"They bite, and are a total asshole with no home training, but I love them anyway" is for adorable cats you adopt out of the trash, not for friends. And when friends come over, those cats go in a nice room with water and a litter box and a door that closes.
Category: big discussions
#1372: “Help me plant the right boundaries for the future.”
There are a lot of steps between "starting a farm" and "figuring out who gets it after we die." Content Warning for ableism.
#1369: “Is there a polite way to tell my mother-in-law that she will, someday, die?”
Death comes for us all, but we don't have to like it.
#1366: “Malicious, controlling mother-in-law wants to move in”
Ultimatums are scary for a reason: Sometimes people force you to follow through on them.
Vaccines: Envy & Etiquette
What to do when everyone you know is getting vaccinated, except for you? What about when you're the relatively fortunate person? Also, what about relatives who refuse to be immunized? Here are some thoughts about that.
#1322: “My friend’s (white female) roommate is a creepy creep.”
"Don't touch me" isn't complicated. You know who makes it complicated? CREEPS, THAT'S WHO.
#1310: Giving our future children my (the hetero wife’s) last name.
"A rose by any other name would smell as sweet." Great! Then why not pick mine?
#1308: How do I deal with my edgelord friend?
Just spitballing here, but what if my fellow white people took bigotry in our social spaces incredibly fucking seriously for a change?
#1296: “Gender may be made up but it’s still messing with me”
Rae is back, restoring a sense of discovery and play to figuring out who the heck you are.
#1279: “My metamour isn’t taking social-distancing precautions and my partner is unfazed.”
Dear Captain, My partner (P) and I (both mid-30s, she/her) are happily engaged, and have been living together for a few years now. Things have been great. We’ve both had a lot of trauma to work through, and have been nothing but supportive and understanding with each other as each we’ve dealt with our own … Continue reading #1279: “My metamour isn’t taking social-distancing precautions and my partner is unfazed.”