#1148: “Navigating the aftermath of the abuse in the social circle.”

Hey there, Captain Awkward - My dear roommate (Clay)'s ex-boyfriend was abusive. He had mental health issues, and emotionally manipulated roommate (they/them) in various ways. I spent a lot of time helping my roommate to process the feels and vulnerabilities emerging around what happened in their relationship - and potentially over invested myself in their … Continue reading #1148: “Navigating the aftermath of the abuse in the social circle.”

It Came From The Search Terms: Flaming September

Hello friends! It's that time, where we answer the things people typed into search engines as if they were questions. It's a good way to check in with people's preoccupations on a large, anonymous scale and it's usually pretty fun. First, as is traditional, a song: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QZCiMp7F65o (Lyrics at the YouTube link) Also I know … Continue reading It Came From The Search Terms: Flaming September

Short Answer Friday/Chat for September 14

Hello everyone! We're doing the thing today, where people can submit short questions at Patreon or on Twitter (@CAwkward, #awkwardfriday) before noon Chicago time and I will answer as many as I can this afternoon between noon and 2pm. Comments get turned on once everything is posted Please enjoy this artsy photo of Daniel Striped … Continue reading Short Answer Friday/Chat for September 14

#1143: “Talking about emotional abuse and leaving my marriage with my potential support network.”

Behind a cut for emotional abuse. Hi Captain, This is a follow-up question to letter 1141. I'm not that letter-writer, but I'm in a very similar situation. My husband has become emotionally abusive and extremely controlling, we have young children together, and I do not have much of a support network. I'm working with a … Continue reading #1143: “Talking about emotional abuse and leaving my marriage with my potential support network.”

#1141: “Help with De-Escalating Arguments when Dr. Jekyll Turns into Mr. ‘Abandonment/Control Issues’ Hyde”

Behind a cut for controlling and emotionally abusive behavior. Dear Cap, My husband (he/him) and I (she/her) have been together for five years. I'd say 95% of the time things are great. We're really in tune, we share values and interests and have the same long term goals. The problem is the other 5% (maybe … Continue reading #1141: “Help with De-Escalating Arguments when Dr. Jekyll Turns into Mr. ‘Abandonment/Control Issues’ Hyde”

It Came From The Search Terms: August

It's time for that thing we do, where we use the search strings people typed in to find this place as if they were questions. First, as is traditional, a song: https://www.youtube.com/watch?time_continue=51&v=iBjo55ZvRnU Lyrics here. 1 "How to encourage husband to make friends." The subtext runs deep with this one, does it not? Like, where is … Continue reading It Came From The Search Terms: August

It Came From The Search Terms: Something ‘Bout July + Summer Pledge Drive

Time for the monthly tradition where we answer the things people typed into search engines as if they are questions. Before we get to it, it's Pledge Drive Time! Twice a year, winter and summer, I interrupt our usual programming to remind folks that fun stuff like the Search Terms posts and the Friday short … Continue reading It Came From The Search Terms: Something ‘Bout July + Summer Pledge Drive

Rule Explainer: Why We Don’t Diagnose People Through The Internet

There's a really interesting conversation about narcissism that popped up in a comment thread yesterday that made me think harder about the "Don't offer diagnoses for people based on letters or internet comments" rule we have here and I'd like to expand on it. At length. This rule has been in place almost from the … Continue reading Rule Explainer: Why We Don’t Diagnose People Through The Internet