The problem with informal agreements.
Author: JenniferP
Chicago filmmaker, teacher, and blogger.
#1378: “I want to be her guard dog, but I’m more of a thunder-vest wearing puppy.”
When in doubt, remove pressure and think of learning a new skill as "practice." Content Note: Brief mention of kink in the question. If you're a child and/or the concept of D/s relationships irks you, skip this one.
It Came From The Search Terms: It’s Gonna Be May
Search strings, snap judgments. Comments are on, for a change!
#1377: Hosting two families with different conceptions of time.
In which the Party Planning Committee consists of one exhausted pregnant lady trying to please everyone.
#1375: “Guilt trips with a side of trauma.”
Both anxious and avoidant attachment styles respond badly to pressure and benefit from structure, or, "Mom, I can't be your on-call therapist."
#1374: “Help, a tutor keeps asking me for personal details.”
"Tell me your phone number and exactly where you live so I can judge if you are a SERIOUS STUDENT." Yikes.
May 15: Asking Bear Live! (Virtual Event)
Come see S. Bear Bergman and me answer advice questions in real time. May 15, 8 pm Eastern, 7pm Central, live from the Internet. Ticket links and more info in post.
#1373: “Help me with this awkward stage fright.”
How to get over stage fright and interpersonal awkwardness.
#1372: “Help me plant the right boundaries for the future.”
There are a lot of steps between "starting a farm" and "figuring out who gets it after we die." Content Warning for ableism.
#1371: “I’m a cuckoo morning lark in a parliament of night owls.”
It is okay to enjoy slightly different vacationing rules than other people.
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