It's okay if someone you strongly dislike gets an inkling that the feeling is mutual.
Like the creative writing workshop advice goes, if one person tells you a piece of feedback about your story, that's just their opinion, but if ten people give you the same note, there's probably something worth paying attention to on the input side.
"Why is EVERYONE creating so much DRAMA?" -The Hot Mess Who Both Smelt It And Dealt It, usually
There is "what might be technically owed" and "what is realistic and workable now." In general, don't try to extract the former at the expense of the latter with people you'd like to stay friends with.
Your house, your rules, so spell them out from now on and give your son-in-law a chance to surprise you.
Let's you and me drive a stake through the heart of NiceGirl™ Summer.
Soft rejections, mixing finances, and a primer for dealing with loaded questions.
Introducing The Mug of Perpetually Being Mad At You
Content note/reminder that describing bigotry accurately sometimes includes examples. Followed by the usual reminders that boundaries are more about deciding what you will do than about what you can convince other people to do.
When fear of over-committing meets terror of letting other people down, that's where you'll find me and way more than one of you, if my inbox is any indication.