Yes! It is time! Time to treat the search strings people typed in right before they washed up on these blog shores as if they are actual questions! Inside: Mask etiquette, reformed Nice Guy™ apologies, overly-neighborly neighbors, favor-sharking defined, and more.
If you end up trying to negotiate with your feelings, especially Future Feelings that Future You isn't even feeling yet, use action there, too, like: "If this was a mistake and someday I feel the thing I'm so afraid to feel, what (if anything) will I do about it?" Feelings are coming one way or another, you aren't the boss of them but they definitely aren't the boss of you, either. Make friends with them, invite them in, see what they have to tell you. You can decide what to do about them.
It's time for the thing where we pretend the search terms people typed into their computers before they landed on this place are actual questions. Context is missing; that's kind of the point. Let's start with a song, as is traditional. Here's Willie, breaking our hearts a little with his cover of "September Song:" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S9nSgMwtkK0 … Continue reading It Came From The Search Terms: September Song
Hello Captain Awkward, Last month my husband and I (she/her) separated; it was my choice and I stayed in the home while he moved out. We were in couple’s therapy for several years leading up to the split and for the last part of the relationship we were living as roommates. For almost the last … Continue reading #1206: How do explain that I’m almost-but-not-quite divorced in my brand new dating profile?
CN: brief mention of sexual assault Hi Captain, A little over a year ago I got my recently dumped, heartbroken self into a casual "relationship" with someone who ended up assaulting me, though I wasn't totally cognizant of that at the time. The relationship ended after about a month when the guy told me has was … Continue reading #1192: Guest Post “The Accidental Ex-Mistress”
Hello everyone! I've tweaked the format for short answer question submission (explainer for how it works is here) for these posts to keep the number & scope of responses manageable and to better guard privacy. Here's this week's batch of answers. Thanks to all who submitted and helped me try out the new system, I … Continue reading Long Answers to Short Questions Tuesday!
It is time for the return of the feature where we answer things people typed into search engines to find this place as if they are questions. Obviously we are missing details and nuance and the larger story. (That's what makes it fun). First, as traditional: music with the month somewhere in the song. https://youtu.be/jpVgPEWNiRk … Continue reading It Came From The Search Terms: January Song
Hello friends! It's that time, where we answer the things people typed into search engines as if they were questions. It's a good way to check in with people's preoccupations on a large, anonymous scale and it's usually pretty fun. First, as is traditional, a song: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QZCiMp7F65o (Lyrics at the YouTube link) Also I know … Continue reading It Came From The Search Terms: Flaming September
Time for the monthly tradition where we answer the things people typed into search engines as if they are questions. Before we get to it, it's Pledge Drive Time! Twice a year, winter and summer, I interrupt our usual programming to remind folks that fun stuff like the Search Terms posts and the Friday short … Continue reading It Came From The Search Terms: Something ‘Bout July + Summer Pledge Drive
Dear Captain, A bit over 3 years ago, I (she/her) went out with a guy (he/him) I met through an online dating site. We had some drinks, slept together, and then I basically ghosted him - ignored a couple of texts, then moved out of the country, changed my number, and never thought about him … Continue reading #1122: “I ghosted a guy three years ago. Now he’s back! What do I owe him?”