved has made mistakes. Sorry this is so long... My wife … Continue reading #1297: My friends had a huge falling-out with my wife. Can we ever be friends again?
Sometimes your brain just wants to be obsessed with somebody for a while. Hi Captain, My now ex (he/him), and I (she/her) broke up at the end of May. It was pretty much mutual. He asked if we could stop being exclusive for a while (we were long distance). I was already having other problems … Continue reading #1284: “I have to see my ex again in a year and it is a constantly ticking time bomb in my head.”