#1237: “What to do about deliberately bad gifts?” A post about letting go of some etiquette rules when they no longer serve you.

Hi! I am 28, she/her. My sister in law ("A") is also 28 and my brother ("D") is 31. I have a question about gift etiquette. Last year on my birthday, A and D gave me a bunch of used DVDs. They got me slightly damaged copies of a couple movies and every season of … Continue reading #1237: “What to do about deliberately bad gifts?” A post about letting go of some etiquette rules when they no longer serve you.

Linkety Links + “We need to talk” vs. “Hey, knock it off” conflict management strategies

Good news, Mikki Kendall's beautiful book, Amazons, Abolitionists, and Activists: A Graphic History Of Women's Fight For Their Rights, is finally out. The IndieBound link is above, Amazon is here, it's illustrated by the amazing A. D'Amico and just breathtakingly wonderful and gorgeous. Mr. Awkward is cataloging his year of ambitious projects with his blog/email … Continue reading Linkety Links + “We need to talk” vs. “Hey, knock it off” conflict management strategies

A++ Recommend! Scarleteen’s “Embracing Newbiehood: How to Approach Dating and Sex in Your 20s With Little or No Experience”

This piece written by Cass Ball is great. And you can safely replace "20s" with "any part of adulthood." Now's the part where I physically restrain myself from quoting the entire thing: "When I’m coming from a place of scarcity, a place where everything feels like it isn’t enough,I often feel that I’m insufficient without … Continue reading A++ Recommend! Scarleteen’s “Embracing Newbiehood: How to Approach Dating and Sex in Your 20s With Little or No Experience”

Short Question & Answer Friday, July 26, 2019: Part 1 of 2

Hello! It's time for the monthly ritual where I answer short questions and give priority to the patrons who keep the lights on and the web-hamsters running. We've got twelve questions this week, I've written up the first batch and will post the rest later in the weekend. Topics: Passive-aggressive coworkers, celebrating a climb out … Continue reading Short Question & Answer Friday, July 26, 2019: Part 1 of 2

Monday Links!

As promised, Lenée's regular writing project has launched at RaisingMothers.com, starting with a beautiful essay about ambivalence toward becoming a parent and figuring out the right choice for herself. Did you know there is an advice column devoted to helping you find just the right poem for a given situation? This weekend I vomited a … Continue reading Monday Links!

For my fellow sexual assault survivors in the USA who feel like they are hanging by a thread and need to figure out what to do with these feelings

My friend Dana Norris answers the question about what we do with all these feelings over at Role/Reboot that I've been too @@#$$%^&&*^#!@!!!!!! to articulate. ❤ & solidarity   Note: I do not vouch for comments or comment moderation on any site that I link from here. Don't assume I've even clicked on them, and enter … Continue reading For my fellow sexual assault survivors in the USA who feel like they are hanging by a thread and need to figure out what to do with these feelings

Ask A Manager: “My dad is dating my boss, and they want me to go to couples’ therapy with them.”

Did y'all read this letter over at Ask A Manager? Alison deftly handled the workplace advice, but I can't stop thinking about the letter and I want to say a few things to the poor Letter Writer about the family stuff. Letter Writer, This is a horrible situation for so many reasons. Your boss is … Continue reading Ask A Manager: “My dad is dating my boss, and they want me to go to couples’ therapy with them.”