- #1394, #1395, and #1396: Crush Stories
- Update: “I think my professors fucked me up.”
- #1393: “How can I stop other women from hating on me for my happy life?”
- #1392: Doom or Consequences? The Case of The Transmisogynist Missing Stair…Who Bites
- #1391: “Anxious Coworker Is Triggering My Mothering Instinct”
- #1390: My wife wants a divorce but I don’t want to go to court.
- #1389: “I am taking over a course from a professor who died. How should I proceed?”
- #1388: “A woman wants to bond with me over our shared history of an abusive man – and I’m struggling to be polite while also maintaining boundaries.”
- #1387: “I’m dating a married man, help!”
- CANCELLED London meetup indoors, 5th November
- #1386: “How do I go No Contact with my dad again now that he’s no longer dying?”
- #1385: “My wife says she isn’t cheating. Should I believe her?”
- #1384: “Was I stating a boundary, or was I abusing?”
- It Came From The Search Terms: 33rd of August
- August London meetup
- #1383 “Is it okay for my female friends to exclude my male friend’s awful fiancée, even if that means she’s the only woman left out?”
- #1382: “My mum won’t accept anything I tell her unless it’s been ‘fact-checked’ by my brother or my dad.”
- Should you stay or should you go?
- #1381: “How to make someone known for going back on their promises put a big financial promise into writing.”
- #1380: “He’s been playing games since I told him that I think he’s attractive.”
- #1379: Friend is going back on an informal housing agreement.
- London meetup – June
- #1378: “I want to be her guard dog, but I’m more of a thunder-vest wearing puppy.”
- It Came From The Search Terms: It’s Gonna Be May
- #1377: Hosting two families with different conceptions of time.
- #1376 Guest Post: “How do I find queer and trans friends and dates my own age?”
- #1375: “Guilt trips with a side of trauma.”
- #1374: “Help, a tutor keeps asking me for personal details.”
- May 15: Asking Bear Live! (Virtual Event)
- London meetup outdoors – May
- #1373: “Help me with this awkward stage fright.”
- #1372: “Help me plant the right boundaries for the future.”
- April London meetup
- #1371: “I’m a cuckoo morning lark in a parliament of night owls.”
- #1370: “I feel suffocated and want to move away from my stingy roommate.”
- #1369: “Is there a polite way to tell my mother-in-law that she will, someday, die?”
- #1368: “The ethics of breaking up with someone when you live together and nothing is Glaringly Awful.”
- #1367: “I made a sacrifice to keep the peace. Was it right?”
- #1366: “Malicious, controlling mother-in-law wants to move in”
- #1365: “I am being held hostage by the phone.”
- February London meetup
- #1364: “Gender is elusive, and I cannot teach it to you, Mother!”
- #1363: “Am I overreacting to being constantly interrupted at work?”
- #1362: “Family being opposite but equal butts about COVID – How do I maintain sanity?”
- #1361: “I can’t leave that one unrequited love alone.”
- #1360: “Is there any reasonable way to ask the father who abandoned me if I can have my dead mother’s wedding ring?”
- 5 Answers to “That’s Certainly A Question”
- #1359: Sibling’s Christmas Decorations Are Making My Parents Break Down
- #1358: GUEST POST: “I think my professors $#@%-ed me up.”
- a swift and cold outdoors Boston meetup
- London December meetup CANCELLED; also Christmas dinner (NOT CANCELLED)?
- #1357: “My sister won’t come home for Christmas.”
- It Came From The Search Terms: November 2021
- #1356: “I don’t want to be friends with my neighbor anymore.”
- #1355: “How to stop helping a former coworker.”
- London meetup indoors – November
- #1354: “Navigating social life after my partner’s recent cancer diagnosis.”
- #1353: My friend always takes over a day to respond to messages.
- #1352: Recovering from an Awkward Lie
- London meetup indoors – October
- #1351: “Can I use my ex’s pseudonym in my novel?”
- It Came From The Search Terms: Flaming September (2021)
- #1350: Quarantine Holidays Round 2: Anti-Vaxxer Edition
- #1349: “I asked out a shy guy, he told me his (non-existent) girlfriend would be jealous. What now?”
- #1348: “How to tell an ex you’re pregnant when it’s not theirs and not your ex”
- London meetup in a park – September
- #1347: “My friend asked me if we could add ‘benefits,’ I still feel weird about it, am I justified in ending the friendship?”
- Links & Reading Material
- London meetup in a park – August
- #1346: “My new ‘friend’ has alt-right skeletons in her closet. How do I nope out?”
- #1345: Newborns, vaccines, and visiting relatives.
- #1344: “How do I end a marriage less than two years in?”
- #1343: “How do I make myself stand the person in the friend group I can’t really stand?”
- #1342: “Please help me stop people from assuming that my best friend and I are a couple.”
- #1341: “How to keep the DRAMA out of drama?”
- #1340: “I sat for my friends’ cats for years, but they won’t return the favor now:” Friendship, Favors, and Reciprocity
- #1339: Tired of “Moocher” Son-In-Law
- #1338: “*surprised Pikachu face* Another friendship that stresses me out!”
- It Came From The Search Terms: June 2021 Is Busting Out All Over
- #1337: About more than a mug: Boundaries, housemates, aggression
- #1336: “Shutting down pressure to see transphobic and homophobic family.”
- June 12th London meetup in a Park
- #1335: Advice about anxiety about over-committing to in-person hangouts written by a person with ADHD who struggles with time.
- #1334: “If someone keeps RSVP-ing “yes” but never attending, do I have to keep inviting them to stuff?”
- #1333: Multi-Level Marketing Cults & Performative Friendship
- #1331 and #1332: Awkward Neighbor Stuff!
- #1330: “I don’t want this friend as a roommate or a summer houseguest, but my sibling and I sort of already agreed.”
- #1329: “Is this ever going to work out in my favor?”
- #1328: “I’m a junior with a thing for a graduating senior. Is this thing doomed before it even starts?”
- #1327: “My best friend’s other best friend is The Worst. How do I free myself without losing my friend?”
- #1325-26: Confidential To The Married Couple Who Both Wrote To Me About Your Disintegrating Marriage
- #1324: “I moved out of a terrible roommate situation two years ago, but our mutuals won’t stop trying to ‘make peace.’”
- #1323: “People keep using a filler-word that bugs me and I want to not care.”
- Vaccines: Envy & Etiquette
- #1322: “My friend’s (white female) roommate is a creepy creep.”
- #1321: “I have nightmares about hosting the Fancy Lady Craft Circle in my terrible apartment.”
- #1320: “How to be fair to a co-habiting ex who dumped me, but is acting all sad that I’m moving out?”
- #1319: “How do I tell my booty call that his booty ruined my couch?”
- “I want to reach out but I have no idea what to say.”
- Crossover: Ask A(n Awkward) Manager
- #1318: “Pissed off during the post-pandemic party because nobody kept in touch.”
- #1317: “I ruined a perfect friendship and I want it back.”
- #1316: “I finally have a friend and my wife is jealous.”
- Online Meetup – Rescheduled
- #1315: How do I tell acquaintances about a death in the family without sounding dramatic?
- Art Prompts?
- Guest Post Situation Update
- #1314: “I put my emotions in the fridge and went away for a few years and now I’m afraid of what’s growing in there.”
- #1312: Did I make the wrong decision? And–why can’t I listen to everyone telling me I made the right decision?
- #1311: “I don’t wanna hang out post-pandemic.”
- #1310: Giving our future children my (the hetero wife’s) last name.
- It Came From The Search Terms: January 2021
- #1309: My housemate is accidentally flashing me
- #1308: How do I deal with my edgelord friend?
- #1307: “Persistently apologetic ex thinks he’s Miles Vorkosigan.”
- #1306: Flirting vs. Professional Friendliness at the Dentist: EDITED
- Ten. 10. TEN.
- #1305: “Please help me close up the proverbial ‘woodwork’.”
- Christmas/Holiday Open Thread
- Online Meetup
- #1304: “Fox News stole my mom and replaced her with a ranting lady who won’t let me say or do anything without it setting her off. How do I get along with her until I can leave for college?”
- #1303: “He said he doesn’t love me or want me anymore, so why does he still call me every $%#! day?”
- #1302: Guest Post: “When your hosts are doing you a favor but their housekeeping habits are making you sad and ill.”
- #1301: “This kitchen ain’t big enough for the both of us.”
- #1300: “Chronically-single abuse survivor tired of dating disasters.”
- #1298: “Could my adult friend have been grooming me for years?”
- London virtual meetup, 21st November
- Links: The Holidays and What To Do About Them
- Update for #1208: “Question about Mom-friends being Too….’Mothering.’”
- #1297: My friends had a huge falling-out with my wife. Can we ever be friends again?
- #1296: “Gender may be made up but it’s still messing with me”
- #1295: “Is my boyfriend a jerk or am I just Too Sensitive?”
- It Came From The Search Terms: October Symphony (Oct. 2020)
- #1294: “I work with an Angry Yelling Man and it’s triggering my PTSD.”
- #1293: “I’m worried my family’s anger about me being a trans man will overshadow my sister’s wedding.”
- #1292: “My creep sister is forwarding my queer child’s social media posts to our conservative parents. How to draw a boundary without outing my kid?”
- #1291: “My husband is never, ever sorry.”
- #1290: “My husband says ‘my pushiness’ ruined his life.”
- #1289: “A potential friend is now an ex, and I don’t know why.”
- #1288: “Saying ‘No’ To The Dress & My Overbearing Sister”
- Online Meetup
- #1287: “My toxic friend wants to know why we don’t hang out anymore. Should I tell her?”
- Online meetup
- #1286: “How do I create good art when life is tough and might not get easier?”
- #1285: “My sister is in love with someone she knows tried to rape me.”
- #1284: “I have to see my ex again in a year and it is a constantly ticking time bomb in my head.”
- #1283: “I need to resign as my friend’s son’s godmother.”
- It Came From The Search Terms: July 2020
- #1282: “I want to support my friend without helping him with all his class assignments.”
- #1281: “Every conversation with my mom is an interrogation of my life choices.”
- Formatting Weirdness
- #1280: “Am I a terrible daughter for moving out and leaving my mom to care for my grandma?”
- #1279: “My metamour isn’t taking social-distancing precautions and my partner is unfazed.”
- Link! How To Make More LGBTQ Friends
- #1278: “My partner is pushing me to start a family before I’m ready.”
- #1277: “Abuse, agency, and the limits of advice.”
- #1276: “Setting boundaries when there’s a significant power difference (and you’re the one with less)”
- #1274 and #1275: COVID-19 and Family Visits and Weddings
- #1273: “How do I stop making a big deal out of small stuff that turns into arguing?”
- June Perth meetup (online)
- #1272: “White Family Facebook Drama Over Police Racism”
- Boston-area virtual meetup
- #1271: “I went no-contact with an abusive parent who is dying now. What are the rules here?”
- #1270: “My mom has always hated my boyfriend. Now she says it’s because he resembles someone who abused her.”
- #1269: My mother keeps eating my chocolate and it’s making me furious.
- #1268: “I tanked a job interview at a place I really want to go back to someday. How do I get over the shame?”
- Two Pleasing Updates
- #1267: “How do I set goals if I don’t want anything?”
- Quarantine with difficult family & other “How To Stay In” links. #COVID-19
- Pandemic! Productivity! Life! Hacks! (from a deeply unproductive & freaked out person)
- It Came From The Search Terms: Spring 2020
- #1266: Pandemic Distance-Learning Teacher-Student Boundaries
- #1265: Guest Post: Lockdown Co-Parenting: Can I Please Get Some Alone Time? #COVID-19
- April Perth Meetup (online)
- Link: The Answer To All Your Social Distancing Loophole Questions is “No.”
- #1264: Quarantine Cohabitation Blues
- #1263: “I apologized and it made everything weirder. What’s really going on?”
- Multiple Questions, 1 Answer (#COVID-19)
- #1262: “My housemate keeps exposing herself to me/the world/everyone.”
- #1261: “Scripts for Shelter-In-Place Peer Pressure.”
- #1260: “How to maintain boundaries within stressful family relationships during COVID-19 lockdown?”
- April virtual Boston meetup
- Story Club Social (tonight!) and other links.
- Two Answers to Many Questions: COVID-19, Crushes, and Closure
- Five Short Answers to Way More Than Five Long Questions: COVID-19 Edition
- COVID-19 Update & Questions #1258 (How do I help my friends?) and #1259: (Social-distancing for extroverts)
- March London meetup cancelled
- Twenty-Three Ways Of Saying “Let’s Not Talk About Politics Right Now” (& Twenty Questions To Maybe Ask The People You Love Instead)
- #1257:”How do I navigate the transition between romantic relationship and friendship with someone who’s really (platonically) important to me?”
- #1256: Boundaries and parenting, when the adult child might be the problem
- #1255: “I’ve been conscripted! As an unwilling beta reader of somebody’s very personal fan fiction!”
- #1254: “Does my micromanaging business partner / friend need to get a life, or have we mixed too much business with friend dynamics?”
- #1253: Beloved, You Are Not “Torn,” You Are In Denial About Your Choices
- #1252: Small Talk Strategies When You’re Depressed And Forgetful
- #1251: “My friends are mad because I don’t like talking in the dreaded Group Chat from WhatsApp Hell.”
- #1250: How do I support my (very-recently) ex-partner through his complex grief?
- February London meetup
- Ask A Manager & Captain Awkward Answer Questions: Part 2 of 2
- O, a Boston meetup!
- Two internet advice columnists walk into a bar: Captain Awkward & Ask A Manager Collaboration (Part 1 of 2)
- #1249: Parents who are no contact (with each other) at our wedding.
- Family Estrangement and Personal Bandwidth: A Request
- #1248: “How to set boundaries with someone who just doesn’t listen to me?”
- #1247 “I went no-contact with my mother and it’s turned her into a bogeyman”: Anxiety, Anticlimax, and the Aftermath of Estrangement.
- #1246: “Partner with lots of expenses and little income.”
- new year new meetup: BOSTON
- #1245: “My Brand New Stepfather Thinks We Are On The ‘LW’S Mom Is Terrible Train’ Together. Help?”
- January London meetup
- January Perth meetup
- #1244: What to do when your art is too big for you.
- 2019’s Most-Viewed Posts
- #1243: “Broaching a service dog with dismissive family.”
- #1242: “What’s a helpful holiday gift for my 10YO niece who has crappy parents?”
- #1240 and #1241: “Closure” Is The Gift You Give Yourself
- #1239: “I moved out of a weird roommate situation two years(!) ago, but the town is so small that the weirdness is still affecting my social life.”
- December London meetup and 7th anniversary party
- #1238: “Scripts for when a friend’s art scares you.”
- Captain Awkward at Vice and other links.
- It Came From The Search Terms: Cold November Wind
- #1237: “What to do about deliberately bad gifts?” A post about letting go of some etiquette rules when they no longer serve you.
- Last Minute Dallas Event Invite: Dance Dance Part Party Dallas starts tonight!
- #1236: “My ex keeps gnawing at the edges of my work and social life.”
- #1235: “How does one quit a Dungeons & Dragon campaign?
- Linkety Links + “We need to talk” vs. “Hey, knock it off” conflict management strategies
- Boston area meetup: November edition!
- November London meetup
- #1234: “How do I turn work friends into real friends?”
- “We Are Spartacus!”: Open Thread & Resources On Family Estrangement And Adult Relationships With Difficult Parents
- #1233: “Is it ever safe to take a difficult parent off a ‘low information’ diet?”
- Boston-area October meetup!
- #1232: Infertility and In-Laws
- #1230 and #1231: Conversations that are mostly negotiations with ourselves and our feelings.
- #1229: “Is it unfair or mean to only hug some members of a group or family?” (Answer: NOPETY NOPE NOPE NOPETEPUS TO NOPETOWN!)
- “Too Early Old, Too Late Smart” (personal news)
- #1228: Miscarriage and The Holidays
- October London meetup
- #1227: “Cool New Friend spooked by ~romantic feelings~ I don’t actually have”
- Brief September/October Housekeeping
- September 2019 Short Question Grab Bag: Part 2
- September 2019 Short Questions: Part 1
- #1226: “My Boss Is Overly Enthusiastic About My Need To Pump Breastmilk At Work”
- It Came From The Search Terms: September Song
- Write Club Chicago: TONIGHT
- #1225: “My boyfriend is very reactive to conversations about feelings.”
- September Perth meetup
- #1224: “When someone wants to be friends but shoots down all small talk attempts.”
- Letter Writer Update and A Graduation
- September London meetup
- #1223: Feminist Wedding Etiquette Help
- Septemberrrr Boston-area meetup
- Short Questions for August 2019: Part 2 of 2
- Short Questions for August 2019: Part 1 of 2
- August London meetup
- A++ Recommend! Scarleteen’s “Embracing Newbiehood: How to Approach Dating and Sex in Your 20s With Little or No Experience”
- #1222: “Love my family, hate my mean red-pilling brother who is always around.”
- It Came From The Search Terms: Cruel Summer
- July/August combo Boston meetup!
- #1221: “My husband’s friend Hulked out on him/us, accused us of bullying him, and isn’t taking our calls. Is it because he has a crush on me, and do I need to do anything about that?”
- Short Questions & Answers For July 26, Part 2
- Short Question & Answer Friday, July 26, 2019: Part 1 of 2
- #1220: “Is this guy constantly texting me after I told him not to because he ‘doesn’t understand’ boundaries or because he doesn’t care about them?”
- #1219: “My good friend’s boyfriend keeps ‘negging’ me.”
- July Perth Meetup
- Birthday Blues Bulletin Board: Advice + Open Thread
- #1218: “Irritability and constant criticism in a marriage.”
- July London meetup
- #1216 and #1217: The Weight Of Parental Love and Things And Time And “Help.”
- #1215: “So, about your private reproductive decisions…” and other “small” talk.
- NYC July Meet-Up!
- #1214: “Kid’s place volunteer won’t leave my twin babies alone.”
- Short Answer Friday: Happy Monday!
- #1211, #1212, #1213: FeelingsCourt Is In Session On Several Accumulated Matters Of The Heart
- #1210: “My sister offers annual grief support that I don’t want.”
- #1209: “Is there a way to get good at setting boundaries that isn’t so situation-specific?” (Boundaries School!)
- Juuuune Boston-area meetup
- York, UK Meetup: June 27th
- June London meetup
- #1208: “Question about Mom Friends being too Mothering:” BOUNDARIES SCHOOL is in session.
- #1207: “I moved away from a roommate who treated me like her on-call therapist, but she won’t let go. How can I tell her ‘nicely’ that I don’t want to be friends anymore?”
- #1206: How do explain that I’m almost-but-not-quite divorced in my brand new dating profile?
- #1205: Can apologizing to your ex be constructive?
- #1204: “I’m losing my hearing and my patience with my dad’s girlfriend (among other things).”
- #1203: “I’m getting married to God. How do I tell my family they’re not invited?”
- It Came From The Search Terms: The Last Day In May
- #1202: “My friend proposed moving into a shared office, I said yes and made all the necessary arrangements, but now she’s suddenly changed her mind. Am I a bad sport if I need some space from spending time with her?”
- IT’S MOTHEREFFING WEDDING SEASON AGAIN, SO LET’S CHAT
- NYC June Meet-Up!
- May Answers of Varying Length to Short Questions: Part 2 of 2
- Friday “Answers of Varying Length To Short Questions”: Part 1
- May! Boston! meetup!
- #1201: “I need to set some boundaries for my housemates’ parents when they visit.”
- Books: “What My Mother And I Don’t Talk About: Fifteen Writers Break the Silence”
- Cardiff Wales Gathering: Saturday, May 18
- #1200: “My mom is bugging me to clean my room.”
- May meetup – Perth, Australia
- #1199: “Hello, I’d rather hang out with my main character than my husband.”
- May London meetup
- #1198: “How do I deal with work burnout and make my partner* happy?” (*My partner = my boss, who is *a* partner in the law firm where I work)
- NYC May Meet-Up!
- #1197: “He broke up with me but hasn’t moved out yet. How do I not ruin our last chance to make this work?”
- Happy May Day! “May the Firth Be With You”
- It Came From The Search Terms: “When April Comes Again”
- #1196: “My friend is irrationally jealous of every woman who speaks to her boyfriend and I’m tired of it.”
- ~April Boston-area meetup~
- #1195: How to give a client feedback when the feedback is “You’re racist.”
- Monday Links!
- #1194: “I’m moving in with my girlfriend and now my homophobic parents want to disown me.”
- Friday Updates & Open Thread
- #1193 Guest Post: “Am I A Stalker?”
- April London meetup
- #1192: Guest Post “The Accidental Ex-Mistress”
- #1191: Guest Post:”My Mom’s Boyfriend is a Sex Offender!”
- #1190 Guest Post: “When ‘Woke’ Becomes A Fetish”
- Personal Updates & Introducing This Week’s Guest Blogger
- York, United Kingdom Meetup on April 3
- #1189: “Fox News, Immigrant Family, and the F******* Wedding Invite List”
- #1188: Grief and the empty chairs at the wedding feast.
- March Boston-area meetup!
- #1187: “People from my past at my estranged father’s funeral (do not want).”
- Meetups: NYC (March 16) and Perth (March 17)
- March London meetup
- #1186: “How do I rebuild trust in my relationship?”
- #1185: “Need scripts for moderating how much guests drink in my home.”
- #1182, #1183, #1184: “Do I have to be friends with my sibling?” or, Advice For Relationships You Don’t Want to Lose But Don’t Want To Work At.
- #1180 & #1181: Graduation Days
- #1179: “My mother-in-law is about to become my coworker.”
- #1178: “A friend paid me to read her book and it’s terrible.”
- #1177: “How to be fine with not getting married?”
- It Came From The Search Terms: February Seven
- Book: How To Be Alone by Lane Moore
- #1176: The limits of respecting one’s elders just ’cause they are elders.
- February London meetup
- #1175: “My teenager says their father (my ex of 1.5 decades) is sending me a V-Day Present. Help!”
- Long Answers to Short Questions Tuesday!
- #1174: “I guess I have some doppelgängers. How do I be polite about it when someone insists they recognize me but I know they don’t?”
- The Half-Assed Activist, Chicago Storytelling Events (with 1 reschedule, hence the re-post), and other links.
- #1172: “My boyfriend asked me to relocate to a new city with him, and I asked him to commit to getting engaged to be married. Guess which of these two things actually happened? What do I do now?”
- #1171: The nicest problem to have: Sending an organization positive feedback about their employees.
- NYC Meetup – February 9, 2019
- Advice Column Goodness!
- It Came From The Search Terms: January Song
- Guest Post: #1170: Battling Furlough Depression (Advice for keeping it together when you unwillingly have too much free time on your hands)
- — January Boston meetup —
- #1168 and #1169: Friendship, Conversation, and TAKING TURNS
- Perth, Australia Meetup – 19th January
- #1167: “Tips for staying positive when your body hates you.”
- #1166: “My mom kidnapped my kid for 30 minutes. How fired is she?”
- #1165: “(I think) my only friend won’t hang out with me because of a dead guy.”
- January London meetup
- #1164: “My ex’s therapist wants to volunteer where I work!”
- #1163: “I’m screamingly jealous of my sister’s fiancé.”
- Happy New Year!
- #1162: “Is there room for compromise when it comes to alcohol and driving?”
- NYC Meetup, January 12, 2019
- Happy Birthday, Scarleteen!
- December London meetup
- #1161: “Being the New Kid in my partner’s friend group, four years in, with a jillion weddings and other events on the horizon.”
- Short Answer Friday for Nov. 30
- Guest Post! #1160: “Being a hardass about cleaning in communal housing when you’re a messy pushover”
- #1159: “Dude is misrepresenting me as an excuse to harass women. How do I stop it?”
- Short Answer Friday – Holiday Edition – 11/16/2018
- November London meetup
- #1158: “What do you owe a former friend when you end a relationship?”
- November Boston-area meetup!
- #1157: The Purple Dildo of Broken Friendship
- Perth, Australia Meetup, 11/17/18
- It Came From The Search Terms: Fall Into November
- #1156: “How Do I Start Listening to Myself about My Job Search and Cut off Unwanted Advice?”
- #1155: “How to get through USA election night?”#BELATED
- Short Answer Friday for 11/2
- #1154: “I’m pregnant, not incapable.”
- #1153: “Help with unwanted criticism after public speaking.”
- #1152: “How to accept an apology when the apology isn’t complete and you still hurt?”
- October London meetup
- ~October Boston meetup~
- Personal Update
- Short Answers for Today (Oct. 12)
- #1151: “Doing an Exit Interview when you’re PISSED OFF.”
- #1150: “My unfashionable mom wants some style advice.”
- Monday Image Thread
- #1149: “We decided to leave our abusive ex and move to another state, only she came with us and is living on our couch?”
- For my fellow sexual assault survivors in the USA who feel like they are hanging by a thread and need to figure out what to do with these feelings
- #1148: “Navigating the aftermath of the abuse in the social circle.”
- Short Answer Friday – 9/28
- #1147: “My lover wants me to keep our relationship secret from his ex and kids.”
- September London meetup
- September Boston meetup!
- It Came From The Search Terms: Flaming September
- #1146: “I panicked about the hurricane and my friend, the bride who was getting married, is done with me.”
- #1145: “My husband stops talking only when he is asleep and sometimes not even then.”
- Short Answer Friday/Chat for September 14
- Perth, Australia Meetup – September 15
- #1144: “My best friend is having ex-sex and I don’t know how to support her.”
- #1143: “Talking about emotional abuse and leaving my marriage with my potential support network.”
- #1142: “Your child’s emotions are not my child’s problem to manage.”
- Short Answer Friday – 8/31
- #1141: “Help with De-Escalating Arguments when Dr. Jekyll Turns into Mr. ‘Abandonment/Control Issues’ Hyde”
- #1140: Setting boundaries with a coworker moving to my neck of the woods.
- London August meetup (in September!)
- #1139: “Mom, you’ve had two weddings, let me have one!”
- #1138: Help shutting down questions about future baby’s paternity.
- #1137: “There’s no room in the Room of My Own.”
- #1136: “How can I dump my husband’s ex?”
- #1135: “My dad wants to fix our relationship, and I don’t.”
- Short Answer Friday! Reading a story tonight! Kittens! Exclamation points!
- It Came From The Search Terms: August
- #1134: “I applied for the same job as a friend and I ‘won.’ How do I break the news?”
- #1133: Coming out, again and again
- #1132: “Don’t go on vacation with Nazis.”
- KITTENS KITTENS KITTENS KITTENS
- last minute August meetup!
- #1131: The Aftermath of Harassment Allegations: A Friend’s Responsibility
- Perth, Australia Meetup: August 18
- Short Answer Friday/Chat – August 3 – Pledge Drive Concludes
- #1130: “When I told you my marriage is over, it wasn’t an invitation for advice on how to fix it.” + Summer Pledge Drive continues
- #1129: “Help with emotional baggage that is packed in literal boxes.” + Summer Pledge Drive Continues
- 2 Chicago Storytelling Shows: 8/1 and 8/9
- #1128: “Tired of waiting for a marriage proposal.” + Summer Pledge Drive Continues
- It Came From The Search Terms: Something ‘Bout July + Summer Pledge Drive
- Short Answers/Chat – July 27
- #1127: “I think my friend is falling in love with me and I don’t feel the same way.”
- Guest Post: Talking To Your Kids About Scary Things In The News
- Short Answers/Chat Today!
- Rule Explainer: Why We Don’t Diagnose People Through The Internet
- #1126: “My Mother-In-Law won’t stop ‘helpfully’ commenting on my new Sister-In-Law’s body. Does she think we’re bonding?”
- July! Boston! Meetup!
- July London meetup
- #1125: “I’m stressed and embarrassed whenever I have to go places with my bigoted parents.”
- Perth Meetup: July, 21
- #1124: “My girlfriend wants to move in and I am having major cold feet. How do I tell her?”
- #1123: Blanket statement: DON’T FUCK YOUR STUDENTS
- #1122: “I ghosted a guy three years ago. Now he’s back! What do I owe him?”
- Short Answer Friday (Live Chat)
- #1121: “Helping a small business owner get her Saturdays and her sanity back.”
- #1120: The Creepy Guy In The Friend Group, Revisited: Four More Geek Social Fallacies
- It Came From The Search Terms: The Thirty-First of June
- Short Answers/Live Chat Today
- #1119: “I can’t trade cat-sitting services with a friend this fall. Is this a friendship ender?”
- #1118: “My dad’s girlfriend is causing a rift in our family.”
- Short Answers/Live Chat Today
- #1117: The Day The D&D Devolved
- June London meetup
- #1116: Helping someone who doesn’t seem to want help (group chat edition)
- #1115: “Shop talk for married people.”
- Juuuuune Boston meetup
- #1114: “Talking about child abuse during wedding planning.”
- #1113: Weed Allergies, Geek Social Fallacies, and the Gordian Knot
- #1112: “I’m still upset about my brother’s wedding toast.”
- How To Help People You Love Who Have Depression, Revisited
- Chat/Short Answer Friday Today
- #1111: How do I get people to stop asking me about the future?
- #1110: “Dudebro won’t stop bugging me about another dudebro. I JUST WANNA DO MY JOB.”
- Quick Links
- Live Chat Today!
- #1109: “My mom is judgmental about how I spend my money.”
- #1108: “I got ghosted after re-connecting.”
- #1107: The Judgmental Friend
- #1106: Breaking up because: Geography
- Live Chat Today
- It Came From The Search Terms: Month of May
- ~May Boston meetup~
- May London meetup
- #1105: “Why can’t my friend just say no?”
- Ask A Manager: “My dad is dating my boss, and they want me to go to couples’ therapy with them.”
- #1104: “Help me reach common ground with my sister-in-law.”
- #1103: “My partner’s awkward friend and their requests for reassurance.”
- No posts this week
- #1102: “How do I break up with my therapist?”
- It Came From The Search Terms: Senioritis Sessions
- #1101: “My dying grandfather doesn’t know I’m trans.”
- April Boston meetup!
- #1100: “My friend is withdrawing from me, and it really hurts.”
- April London meetup
- #1099: “My family keeps pressuring me to make peace with my abusive brother.”
- #1098: “Oops, just figured out I’m polyamorous, 18 months into a serious monogamous relationship with the father of my child.”
- #1097: “How do I know when I’m ready for coffee with my (amicable) ex?”
- #1096: “Too many presents.”
- Ask A Manager Podcast
- #1095: “The Exhausting Gauntlet of Dudes Who Won’t Stop Hitting On Me”
- #1094: How do I answer the “what are you looking for in a relationship” question when I’m not sure I know?
- #1093: “Urgent: I’m scared to ask my professor for help!”
- #1092: “My best friend dumped me years ago and it still hurts.”
- #1091: Sorry, but she’s not The One.
- #1090: “Emotional labor and my roommate’s love life”
- #1089: When people want you to do complicated & unethical things, it’s okay to say no!
- March Boston meetup
- March London meetup
- #1088: “Trying to get my partner to be more ambitious and to move out of his family’s house with me.”
- #1087: “Girlfriend and I are getting a dog, and people are being weird about it.”
- #1086: “My husband argues with me about how long it takes to get places.”
- #1085: “My partner keeps inviting his ex-girlfriend to stay with us and by stay with us I mean ‘in our bed.’”
- #1083 and #1084: Nazis Are Beyond Awkward, Do Not Engage.
- #1082: “How do I deal with people who aren’t happy about my work success (if this is even success)?”
- #1081: Breaking up with a roommate
- #1080: “Telling a classmate to keep their hands to themselves.”
- #1079: “Boundaries and ‘shoulds.’”
- Atlanta Meetup: March 3
- #1078: “Sooooooo…what are you doing this weekend?”
- Boston Meetup: Saturday Feb. 17
- #1077: ‘Ware the Hovering Hobbyists
- February London meetup and bonus cinema trip
- My Fellow White People, Here’s One Simple Trick You Can Do About Racism TODAY!
- #1076: The Xenophobe In The Group Chat
- #1075: Perpetual Time Optimism
- #1074: “My boyfriend loves smoking weed more than he loves me. What to do about his weird ultimatums?”
- #1073: “Promises and symbols and weddings, oh my!”
- #1072: “My future mother-in-law interrogates me when I want to change clothes before leaving the house.”
- #1071: “I’m so jealous of my friend after she got the job I was promised.”
- #1070: “(un)Following a friend’s divorce in real time on social media.”
- Bay Area Meetup Jan 21
- Following Directions: A Metaphor For Something
- #1069: “My friends forgot my birthday.”
- Boston Awkward Meetup January 20
- #1068: “How do I snap out of this apathy?”
- #1067: “Boycotting my ex stepdad’s funeral.”
- January London meetup
- #1066: “About That Awkward Thing I said earlier…”
- #1065: “I love my girlfriend and feel like I would die without her. She doesn’t love me back.”
- It Came From The Search Terms: “I Can See The Sun In Late December”
- #1064: Christmas Help For A Non-Christian
- #1063: Is this all-in-good-fun old-timey-cosplay flirting or weird boundary-pushing flirting?
- #1062: My new coworkers are super-weird about potlucks and I don’t like the patriarchy.”
- #1061: “My uncle coerced my elderly grandma into ‘lending’ him money. How do I let him know that’s not okay?”
- #1060: The Case of the Cranky Co-habiting Commuter
- #1059: The reluctant pet-sitter (An ‘Art of No’ Post)
- #1058: It’s that time of year when we need to email professors!
- Boston Awkward Meetup
- #1057: “Hey, so my cousin’s prankster husband threatened to burn my sister’s arm with his lighter at Thanksgiving. How do we get through Christmas together as a family?”
- #1056: “I ghosted a scary dude and now I need scripts.”
- #1055: Holidays in “Health” Hell
- #1054: “Dealing with disproportionate sadness over extremely mild rejections.”
- December London meetup – shared food and five year party
- It Came From The Search Terms: If We Make It Through December
- #1053: “I might be dating a man-child. How do I talk to him about it?”
- #1052: “I’m meeting my boyfriend’s family this Thanksgiving. They’re all grieving the recent death of his mom. How do I be a good guest?”
- #1051: “The nightly dinner debate during family visits is making me very cranky indeed.”
- Manchester, UK Meetup on November 25
- #1050: “Closure Is A Thing You Get To Make For Yourself.”
- #1049: “Getting talked at by a fellow amateur writer.”
- #1048: The Unbearable Awkwardness of Dating
- #1047: “How do I talk to my future roommate about her homophobic comments & behaviors?”
- #1046 Ethical non-monogamy & a difficult conversation.
- November London meetup
- #1045: Boyfriend is overly concerned about who I hang out with.
- San Francisco Bay Area Meetup: November 18
- #1044: “This work friendship is not working.”
- Boston Meetup: November 18
- #1043: “My friend won’t stop giving me unsolicited advice.”
- It Came From The Search Terms: When October Goes
- #1042: “How do I tell an old friend that I’m not interested in reconnecting?”
- #1041: “How do I get my much older work ‘friend’ to stop messaging me late at night to talk about his relationship problems?”
- #1040: “I matched my dysfunctional brother-in-law up with a dysfunctional friend and now they are ruining my holiday plans.”
- #1039: How to deal with people’s interest in my mother’s health?
- #1038: “Is my sister stealing my stuff?”
- #1037: “What should I do when the guy I like ghosts on me?”
- #1036: “My newly nudist/naturist friend and unwanted naked photos.”
- #1035: “My friend feels like she is being Left Out of social stuff, and her passive-aggressive reactions are making me want to…leave her out of social stuff.”
- #1034: “My coworker messaged me on a dating site.”
- #1033: “My husband doesn’t like his life very much so he is pressuring me to quit my fun hobby and spend more time with him and also he screams at me sometimes and sends me long emails about how I am a terrible person when I’m at work.” No, really. That’s what is happening in this letter.
- #1032: “Fiancé thinks I’m still in love with the ex!”
- #1031: “Mom is pressuring me to have relationship with abusive dad because he’s my dad.”
- #1030: Politely walking away from sales & conversion attempts.
- October London meetup
- #1029: “I know this relationship is over, why can’t I let go?”
- #1028: How do I talk about my military service in leftist spaces?
- #1027: How do I handle a hands-off advisor who expects me to be a mind-reader?
- Guest Post: 14 Free and Low-Cost Mental Health Resources
- #1026: “Obsessed with my girlfriend’s sexual past.”
- Bay Area Meetup October 1
- #1025: “So Christmas lists are awkward, yes?”
- #1024: “How do I avert these burgeoning unhealthy relationship dynamics?”
- #1023: “Academia, singlehood, + excuses.”
- #1022: “I’ve got angry Feelingsmail from a friend.”
- It Came From The Search Terms: September Gurls
- #1021: “Pressured by a friend to hang out with someone I know doesn’t like me.”
- “Dear Dana: After you break up with someone, how do you move on?”
- September London meetup
- Open Thread: Flood & Fire
- #1020: “Is this relationship doomed or do I just need to put in more work?”
- #1019″ “I’m scared of spending money and everybody in my life pressures me not to.”
- #1018: My boyfriend’s female “friends.”
- Hurricane Check-In?
- It Came From The Search Terms: Summer Pledge Drive Edition
- #1017: Future Family Funeral Fracas: “Can I stop my mom from acting like an asshole at my friend’s funeral?”
- #1016: How do I nicely tell potential dates “I hate talking on the phone and I don’t want to do it with you”?
- #1015: Touching, boundaries, and compatibility
- #1014: “My partner wants my permission to ditch plans with me for other plans.”
- #1013: Pressure to reconstruct after a mastectomy
- #1011 and #1012: “Please, tell me more about the person you’re in love with. No, every detail. No, really, I never tire of it.”
- #1010: “Exit, pursued by a creepy dude.”
- August London meetup
- #1009: Persistence is grossly overrated in dating and romance.
- So, about those pesky Nazis again.
- #1008: Sample bridesmaid resignation letter
- #1007: “Holiday Chore Free Riders”
- San Francisco Bay Area MeetUp August 19
- #1006: Navigating family estrangement in the long-term
- #1005: Mom: “You *must* give me grandbabies!” You: “You must STFU.”
- It Came From The Search Terms: Endless Summer
- #1004: “The Escalator.”
- Happy book birthday, Megan!
- #1003: “Getting married in 30 days and the parent drama is making me wish we’d eloped.”
- #1002: “My boyfriend doesn’t believe in my dreams.”
- #1001: “Let’s open up our marriage so I can sleep with this really untrustworthy person!”
- This is question #1000.
- Munich Meetup, July 27
- Don’t date Nazis!
- #999: “Where’s [Spouse]? Is he avoiding us?”
- “Actually, it’s a tabard.”
- #998: “My Very First Dick Pic:” A horrible coming-of-age story
- #997: Anxious Parents & Freeing Yourself From Constant Contact
- #996: “The Palette Wife”
- #995: Reassuring abusive parents? (It’s a trap!)
- #994: “Feeling stuck and indecisive in every aspect of my life.”
- July London meetup
- #993: “Every day is ‘take your kids to work day’ for my boss.”
- #992: “My husband is dating my mom.”
- #991: How do I keep my dreams alive over the naysaying of my family?
- #990: Living in a tourist city, feeling like a hotel.
- #989: “Me, my girlfriend, and a giant red flag” or “I’m gay, so why are all these angry men still part of my life?”
- #988: “How do I have the ‘is this a real relationship?’ talk with someone without messing up the relationship?”
- #987: “Coming out as trans to family at (or before) a family wedding.”
- #986: “We’re like family here” = a workplace red flag, x 1000 when working for actual family.
- #985: My coworker is leaving her makeup all over a shared phone.
- #984: “I think my friend told me he loved me a few years ago, and I’m just figuring it out now.”
- #983: “How do I comfort my friend…my sexy friend…who lied to me about having a girlfriend…about his recent breakup with that girlfriend?”
- #982: “A friend is trying to set me up with someone she knows and I prefer not to.”
- #981: Watching from the sidelines in horror: How do I be a supportive friend to my friend who’s involved with #TFG?
- Munich Meetup June 28
- June 24: Atlanta Meetup
- #980: “I don’t want to ride bikes with my coworker!”
- #979: “Striking a balance between being an ambassador for what I do and *doing* what I do.”
- #978: “If you were a ten-year-old boy who just told your mom you’re gay, what would you want her to say?”
- #977: “I just don’t want to be your friend:” “No thanks!” is NOT mean.
- #976: “Etiquette question: Who should call?”
- Songs For The Dumped
- #975: “I want to break up with my boyfriend but I’m afraid of triggering his depression.”
- #969 Moderation Mop-Up, continued, because people are still emailing me their thoughts about how a fellow human being should manage her own body.
- June London meetup
- #974: “Social over-commitment: Am I a jerk if I can’t hang out with every nice new person I meet?”
- #969 Moderation Mop-Up
- #973: Messy housemate blues with a side of bugs.
- #972: The Return of the Draining Boyfriend Of Yore
- Did you notice? 🙂 😀
- It Came From The Search Terms: The Lusty Month Of May
- #971: Fear of missing out on the work social scene: Everybody is hanging out without me.
- #970: “Dance class and stranger-sweat” or “How to tell someone they are stinky: A review.”
- #969: “When spouses don’t agree about birth control.”
- Weird Video Ad Behavior on WordPress.com
- #968: “How can I stop fat-shaming myself and enjoy my life?”
- #967: “Am I signing up to be a business partner or reluctant caretaker?”
- #966: “Boundaries, Love, Death, Denial, Manners, & Kink” or “1 Husband, 1 Lover, 1 Burned-Out Caregiver & The Next Five Years”
- #965: “My mom wants me to be her #1 sounding board and support system about her troubled marriage.”
- #964: The Case Of The Interrupting Coworkers
- #963: “My husband’s extreme environmental beliefs are a problem. How can I get him to give up this obsession?”
- May 21 Meetup In Decatur, Georgia
- #962: Mean grandparents and the middle ground.
- #961: My friendship is being suffocated by my friend’s overbearing spouse.
- #960: “Our friend hits women.”
- #959: “How much fighting in a new relationship is too much?” Spoiler: THIS IS WAY TOO MUCH/OH GOD BREAK UP NOW
- May London meetup
- #958: “How do I learn to be okay with an arranged marriage?”
- #957: “Do I have to move because of my husband’s allergies?”
- Links & Stuff
- #956: “How do I reassure someone I love about their body issues without being bitter about my own?”
- #955: “I’m in a rat trap of my own making.”
- #954: “I know that ‘a girlfriend is not a pacifier’ but I’m worried that I’m becoming a pacifier for my partner.”
- April London meetup
- #953: “I am anxious that I will become like the person who clung to and stalked me.”
- #952: “Respect and learning to drive.”
- #951: “My friend is A LOT right now.”
- It Came From The Search Terms: Sometimes It Snows In April
- March London meetup
- Interlude, March 13-28.
- #950: “I’m newly sober. How do I brush off ‘Thirteenth Steppers?’”
- #949: “Wedding dis-invitation.”
- #948: “My sister enjoys being the other woman…and telling me alllllll about it.”
- Bay Area Meetup March 12
- #947: I never learned how to say “No.”
- #AwkwardFriday Live Chat
- Guest Post! #946: I’m petrified of job-hunting.”
- #944 and #945: Dudes Who Come With A High Degree of Difficulty
- #943: “I’m being pressured by my family to reconcile with my estranged grandmother now that she’s dying.”
- #942: “A coworker invited herself along on my vacation.”
- Three Events: Chicago & Paris
- February meetup
- #941: How do I tell my parents I’m a) gay and b) married?
- #940: “My wedding is in 20 days and I think I gotta cancel.”
- It Came From The Search Terms: February Stars
- #939: “Don’t have the energy to interact with church members right now. What do I say?”
- #938: Supporting Immigrant Coworkers in the USA.
- #938: “My husband is dying and does not want to tell his parents. Should I intervene?”
- #937: “My manners are being corrected…annoyingly.”
- #936: “My best friend’s partner secretly records his guests while they are in the bathroom.”
- A beautiful short documentary about a woman artist by a woman artist
- #935: “Getting a co-parent to show up on time & explaining to the child that they aren’t to blame for the lateness.”
- London January meetup
- #934: “How do I keep myself together in order to leave a toxic work situation?”
- #933: “Should two bisexual, polyamorous sisters date the same guy?”
- #932: “My deceased Aunt was having an affair with a married dude. Should I tell his wife?”
- Open Thread: Updates
- Six years!
- #931: “I have said too much. How do you bounce back from social shame?”
- Small behaviors to leave in 2016: The Content-Free Interruption
- #930: Getting Rid of Unwanted Holiday Houseguests
- #929: “I said I’d be in someone’s wedding even though I wanted to fade out on our friendship. Now what?”
- #927 & #928 Gold, Frankincense, Myrrh, and The Sweet Gift of Breaking Up With Folks Who Just Aren’t Right For You
- Open Thread: Holiday Blues
- Open Thread: Celebration Station
- #926: How to deal with a well-meaning but controlling mother-in-law?
- #925: “The Muddled Tealeaves of Birthday Presents and the Giving Thereof”
- #924: “My job is killing me. How do I get out?”
- NYC December Meetup Sat. 12/17
- #923: The Freelancer’s Lament: How to politely say “eff you, pay me”?
- #922: “Is it selfish to break up with this person even though he’s not doing too well right now?”
- San Francisco Bay Area Meetup 12/11
- December London meetup – 4 year anniversary with shared food
- Awkward Live Chat Today
- #921: “Captain, can you e-slap some sense into me, please?” or, 12 steps for getting over a charismatic lying sexy jerkface.
- #920: “I have trouble forming or expressing opinions and it’s bugging my partner.”
- Thanksgiving Open Thread
- #919:”Metamour vetoed me, he wants a relationship anyway.”
- BTW, we’re in the LA Times
- Guest Post: A post-election guide to changing hearts and minds
- #918: “I’m no longer asexual and feel like I’m letting my community down.”
- November London meetup
- #917: “How to set boundaries with people who think boundaries and hurt are manipulative? AKA Help implementing boundary advice?”
- It Came From The Search Terms: November Has Come
- Link: The Southern Poverty Law Center/Responding To Everyday Bigotry
- #916: “Singleness is not a problem to be solved, so I can I get my family to stop trying to solve it for me?”
- Oh My Fucking God.
- #915: All In The Family Politics
- #914: “I broke ties with my abusive parents as an adult. Now what?”
- #913: “You don’t have to quit your day job right this second to follow a creative dream.”
- #912: “My partner says he’s probably done with our relationship. How can I convince him to stay and work it out?”
- October London meetup
- #911: “People keep asking for my crush’s info, and it pisses me off.”
- ONE MORE SLEEP
- #910: “I ghosted on my counselor. Should I apologize?”
- Guest Post: #909 “I Should Be Able To Do Money…But I Can’t”
- Awkward Live Chat: Now
- It Came From The Search Terms: September Morn
- NYC Meetup October 8
- Introducing Story Hospital
- #908: “Staying the night with someone carries a lot of intimacy weight for me. How do I manage my feelings about that with potential partners?”
- #907: “My hyper-vigilant work bully is bringing up all my old issues about being watched & judged.”
- #906: “Anxious that my mom might try to connect me with an old schoolmate.”
- #905: “I’m a college student who doesn’t drink. How can I make my peers understand that without killing the mood?”
- #904: “My husband is moving away. None of my friends know we were even having problems. How to tell the news?”
- #903: “I have to be very strict about food just now. How to tell family/friends?”
- September London meetup
- #902: “My Grandma made a huge fuss when I got a tattoo.”
- #901: “I was dumped by my theater group. Now what?”
- #900: “It’s been two years. My sister is still mad that I did not choose her as my Maid of Honor at my wedding.”
- #899: “Disclosing a long-ago marriage and divorce feels awkward.”
- #898: “My friend’s wife loathes at least half of us but comes to our weekly games night to hang out anyway.”
- #897: “Every time I invite our friends to something, this person suggests a competing event.”
- #896: “One wedding, one funeral, and a crapton of sibling conflict.”
- New York City MeetUp, September 10
- #895: “Ugh, my mom re-married my jerk stepdad. How do I make it clear to his family that I don’t want to be a part of them?”
- How/when to talk to a woman wearing headphones
- #894: “My boyfriend broke up with me and I think it’s all a huge mistake. How do I process this?”
- It Came From The Search Terms: “August October”
- #893: “I want to leave my husband but I can’t seem to make myself go.” Also, it’s Pledge Drive Week.
- #892: How do I get my sister to pay me the money she owes me?
- August London meetup and bonus extra Nine Worlds meetup
- #891: “My neighbor has decided that he is the boss of me.”
- #890: “I have chronic pain and need to quit my job. How do I tell a) my boss and b) my skeptical parents?”
- #888 & #889: “That thing you did is not cool, friend.”
- #887: “Naming myself.”
- #886: “I’m very anxious about an upcoming work trip. Can you help me figure out how to be professional and take care of myself?”
- #885: “My psychiatrist is not okay. How do I help her?”
- #884: “Christmas In July”
- #883: “My husband hates his job and I’m tired of hearing about it.”
- #882: “I asked my sister to stop criticizing me, and now she uses her 5-year-old to do it for her.”
- #881: “Does privacy exist after death?”
- July London meetup
- #880: “You should be more independent (Even though I hover over every aspect of your life):” A Paradox
- #879: “I want to hang out with my cool former coworkers but NOT my toxic manager:” On bouncing back after leaving a terrible job.
- #878: “My nephews have frozen me out, what can I do about it?”
- #877: “Stop texting me about your questionable exploits, bro.”
- #876: Loneliness and Anticlimax
- #875: “How do I get my friends to stop meddling and pushing me toward relationships?”
- #874: The #1 Requirement For Someone Being “The One” For You
- #873: “My friend might be pregnant and our friends are not taking it well.”
- #872: Dating strategies that don’t involve the phrase “breaking the touch barrier.”
- #871: Love & Friendship in the Time of Xenophobia
- Manchester UK Meetup on June 25
- June London meetup – knitting and other crafts
- #870: “I was ghosted by my faculty advisor. How should we interact now?”
- #869: “My friend kissed me and then told me I don’t share his values.”
- #868: “Why don’t you visit more?” “Idk, why don’t YOU visit more?”
- #867: “My partner constantly harasses me about my weight. Any advice?”
- #866: Talking to My Partner about Sexual Incompatibility
- #865: “How Not To Volunteer”
- #864: “Neighbor and Animal Welfare Concerns”
- #863: “Have I settled?”
- #862: Q: “Does my boyfriend actually love me?” A: “Who knows? He treats you like crap, so time to go!”
- #860 “When does having faith become stupid?” and #861 “Neat Freak Babysitter”
- #859: “My husband’s clingy friend is ruining his life but he won’t do anything about it.”
- May London meetup
- #858: “My long distance bf just completely disappeared, please help!”
- Kansas City Meetup May 7
- #857: “I thought I made it clear that I just wanted to be friends but apparently not.”
- #856: “Let’s totally do that thing together….sometime.” (Time, Planning, & Boundaries)
- #855: Overcoming Imposter Syndrome And Accessing Mental Health Support
- #854: “Is it ethical to ‘fire’ a disruptive workshop participant?”
- #852 & #853 Goofus and Gallant Attempt Mentoring Young Women
- #851: We’re adopting a child and my husband’s family has many crap opinions (crapinions) about that. How to keep the peace?
- April London meetup
- #849: What do I owe the awkward dude who won’t take no for an answer and shows up at my work? (Spoiler: NOTHING)
- #850: Grad school and emotional labor and Mike
- #848: Suggestive Comment Guy Strikes Another Friend Group!
- Funky Comment Deletion Behavior
- #847: “I’ve become an impromptu therapist for an internet stranger.”
- #846: A romantic partner is not a pacifier, part II.
- #845: A girlfriend is not a pacifier.
- #844: “Bracing myself for when conservative relatives find out about my gender transition.”
- #843: “My friend doesn’t respect my apartment rules.”
- #842: “I have a much-older boyfriend who has seven kids. Is my situation ok?”
- #841: “It’s only a matter of time before I ruin his life.”
- Portland, Oregon – March 13
- #840: “I need help saying no to my family about finances.”
- #839: “What do I owe Darth?”
- March 12 London Meetup
- #838: “Alcohol-abusing, depressed, long-distance boyfriend…”
- #837: Mismatched efforts in bed.
- #836: “How do I apologize for my mean drunk friend’s behavior to my other friends?”
- #835: Getting meetings back on track when a small group won’t focus.
- #834: “My mom keeps gifting me with stuff that isn’t just stuff.”
- #833: When your spouse won’t set boundaries with your in-laws.
- #830, #831 and #832: Boundaries and the power of “no!”
- #829: When your harasser applies for a job where you work.
- #828: Can you live with your ex? (Spoiler: Not this time!)
- London Meetup, Feb 13
- #825, #826, #827: The Art of Losing Is Actually Pretty Hard To Master
- #824: “My mom is obsessed with my looks and my weight.”
- #823: Another Day, Another Creepy Dude Who Doesn’t Deserve Friends
- #822: PSA that answers about 10 current letters
- #821: “I want to reconcile with my abusive mom, but it’s up to you, honey!”
- #820: “Six months in and things are not good.”
- They didn’t even know it was my birthday…
- #819: ‘Ware The “Frozen Chosen”
- #818: Imposter Syndrome strikes again!
- #817: “Death, strained relationships, and ‘what if?’”
- #816 “A new relationship that should be great is complicated.”
- Portland, OR Meetup Jan 31
- Meetups: Bay Area (Jan 17) and London (Jan 16)
- #815 “I failed, big-time, a few years ago, and even though I’ve bounced back it’s still affecting my self-confidence.”
- #814: “You’re not doing anything wrong, but stop it!”
- #813: Labor & Leisure
- Holiday Open Thread: BLUE CHRISTMAS
- Holiday Open Thread: CHEER EDITION
- #812: “Coming out as transgender at the holidays.”
- #811: “Jewelry ambush!”
- #810: Couchsurfing etiquette
- #809: Gold, Frankincense, Myrrh, and Judgement
- #808: How do I return unwanted gifts after a breakup?
- #807: “He who is selfish in bed should probably sleep alone from now on.”
- #806 Trivia Night & Drunk Math
- #804 and #805: “Crap texts from a dude.*”
- London & Northern Virginia/D.C. Meetups
- Portland, Oregon on Dec. 6
- #803: My daughter is dating someone incompatible, please help! (+ “Oh wait, there’s more….)
- #802: “My dad insists on talking to me in baby-talk. I am 30.”
- #801: Why can’t other people care about school as much as I do?
- #800: F is for “Family, Finances & Feelings.” D is for “Disengage.”
- Welcome, BuzzFeeders.
- Ugh….Holidays. (Open Thread)
- Happy Holidays! Open Thread!
- #799: “Weak Female Lead”
- #798: Roommate’s procrastination is making it awfully hot/cold in here.
- #797: Hark, Yon Sinful Bed Of The Unmarried!
- #796: Reassurances for a LW with some bathroom embarrassment.
- #792, #793, #794, & #795: Variations on the Unfixable
- #791: Feeling slighted and unmoored in a friendship and looking for ways to connect.
- #790: The Thanksgiving Guilt Trip
- Seattle is ALSO meeting up November 14.
- #789: Rejection never feels awesome, no matter how it’s delivered.
- #788: “Hesitant” is another word for “no.”
- London Awkward Meetup, November 14
- #787: Trouble dealing with male grad students who take up all the air
- #786: Trapped by a doomed love
- #785: Difficult Mom Wants To Be Closer
- #784: The Geek Social Fallacy Host – Missing Stair Guest Relationship
- #783: How do I tell my dysfunctional folks I’m not spending the holidays with them this year?
- #782: Splitting holidays with not-so-blended families.
- #781: “The whole family agrees with me!” and other manipulative logic.
- #780: My creative partner’s girlfriend might be jealous of our new project.
- #779: Cool, attentive boyfriend or a Klingon dressed in Cling-wrap?
- “I want to break up, but partner is in the middle of painful life stuff and it doesn’t feel like the right time. What do I do?”
- #778: The crimson flags of unsolicited reassurances.
- #777: “Help me process some writing feedback.” Challenge accepted!
- #776: “How do I help my recovering friend navigate a visit with his abusive family?”
- #775: “Mom, stop leaving your anxiety-mouse on my doormat.”
- #774: “Am I being a jerk about my partner’s appearance?”
- #773: Grandparents, visits, and boundaries
- #772: Divorce and holiday gift etiquette
- #771: Apology or Apologia?
- #770: Coworker’s thoughtless comments are triggering me.
- #769: Thanks for inviting me to your work meetings, new boyfriend!
- London: Meeting up on October 17.
- #766, #767, #768: Awkward friendships, ahoy!
- #765: Asking for the truth behind family secrets.
- #764: Darth Vader + Guns = Bad
- Links
- #763: Being supportive when your friend’s troubles are of their own making.
- #762: Helicopter parents and moving out.
- #760 & 761: “Housemates: Can’t live with ’em, can’t fix ’em.”
- #759: U R NOT 2 PICKY IF U HAVE PREFERENCES
- It Came From The Search Terms: Wake Me Up When September Ends
- #758: What even is love
- #757: Aging, grief, and STUFF: A f*load of feelings
- #756: “How do I confront my long-term boyfriend with evidence of infidelity?”
- #755: “Cool story(s), friend. Can someone else talk now?”
- #754: Just say no to love triangles.
- #753: The awkward aftermath of ending a friendship with someone you still run into all the time.
- #752: “My roommate is acting like my teenaged son.”
- #751: The post-wedding blues
- Totally Off Topic: “Icky Fic” aka Hannibal-inspired Poetry/Open Thread
- #750: “Mutual friends I think are ill-suited to one another have started dating each other.”
- #749: “Just join FetLife and be done with it.”
- #748: I feel responsible for my friend’s suicide and his family agrees.
- #747: Being the unwilling emotional caryatid in your house
- #746: Breaking Up…Much Older Boyfriend edition
- #745: Are plans really important?
- #744: Informing someone you’re not talking to anymore about STI risks
- London Meetup September 12
- #743: How can I be a good friend to my friends with kids?
- #742: The Touchy-Feely Neighbor
- #741: Visiting parents and a short “Boundary Practice” course.
- #740: Roles, evolution, and the risks and rewards of big honesty.
- #739: I love my friend but their Jerkbrain is draining the life out of our conversations.
- #738: Analysis paralysis, crushes, ethics, and risk.
- #737: “How do I explore bisexuality from inside a committed relationship with a man?”
- #736: “Stop asking me if I’m okay!”
- Y’all read “Ask Polly”, right?
- #735: “A work-friend wants to drastically escalate the closeness of our friendship. How do I (nicely) rebalance things between us?”
- #734: “I’ve just figured out that I’m asexual. How do I hook my husband up with other partners to meet his needs?”
- #733: “I’m a Part-Time Vegetarian. How do I get people to stop commenting on my food choices?”
- #732: “My daughter’s partner ‘doesn’t fit in with our family’.”
- #731: Backseat drivers and boundaries and bridges-too-far
- San Francisco/Bay Area Meetup August 9
- #730: Social media surveillance and the possibly creepy freelance client.
- #729 Shutting Down Nosey Strangers
- #728: Baby names, opinions, and old wounds.
- #727: Fade out or flame out?
- #726: “I want to talk to my *friend,* not my professional-advice-giver friend.”
- #725: “How do I get out of the middle of a situation that I set up?”
- #724: “We may be one big happy (step)family someday, but today is not that day, Dad.”
- #723: “Am I immature if I think my boyfriend is too intertwined with his ex?”
- London: July 18 MeetUp and Nine Worlds UK
- #722: “This is my dance space. That is your dance space.”
- #721: The Feelings Hangover From An Unspoken Crush
- #720: Planning a wedding when your dad is not a good dad.
- #719: “Conceal, don’t feel” or, when it takes forever to love people.
- #718: How can I be more assertive about last minute invitations from difficult family?
- #717: “My internet buddy: THE HULK.”
- #716: Dating and Disclosure
- It Came From The Search Terms: Busting out all over!
- #715: “I am not here for your talk of boys.”
- 714: “How late is too late to repair a friendship?”
- London Meetup : June 20
- #713: “I’m ready to graduate from the kids’ table.”
- #712: “You’re not still mad at me, are you?”
- #711: Is it rude or wrong to invite myself to someone’s house?
- #710: I love my volunteers (but not the racist ones).
- Maybe WordPress.com “improved” the interface again?
- #709: Stranger Mansplainer Danger
- It Came From The Search Terms: The Lusty Month of May
- #708: My friends promised me feedback on my novel, but then never came through. What now?
- #706 and #707: Coworker Conflicts
- New York Meetup May 23, with special guest Kate-from-London
- Small Safety Reminder Time
- #705: How do I wrestle family visits and conversations back from Uncle Pundit?
- London Meetup, 16 May
- #704: Planning family trips when there is one difficult traveler who complains about all of the plans.
- #703: Same Song, Different Day: “Someone told me they don’t want to be with me. How can I change their mind?”
- #702: “I told my best friend about my romantic feelings, and she doesn’t share them. What do I do to show her I truly care for her?”
- 701: “How do I care for my ill and grieving mom when I am stretched so thin myself?”
- LA MeetUp, May 10
- #700: Asking for help vs. maintaining privacy and a safe space when you’re in the middle of a messy thing.
- #699: Thanking former professors after an awkward period of silence.
- #698: Semi-annual reminder that asking a person why they dumped you bears the risk that they might tell you.
- #697 “My narcissistic craphole dad likes to glom onto my achievements. How do I stop him from ruining my next big thing?”
- #696: “My mom went snooping through my stuff and found my sex toys.”
- #695: My roommate always lets me know when she can hear me having sex.
- #694: How do I get out of mandatory corporate yoga retreat and keep my career intact?
- London Meetup, April 25th
- #693: When should I trust relationship advice and when should I trust my gut?
- #692: My boss wants me to call the person who used to have my position…the person who was fired…and pump her for information.
- #690 and #691: One of life’s saddest lessons is that people don’t have to be awful or evil to be not quite right for you.
- DC MEETUP + Link Love
- #689: Did I overreact when my date told me a story about rape and then wanted to get me alone?
- #688: Parents, appearance, and opinions.
- It Came From The Search Terms: April Is The Cruelest Month
- #687: My boyfriend won’t stop trying to fix me.
- #686: “Help, I’m being pressured to attend funerals by a manipulative family member.”
- #685: “Quit touching!”: A review
- Los Angeles Meetup, April 19
- Links & Sundries
- #684: My boss brought a machete to a disciplinary meeting with staff.
- #683: My boyfriend insists on coming along everywhere I go and constantly worries that I’ll leave him. (Spoiler: You probably will.)
- #682: Redirecting my friends away from expensive dinner invitations.
- #681: Consent Basics: It takes two to decide to be friends and only one to say “Nope!”
- #680: Dealing with unhelpful and unsolicited attempts at conversion.
- March London Meetup
- #679: Dealing with unhelpful and unsolicited critiques of your creative work.
- #678 “Am I the next Bill Cosby?” No, thankfully. You’re just really sexist.
- #677 Was that a date, or, “Should I forget about her and move on?”
- Personal note
- Seattle Meetup March 14
- #676: Romantic or creepy?
- Awkward Meet & Geek, Chicago, March 18 plus a gross story about farts/”Manners” Open Thread
- #675: Can the circle please be broken? (When your friends like your ex even after he’s your ex).
- #674: Anything you can do, a dude can patiently and logically tell you how you should have done it better.
- It Came From The Search Terms: February (just under the wire!)
- #673: My insufferable brother is ruining all the time I spend with my family + Winter Pledge Drive.
- #672 My friend will hire a babysitter to go on dates, but never to see her friends.
- #671: Planning a family and already anticipating difficulties with Grandma.
- #670: Dudes who “just don’t form emotional attachments.”
- #669: “My partner’s wife is a People-Pleaser. Good news, I am a Fixer!”
- #664, #665, #666, and #667: Four Questions From People Who Are Basically Fine
- #662 and #663: “My Friend, The Skeptic.”
- London Gathering, 21 February
- #660 and #661: Certain Doom and Poetry
- #659: Second thoughts and confusing feelings after a breakup
- St. Valentine’s Snippets + #658
- #657: Asshole-to-English Translator: “You just like leading guys on” = “I am a creepy asshole who doesn’t think you are allowed to say ‘no.’”
- #656: How can I ask my friends to do some matchmaking on my behalf?
- #655: Visits With Highly Difficult People
- Spam filter is hungry like Pac-Man
- It Came From The Search Terms: “Deep January”
- #654 Am I “sex negative” if I don’t enjoy it when my friend brings up sex in every single conversation with me?
- #653: “Help, I’m dating a Men’s Rights Activist”
- #652: Operation: How Do I People?
- Self-Care Stuff/Update
- Meetups: London (January 10), Awkward Meet & Geek (January 15), Chicago (January 17)
- #651 How do I tell people what I “do” if I’m not employed?
- #649 Revisited & Some Blog Admin
- #649 and #650: Making Room for the Ones You Love (Is How They Know You Love Them)
- Bristol Meetup, 6 December
- London 2 Year Anniversary Meetup & other sundry announcements.
- Awkward Meet & Geek, Chicago, December 11
- It Came From The Search Terms: Cold November Rain (aka Freezing Jerkwater From The Sky)
- #648: “On dates, I feel like I am making all the conversational efforts.”
- When My Mom Was An Astronaut
- It was the best of times, it was the worst of times: Sad Winter Holiday Thread
- Winter Holidays Open Thread…for people who LOVE the holidays.
- #647: “To bang or not to bang, that is (literally) the question”
- #646 “I feel guilty about quitting a job I have hated for the last 10 years.”
- #645 Talking About Food and Animals and Justice
- #644: Keeping people on task when you run the meeting.
- #643: The stinking pile of wordpoop that is “I’m not going to choose a side.”
- Traveling
- London Meetup, 15 November
- Story Club Magazine is out.
- #642: My boyfriend’s toxic friend.
- #641: “The Eli Roth-level torture of interacting with former coworkers.”
- #640: “I know he would never physically hurt me” and other fairy tales.
- Chicago Meet & Geek for Single People November 13 @Geek Bar Beta
- #639: My sister-in-law’s creepy ex won’t stop emailing me.
- #638: I came out to my coworkers as a lesbian, how do I tell them that the partner I keep mentioning is actually a dude?
- Munich Meetup 28 October
- Open Thread: How are we being nice to ourselves lately?
- #637: Am I being just as mean to my mean sister if I ignore her for a while?
- #636: I want my parents to get divorced.
- #635: My partner’s condescending, bossy behavior is shrinking our social life.
- The October Project: Search Terms
- #634: My family hasn’t acknowledged my wedding or tried to get to know my new husband.
- #633: My (mean)(depressed) friend
- #632: My friend thinks it’s unfair when his dates bring up the possibility of having kids someday.
- London Meetup, 11 October
- #631: How do I break the news that I’m moving in with my boyfriend to my conservative family?
- #628: How do I care for my suicidal mom?
- #629: I can’t stop comparing people to my “perfect” ex and #630: Why won’t he make a move?
- #627: I married the wrong person. Now what?
- #626: Self-care tip: Stop auditioning for the approval of people who dislike you
- #625 Dodgy older dudes being dodgy
- #624: My friends can’t read my husband’s emotions they way I can, so they hurt his feelings by accident.
- #623 “Is it weird that my boyfriend won’t introduce me to his friends?”
- September 13, London Meetup
- #622: “Love Him, Love His Kids?”
- #620 and #621 Creepy Ladies
- #619: I want my partner to kiss me (and to make more of an effort in our relationship).
- #618: My ex is pushing me out of our friend group.
- It Came From the Search Terms: August And Everything After
- #617: All The Dating Advice, Again
- #616: Where should we live? & Summer Pledge Drive Day 1
- Twin Cities Meetup, 8/23
- #615: How do you make “let’s be friends” work after a break-up?
- #614: Saying “no, but thanks!” after a date someone set you up on.
- #613: How do I reach out to my friends who have depression?
- #610, #611, and #612: Variations on Kissing The Boss
- #609: Tips for finding the first rung on the career ladder.
- ICYMI, Recent Advice for TV characters @IndieWire
- Seattle Meetup: Today (August 9)
- Advice on love, identity, vaginas, and stand-up comedy
- Washington, DC Meetup August 16
- #608: My partner wants to move in together, but I don’t feel comfortable combining finances with him.
- #607: Do I have to stop drinking entirely because my boyfriend is in recovery?
- #606: How do I come out to my abusive parents about being on antidepressants?
- #605: How do I help my home-schooled brother get the education he should have had as a kid?
- Munich Meetup, August 8
- #604: Is there a Hallmark card for “I got divorced?”
- #603: “I can’t stop cheating on my perfect boyfriend.”
- UK Meetups: London, August 2 and Bristol, August 16
- “Guess I’ll Go Eat Worms”: Loneliness Link & Open Thread
- #601 and #602: Bodies and money and shame when you have nothing to be ashamed of.
- #600: How do I “help” my friend (my friend I’m totally in love with)?
- Shapely Prose Tent Revival: Please do not literally torture yourself, ever
- Portland Meetup August 2.
- York LEGO Exhibit Meetup, July 26
- #599: It’s awkward when I run into my former students. How can I get better at these interactions?
- Chicago Meetup, July 20
- #598: “I’m their roommate, not their child.”
- Recent Indiewire Columns
- #597: How do I learn to take criticism better?
- Hello, Awkwardeers, We’re Famous
- #596: There Are More Dudes on Heaven And Earth Than Are Dreamt Of In Your Philosophy
- London Meetup, July 12
- Shall I Compare Thee To a Summer’s Day? July Search Terms
- #595: Q: How do I stop being so grumpy at people who are monopolizing my time and attention? A: Speak up!
- Guest Post: Breaking The Low Mood Cycle
- Vacation
- #594: My boyfriend won’t watch my favorite TV show
- Today: Brooklyn Meetup/IndieWire
- #593: “You’re not invited”, a “use your words” classic.
- #592: Am I sabotaging my academic career by dating a guy with no degree; or, how is Academia like Reality TV?
- #591: How do I tell my nosy mom about my ummfriend?
- #590: I want my partner and I to be able to check in with each other about our feelings (mostly my feelings).
- Stuff I Made: Advice for TV Characters and A Short Film For You
- #589: Genuine work feedback or infantilization?
- Search Terms Bonus Round
- #588: Can we please stop body shaming ourselves and each other as a form of female bonding?
- #587: Renegotiating a friendship with Velcro Victor
- #586: Splitting the bill with people who always forget their wallet.
- #585: My church community is angry at me for dating an atheist.
- Victoria, BC Meetup June 14 and Story Club South Side June 17
- #584: The Elephant In The Room is in the room.
- Boston Meetup, June 7
- Notes From A Boner
- It Came From The Search Terms: The Jidoon are on the Moon in June
- Chicago Meetup (June 28) and London Meetup/Terrible Book Swap (June 14)
- #583: The Worry Wyvern and The Dragon of Disappointment
- #581 There is no way to know in advance what will happen to your heart & #582 But sometimes there are things you can do to protect it.
- Pardon The Dust
- #579 and #580 “I’m so sorry for your loss” “No loss, really!”
- #578 again + Once I Was Cool
- #578: How do I tell my parents that my spouse and I are thinking of starting a family? Spoiler: Don’t just yet.
- #577: Being pushed to forgive because faaaaaaaamily
- #573, #574, #575 and #576: Applying the Sheelzebub Principle
- #572: My parents married a lady, but that doesn’t make her my mom, does it?
- #571: How do I get my brother-in-law to stop making me feel like crap?
- #570: Stuff you ask your partner vs. stuff you tell your partner
- #569: My parents want to bring a date to my wedding.
- #568: My fiance finds my anxiety and dream to live “anywhere but here” extremely inconvenient.
- Moderator hat temporarily off
- #567: I want to propose to my dude but the culture is telling me I’m not s’posed to. What if I mess it up? + A Compendium (hopefully) of Thoughts On Lasting Love
- Toronto (June 7) & London (May 17) Meetups
- Entitlement much?
- It Came From The Search Terms: May Flowers
- Chicago Meetup 5/17
- #566: My closest friend broke off our friendship, and now I don’t know how to stop feeling lonely and isolated.
- #565: When your friend gushes about her new boyfriend and all of her “cute” stories are actually horrifying.
- #564: I’m dreading the prospect of a summer houseguest, but I feel like I can’t say no.
- Melbourne Meetup, May 11
- Question for the readers: Doing the Impossible
- #563: I have a hard enough time making friends for myself. How do I navigate the special hell that is arranging playdates for my children?
- It Came From The Search Terms, April Showers Edition
- Munich Meetup April 17
- #562: My friend and collaborator has gone AWOL on our project. How do I get them to focus again without ruining our relationship?
- #561: “I had an affair with a married guy three years ago. His wife just found out and rang me up.”
- London & Bay Area Meetups: April 12
- #560: It’s *your* party, so why would you invite people who put you on edge?
- #559: Does “can’t be in a relationship right now” always mean “…with you”? Spoiler: Yup. Sorry.
- #558: Help I’m boring
- #557: That’s just one dude’s opinion/Annual reminder that “why did you break up with me?” is not a question you actually want answered.
- ## 556: What’s the difference between “can’t” and “I’m scared, don’t wanna?”
- #555: Carts, Horses, and the Order of Operations
- Victoria, BC Meetup March 22
- It Came From The Search Terms: SMARCH
- #554: The Mirror of Confusion
- #553 I’m following my heart, so why won’t my friends root for me?
- #552: Crossing Paths with Darth-of-Old
- March 1 London Meetup
- #551: What does it mean when a dating partner is “worried that they might be using me?”
- #549: I was promoted above my peers and now they are punishing me and #550: Do I need to tell my boss I’m looking around at other opportunities?
- #548: I met a cool person to flirt with and I’m scared of what to do next.
- Twin Cities and Melbourne Meetups, February 16
- Bristol, UK Meetup March 15
- PSA for the shy, sexually inexperienced, maybe-queer, maybe-bi, maybe-asexual ladies who send me letters about finding someone to snuggle and/or date:
- #547: “Is it my anxiety or is my relationship dodgy?” Spoiler: Holy fuckshit, IT’S THE DODGIEST
- #546: Counter-Intuitive Friendship Fixing Advice: The Be Nice To Yourself Project
- #545: My old friend was great when we lived close, but has gotten very mean from a distance.
- York, UK Meetup, 2/15
- #544 My extroverted roommates come and “kidnap” me when I want to be alone.
- Single, horny people looking to survive this freezing hellscape…
- #542: The Butt Dial of Jealousy and Specious Accusations
- #541: What kind of financial “help” do I “owe” my uncle?
- #540: My sister is making my visits home a nightmare.
- London Meetup, February First
- #539 “Old New Friends”
- #538: Forgiving a Friend’s Darth Vader
- #537: How Can I Suggest Ways for People to Actually Be Supportive?
- #536: My face is a blushing traitor, and creepy older dudes have definitely noticed.
- Twin Cities Meetup, 1/19
- #535: Forgiveness, patience, and other traps.
- It Came from the Search Terms, 14 for 2014
- Chicago Meetup 1/19
- #534: Cancer support or pity dating?
- Happy Blogaversary and New Year!
- January London Meetup
- Winter Hols
- #533: Can I bar my son’s unlikeable girlfriend from family events?
- #532: Maybe throw a little money at this problem of holiday sleeping arrangements?
- #531: When a parent wants you to be their marriage counselor.
- #530: Annual Holiday Reminder: You Don’t Have to “Celebrate” With People Who Treat You Like Crap
- #529: (un)Fun with tenses: You HAD an abuser. You HAVE a stalker.
- #528 Reaching out (and coming out) to exes after a long time away.
- It Came From the Search Terms
- #527 Creepers d’Un Certain Age, Business Edition.
- December London Meetup
- #526: I’m worried that my long-distance fiance a) cheats on me b) is keeping me a secret.
- #525: Discouraging The Too-Friendly Neighbor
- #524: How do I fight with my partner without ruining everything?
- #523: Life with a no-good, very bad terrible driver
- Seattle Meetup, December 4
- #522: Dealing with chatty racist strangers
- Twin Cities AND Baltimore MeetupS, November 24
- #521: Awkward vs. Not Really Into You – how to tell?
- #520: Getting your stuff back from a Darth Vader ex
- #519: When your work friend becomes your work Nice Guy
- #518: I broke up with my mean friend, so why do I still miss her?
- #517: Closure, continued. Who owns the story after a breakup?
- #516: Accepting a family member’s African Violet with grace
- London. November. Origami. Awkwardness.
- Favorite Things, Late October Edition
- Moderation
- Predator Prevention – Links
- Meetups Galore + #515: Easygoing vs. Picky: How to fight with your friends.
- Your friend isn’t “a batshit harpie,” she’s sad and handling it very badly.
- Upcoming Chicago Readings
- Like we’ve been saying…
- #514: Justifying Your Deviance From Ordinary In A Work Setting
- Twin Cities Meetup, 10/13
- Impromptu Oxford, UK Meetup: THIS WEEKEND!
- Bristol, UK is meeting up.
- October London Meetup Will Have Bonus Terrible Books
- Forums are live!
- Transmedia Project on Emotional Health & Wellbeing – Chicago
- The Books You Always Find Yourself Recommending Open Thread (updated)
- #513: “Frenemy” is a ridiculous made-up word that is occasionally accurate, or, The Case of the Passive-Aggressive Co-worker
- You’ve got forums! Or, soon will have.
- London Meet-up, 9/14. Bring crayons.
- Teachin’ All Day
- #512: Can I quit my unpaid internship?
- #511: When you find out that someone you care about is mean.
- #510: Falling out of love with your creative work and losing momentum
- Twin Cities Meetup 9/8
- #508 & #509: Friendship, Attachment Styles & Boundaries
- Off-To-College Open Thread
- #506 & #507: It is 2fucking0fucking1fucking3, so why is it so hard to divide up household chores?
- Open Thread: Long Distance Relationships (+ Pledge Drive Day 2)
- #505: Star-crossed or just incompatible? + Summer Pledge Drive Begins
- #504: Replying to The Council of Unsolicited Advisors
- #503: Education, love, money, family, foreign adventures & THE ENTIRE FUTURE OF EVERYTHING
- #501 & #502: When directness > “nice”
- #500: Online Dating for Scaredy-Cats, or, Why The “Overthinking It” Tag Was Created
- Guest Post #499: Muddling Productively In Search of Romance
- #498: Transitive Opinions, Discretion, and Drama
- Heartbreak Open Thread
- #497: On “keeping the peace” with an unlikeable mansplainer
- Guest Post #496: I No Longer Have Pantsfeelings for the Only Partner I’ve Had
- London Meeting Up This Weekend
- #495: Snarky Comebacks for Sexists in Academia
- Adding to what Bookslut said….
- #494: I want to try ALL THE THINGS with my new sex partner, but I’m worried my enthusiasm will make it weird.
- Misc. News
- Fruitvale Station
- Job Search Red Flags & Due Diligence
- Chosen Family Open Thread
- Forecast: Sunny with a chance of pie
- Breaking News: Tuesday Emergency Dance Party
- #493: I’m tired of being trans.
- The Monthly London Meetup is Almost Upon Us!
- Anxiety Open Thread
- Little things that people say that totally shift your perspective.
- #492: I am so not into the whole dating thing. How do I talk about that with people who are?
- St. Louis Awkward Meetup
- #491: A dream job is taking me back to the city I left 10 years ago to escape my abusive family. How can I keep myself safe?
- #490: Should I tell my friend her boyfriend is cheating on her? She has a history of shooting the messenger.
- #489: A brief bullet-pointed tale of woe, or, the infernal temptation of “closure.”
- Bristol Meetup/Journalist Request/Reading in August
- Search Terms Quickies
- #488: My friend’s new hobby is grossing everyone out, and, he likes it that way.
- #487: I use a wheelchair, and people are condescending as fuck.
- #486: Feeling lonely in a relationship and worried about self-sabotage
- #485: Settling the Chaos Muppet within
- IndieFlix Giveaway Winners
- #484: “How do I minimize embarrassment when telling a partner that I have a body and a past?”
- #483: Dealing with a friend’s caustic partner
- Meetups: Saturday in London, OccuPie in Chicago Tonight!
- #482: Sexy drunk texts vs. sober rejection: I don’t know what to believe!
- #481: My parents acquired a friend for me (with a gross, moldy congealed side of stalking).
- #480: Post-breakup friend custody with a gross congealed moldy side of stalking
- Links and a rare promotion/giveaway
- Friday Open Thread: Recipes and Books
- #479: Trying to be more social when you have serious dietary restrictions
- Notice!
- #478: RSVP/Invitation Etiquette
- Open Thread: New parents, how’s it going?
- A fake holiday we can get behind
- By The Way, Meet Vera Stark in Chicago & Meetup in Boston
- Bristol, Sheffield, & Asheville Meetups
- Boston Smiling and Eye Contact Meetup
- #477 – Again (plus Letter Writer’s response).
- #477: I have anxiety that women will have anxiety about me approaching them.
- #475: How do I help my lonely husband make some friends? and #476: Tired of the same old college scene
- #474: How do I get my coworker to shut up?
- #473: A gentle breakup is still a breakup.
- #470, #471 and #472: Correcting Names
- #468 and #469: “Hey, knock it off”, or, Constructive Conflict, Continued.
- #467: How do I help my partner communicate better with his family?
- London Meetup April 20
- #466: Possessive friend is weirding me out/A constructive conflict review.
- #465: Life after Darth
- LA Times: “How not to say the wrong thing.”
- #464: My mom died and my dad started having sex with men. A LOT of men. Should I talk to him about it?
- #463: Help me stop being mean.
- Asheville, North Carolina is Meeting Up April 30
- London Meetup + #462: When is it time to cut off communication with abusive family?
- #461: My partner makes hurtful jokes about my health situation.
- #460: Boundaries are good, even if other people don’t enjoy it when you set them.
- Open Thread
- Non-therapy help for your brain + meet awkward people in New York City
- #459: Do I have to destroy my health to be in grad school?
- #458: Things are great, so we don’t have to ever talk about feelings, right?
- What is an introvert? #456 & #457: Communication Expectations
- Guest Post! What to expect when you call a helpline/hotline.
- #455: Jealousy & Crushes in High School
- NYC Meetup March 16
- #454: Darth Vader is a tricksy hobbit.
- London Meetup, sneaking up on us
- #453: Guest Post: How Do I Come Out to My Mom?
- Cohabitation Situations: Ambivalence Deliverance (#451) & Eviction Prescription (#452)
- #450: How to tighten up your game at work when you’re depressed.
- Happy Valentine’s Day!
- #449: I hate my job, I’m broke, my commute sucks, and I maybe want to be a writer.
- #448: How do I accept compliments?
- #446 and #447: Aging, family, and boundaries
- More UK meetups: Bristol (March 9) and York (March 2).
- #446: The Territorial Friend and The Pollyanna Defense
- #445: My brother is marrying a stranger!
- #444: “Do we hug? Because my feeling is that no, we don’t.”
- #443: Ending the reign of FEELINGSTERROR (slight edit)
- #442: Clearing the air (but only if you feel like it) + Pledge Drive Week (but only if you feel like it).
- #441: Feeling my way as live-in girlfriend to father of an 11-year-old girl
- #440: “It’s time to get out of my abusive home, but I am afraid to accept help.”
- #439: The dynamic duo of mansplainers
- #438: You get to choose your own happiness.
- Can men and women be friends? An essay and a website launch.
- #437: Adulthood Is A Scary Horse
- #437: Out of the frying pan, into the adjacent teakettle of badness.
- #436: What can I do to get to know my coworkers better?
- #435: Getting the silent treatment for an honest mistake.
- London Meetup, Northwestern Talk, and Kink-Friendly Advice
- #434: Just me and my shadow, trying to network.
- #433: What if my past as a sex worker hurts my current employment chances?
- #432: I’m pregnant, I hate small talk, UGH: A Compendium
- #431 : I want to have sex for all the wrong reasons.
- Open Thread: Crushes
- #429 & #430: When depression is contagious.
- #428: My crush told everyone about my crush.
- #426 & #427: E-blasts from the past.
- #425: Baby, it’s freezing in here.
- Seattle & Toronto Awkward Meetups
- #422: Setting expectations about frequency of communication.
- #423 & #424: Relationships aren’t transitive.
- #421: If he wanted to be your boyfriend, he’d be your boyfriend.
- #420: Did that date go well? I can’t tell.
- #419: My friend’s jokes are The Worst. Also, why do we talk about ending friendships forever so much on this blog?
- #418: My mom wants me to prioritize caring for my sister over caring for myself. What do I do?
- #417: How do I let mutual friends know about my imminent breakup and move?
- #416: How do I get a Team You?
- #415: How do I give this person who wanted to be my friend “closure”?
- Cool “2012 in review” widget.
- #414: What are the green flags for a good therapist?
- #413: How do I Relationship?
- #412: One “Slow Fade” Textbook Example coming right up!
- #411: Frozen out by a relative.
- The Pie-For-Breakfast Boxing Day Open Thread
- Tokyo Meetup, January 2
- #410: How do I tell old professional contacts about my recent name change now that I need a reference?
- #409: Guess what? Not everyone’s family is awesome and not everyone loves “the holidays.”
- #408: Old internet postings from a new dating partner.
- #407: Was I “leading this guy on” when I asked him if we could be friends and then he suddenly showed up where I live?
- #406: By staying with my first partner, am I missing out on the single life?
- #405: Navigating the FEELINGSTRIANGLE
- #404: My thief of a dad is going to be at my sister’s wedding.
- #403: Fat sexual assault survivor seeks the super handsome guy at work.
- #402: Do I have to sit through dinner with someone who was a big jerk to me?
- #401: I can’t tell whether my girlfriend wants to have sex with me. (Spoiler: She doesn’t!)
- #400: Recognizing happiness.
- Seattle Meetup & WAM Auction
- #399: “But you oooowe me!” — entitlement rears its head again
- #398: I’m tired of explaining my medical condition and food choices to “helpful” folks.
- #397: Pretty should be optional.
- #396: How do I get my boyfriend to dump his Darth Vader BFF?
- Journal Keepers, ahoj!
- #395: Confronting offensive bosses and coworkers.
- Saturday Links
- #394: Discussing consent & rape with my mom is leaving us both shredded.
- #393: My friends keep inviting my abusive ex and me to the same parties, despite being asked directly not to.
- #392: Overdue apologies.
- London Meetup #2!
- #391: How To Train Your Rageasaurus
- #390: How can I support my mom without getting swamped by her emotions?
- Hello again!
- Hiatus
- Western Mass & Philly Meetups
- Hiatus, Holiday Open Thread, & #389: Friendly Social Coercion is Still Coercion
- #388: Please let me go.
- #387: The coffee made me do it.
- #386: Facing down a predator.
- #385: My ex-friend and his bullshit lies.
- #383 & #384: Ladyboners
- #382: My sister probably isn’t coming home for Thanksgiving. How do I tell her how hurt I am?
- #381: How do I tell my sad friend I’m getting engaged?
- #379 & #380: Sex Education for Teens
- London Meetup Oct. 23
- #378: How do you get over someone?
- #377: Ask her out, already. You can do it.
- #375 & #376: Respect at Work
- #374: Naked pictures run amok on the internet, again.
- #373: Drifting apart from friends.
- #372: How do I perform a FEELINGS-ectomy?
- #371: “How do I end this misery?”
- Sometimes Icky Ads
- #370: Unmotivated to apply for jobs.
- #369: Breaking off contact with an ex.
- Bristol, UK Meetup!
- #367 & #368 Am I too ugly to date?
- #366: Attention and jealousy and Skype.
- #365: Dating after death.
- Meetups: Washington DC on Oct. 11, Seattle on Nov. 27
- #364: Should I have a different opinion about not having opinions?
- #363: My partner’s career is eating all their energy and attention.
- #362: Go the F*** to Sleep
- #361: Friendship, obsession, and depression.
- #360: My coworker called me a virgin, why did that hurt my feelings so much?
- #359: Family & Business
- #358: MOAR crowdsourcing: Meeting new people in a rural area?
- #357: Dispatches from the Mean Old People Internet
- #355: The old double-bind.
- #356: My parents want me to parent my brother.
- #353 & #354: Bathrooms, Butts, and Boundaries
- #352: How do I get my mom to chill out about my baby? (spoiler, you probably can’t)
- One-Sided Conversations on a Train
- Thank you
- #351: Fans vs. Friends
- #350: Let’s crowdsource some feminist sex ed for frat guys.
- San Francisco Meetup and Admin Notes
- #349: The Controversial Engagement
- #348: Friendship is going cold. How do I fix it?
- #347: A Consent Question
- #346: Single Parent Dating: When is the right time to introduce a new partner to your child?
- Chicago Meetup: September 16
- #345: My mom won’t shut up about my weight
- #344: Visiting distant family is becoming a strain.
- #343: My mum refuses to meet my new boyfriend.
- #342: The rare one-size-fits-all approach to when your friends run themselves down in front of you.
- #341: Help me get a girlfriend, Captain!
- #340: How do you say “I don’t love you?”
- Seattle Meetup: Thursday, September 20th
- #339: My mom gives me the silent treatment.
- #338: Keeping in touch with professors after graduation.
- #337: I want her. She wants me. What do I do?
- #336: Gracefully exiting from conversations.
- Yay, Boston!
- #335: How do I set a boundary with my friend without hurting her feelings?
- #333 & #334: Friendships, breakups, poetry, and WTF?
- #332: Wanting to make new friends and feeling like your filter is off-kilter.
- What do you do about chronic complaining?
- I wish my husband would spend less time gaming and more with his family
- Pure joy.
- #331: Creepy-by-association?
- Movie Madness
- #330: Life blows. How can I be nice to myself again?
- #329: My partner won’t set boundaries with his horrible family.
- #328: When something’s none of your beeswax, make it none of your beeswax!
- #327: My friend’s wife has forbidden us to communicate.
- Updated Site Policies + Boston Area Meet-up
- The C-Word
- #326: Our relationship and communication skills are awesome… too awesome?
- Good evening! It will be a good evening.
- #325: Reminder. Not everyone has to like you.
- #324: “My friend, the rapist.”
- #322 & #323 “My friend group has a case of the Creepy Dude. How do we clear that up?”
- #321: Artistic Discouragement
- #320: Dubious Breakup Methods
- Links of Friday Linkiness
- #319: Captain Awkward Writes Your Casual Encounters Ad
- #318: Death and people you don’t like.
- #317: This crush is really distracting me from my sexless relationship.
- #316: Reaching out to an ex
- #315: The boundary-crossing neighbor
- #313 & #314: Broken Friendships
- #312: Aftermath
- #311: My wife freaks out whenever I’m away from her.
- #309 & #310: The Broken Record
- #308: I feel like I don’t deserve my partner’s support of my artistic dreams.
- #307: Chemistry!
- #306 Secrets, Lies, and Stephanie
- #305: “Quit helping so much! I’m not going to fall in love with you.”
- #304: Good problems!
- #303: “I was recently diagnosed with Asperger’s and I’m kind of freaking out about it.”
- #302: The Marriage of Facepalm & WTF?
- #301: “Help me process my weird week of feelings.”
- #300: My relationship is awesome y/n
- #299: My family likes to play a game where they competitively insult me until I cry. Is this a legitimate problem?
- #298: I’m bisexual! Right? Maybe? Yes?
- #297: Help: My brother is a teenaged misogynist!
- Captain Awkward’s Home for Wayward Really Insecure Dudes
- #296: How do I start to date? A counter-intuitive primer.
- #295: When failure moves into your house to stay.
- #294: My daughter is in a dysfunctional relationship, how do I help her?
- Summer Pledge Drive: Give me a dollar and I’ll give you a movie.
- #293: Love! Movies! Adventure!
- #292: Wealth (& massive insecurity) is messing up my love life.
- #291: How do I know if I’m trans*?
- #289 & #290 Friends with Significant Others
- #288: Guest Post: Advice from Sea Captain Awkward
- #287: If you don’t want people to find out you are a ‘sex pest’, don’t pester them for sex.
- #286: I think the words you are looking for are “I am breaking up with you.”
- The Gollum of Heartbreak, Or, How to Stop Worrying About Which Feelings to Feel
- Blanket Statement Monday: On Late Bloomers
- #285: Is it bad if my relationship has an expiration date?
- #284: “My partner is controlling about my appearance.”
- #283: “How do I tell my parents I’m not moving back home with them after graduation?”
- #282: Making plans with flaky sister isn’t working.
- #281: Oh goody. More stalking.
- #280: “How do I get rid of my Facebook stalker without being mean about it?”
- #279: “Help, I’m in love with my best friend and I don’t know what to do.”
- #276 & #277 & #278: A three-for-one stalker (un)special.
- #275: “How do I keep a friendly (or more) connection with the guy who just broke up with me (twice)?”
- #274: How do I ask for more support from my emotionally distant girlfriend?
- Live from the search terms!
- #273: “My kid won’t be visiting you”: Steps on becoming an Emotional Badass
- Guest Post: What It’s Like In A Mental Hospital
- #272: When you see Darth Vader coming, do you speak up?
- #271: Is my relationship over or am I just being a “selfish bitch”?
- Guest Post: An Introvert Went To A Speed Dating Event
- #270: I’m using my words, but the other people aren’t listening. What now?
- #269: Anxiety, chemistry, and second chances.
- #268: How do I talk to my partner about wanting to start a family soon?
- #267: How do I talk about sex with my first sex partner?
- #266: Oops, I might have come out by being wildly successful at college, PLUS bonus Blanket Statement
- #265: Should I burn this bridge (like I usually do) or patch things up?
- #264: My in-laws bugged us forever to give them a grandchild, but now that she’s here, they’re not interested.
- #263: I worry that I might not be able to have romantic feelings for people. Am I a robot?
- #262: An ex who won’t let go.
- #261: I keep falling for fixer-uppers
- #260: Sense and Sensibility and Saying Stuff Out Loud
- #259: “I’m in love with someone who treats me badly.”
- #258 = #191 + Bridesmaidery
- #257: Does having my awesome career mean I have to lose all of my relationships?
- #256: Not feeling the whole dating thing right now.
- #255: Breaking up with a client (and surviving the resulting guilt-trip).
- Linky Links of Linkyness
- #254: Torn between two lovers!
- #253: “This was not the FEELINGSART we were looking for.”
- #252: How can I help my boyfriend when he won’t ask for help?
- #251: Breaking up with a friend (African Violet Review)
- #250: How do I tell people about my divorce?
- So yeah…ads.
- #249: How do I reclaim my awesomeness?
- #248: Gender-Policing Grandmas
- #247: Marrying into a family with awful boundary issues, or, secrets of dealing with Highly Difficult People
- #246: Wedding Invitation Guest List Questions
- #245: Why am I so bad at picking up on signals?
- #244: Playdates and friend break-ups
- #243: Mother’s Day: Not Always A Holiday
- Why I will continue recommending counseling on this blog FOREVER.
- #242: Can I Tell Guys I Don’t Want to Date Them Before They Ask Me to Date Them?
- #241: Am I my extremely difficult sister’s keeper?
- #240: My parents hate my partner, what do I do?
- #239: How can I make my husband get his health on?
- #238: If I tell my parents I am an atheist, they will disown me (or worse).
- #237: How do I use my words without being passive-aggressive or a nag?
- #236: My friend constantly critiques my relationship.
- #235: Variations on a Theme, or, A Gamer Girl Needs Help
- #234: Reciprocity & Space
- #233: Open Marriage With the Sea?
- #232: Going through a rough patch and taking it out on your partner.
- #231: How do I learn how to say the right thing at the right time to people I’m interested in?
- What would Cthulu do?
- #230: How do I prevent being a rebound?
- Geek Relationship Fallacies
- #229: You must chill (online dating edition).
- Sady Doyle is Being Awesome Again, You Guys
- #228: Breaking up with “The One.”
- #227: Three dates, no kiss
- #226: The need for the last word
- #225: Restating boundaries with a clingy friend.
- #224: Asking out the TA
- #223: Uh….was that a date?
- #222: Love Polygons (with bonus bad flowchart and Long Distance Relationship Post Script)
- #221: There is no “normal” way to be or fall in love.
- #220: Doing what you’re good at isn’t the same as doing what you love.
- #219: Will I help you craft an email to the guy who spun you up and then dumped you? No. No I will not.
- #218: My anxiety is messing up my relationship.
- #217: The Almost-Doctor with the Almost-Boyfriend
- #216: I broke up with someone because she cheated on me. Was that sexist?
- #215: How do I help my friend realize she is lovely?
- #214: An object lesson in “overthinking it.”
- #213 : Am I weirding everyone out by not being gay?
- #212: Bad connection. Try again later.
- #211: If my friend has feelings for me, it is only logical that I return them.
- #210: I feel guilty because I don’t like my dad.
- #209: My mom is pressuring me to invite my molester to my wedding, and it sucks BIG TIME.
- #208: My boyfriend doesn’t want me to masturbate.
- #207: Why did this fictional story make me cry? Could it have something to do with these awful hints about my mother?
- Friday Questions about Darth Vader & FEELINGS______.
- Happy Announcements
- #206: Torn between dreams and love.
- #205: The case of the nosy roommate.
- #204: Not everyone likes you.
- #203: Scripts for saying “It was nice to meet you! But not THAT nice.”
- #202: My job is making me miserable, but I don’t know how to quit.
- #201: Guest post: How can my girlfriend and I prevent body issues from derailing our awesome love story?
- #200: Surprise Lovebombing!
- #199: I have an embarrassing, unshakeable crush on my teacher.
- #198: Hung up real bad.
- #195, #196, and #197: Meet more people.
- #194: “I am so socially awkward that my boyfriend won’t take me anywhere.”
- #193: “I used my words and told the Shy Guy how I felt…repeatedly. Now what?”
- #192: Should I apologize for being a NiceGuy(tm) in the past?
- #191: Annual reminder time: Get your teeth cleaned. Get your eyes/bits checked. And stop hanging out with crappy people.
- #190: The Sandwich Means “I Love You”: A Valentine.
- #189: My girlfriend moved here to live with me and now I feel trapped.
- #188: Dealing with a coworker with a severe mental illness.
- #187: I want a divorce and don’t know how to tell anyone.
- #186: The lie of “strength.”
- #185: My friend is obsessed with someone who barely knows she exists.
- #184: Confusing dude is confusing. Should I reach out to him and tell him how I feel?
- Question #183: Should I break up with my “over-sensitive” partner?
- Question #182: The Three Sentence Rule, or, How do I get my partner to shut up about Karl Popper?
- Rape: Still Awkward, or, Dear Prudence: You Suck
- Question #181: “I’m afraid if I end my relationship I’ll lose all of my friends.”
- A Birthday Request
- Question #180: How do I stop being a cubicle zombie?
- Question #179: “I’m in love with someone who hates himself.”
- Rewriting Sex Scenes
- Question #178: “I want someone to kiss and be kissed by.”
- Question #177: Fresh Meat Walking
- O HAI WINTER (Open Thread)
- Question #176: The Perpetual Seething Mass of Resentment
- SOPA/PIPA
- Question #175: Torn between my job and my life
- Question #174: Dating secrets of THE TERRIFYINGLY AMAZING
- Question #173: How do I help my friends through breakups?
- Question #172: How do I break up with the mean guy who scares me?
- Guest Post! My sister-in-law is homeschooling her children….badly. Should I intervene? (#171)
- Question #170: Should I break up with my boyfriend?
- Question #169: My dad hit me.
- Question #168: The Peaches/Fingers/Kitty/New Year’s/Gaming/Self-Harm Situation
- Question #167: My mom disowned me on Christmas day.
- 2012 Resolution/Rule
- Question #166: My mom is being a jerk about what I name my baby.
- Blogaversary!
- Question #165: How do I deal with my coworker and his toxic, jealous wife?
- Question # 164: Redrawing boundaries with a possessive ex.
- Question #163: My sister won’t stop “jokingly” calling me a slut.
- Question #162: Bad teeth and other dating dealbreakers.
- Question 161: “Please fix my life?”
- Question #160: I can think of no snappy title for this question.
- Question #159: Should I date the gentleman d’un certain age who asked me out??
- Hey. Don’t kill yourself.
- Question 157: Can I make my dad and my sister stop yelling at each other?
- Christmas songs for the dysfunctional
- Question 156: Maintaining boundaries when you have to ask for help.
- Question #155: “So, when are you going to finish that dissertation?” and other deeply personal questions.
- Surviving Holiday Visits
- Question #154: I have extreme anxiety about being touched and hugged. How do I survive an upcoming funeral?
- Question #153: How do I make and keep friends?
- My sneaky jerkbrain
- Question #152: Talking about diets: The “watching paint dry” of our times.
- Guest Post! “If I come out to my family, will they stop making offensive jokes already?”
- Question #150: My sister calls me names and pulls my hair. We’re in our 20s. How do I get her to stop?
- Question #149: The Sad Cat Neighbor Feelings Situation
- Question #148: My work performance suffers when I don’t feel confident, which makes me feel less confident. How can I break this loop?
- Question # 147: “I handle myself badly in large groups of new people.”
- Painfully Literal Dude asks for second date, and other links.
- Commander Logic tells you how to get unstuck. (Question #146)
- Derailing: How not to talk to people who are telling you something sad.
- Question #145: I can make a really good case that my friend should invite me to her party.
- Question #144: I am tempted to get a makeover so I can ask out my crush.
- Question 143: I lent an ear to a friend, how do I get it back?
- Question 142: Did I offend my date when I accepted his offer to get me drinks? (Drinks 101)
- Question 141. Breakup second thoughts: Can these pants be fixed?
- Thanks!
- Guest post! “I don’t have a Friend Zone.” (Question 140)
- Question #139: How do I deal with my “cheap, cowardly” friend?
- Question #138: How do I help my employee overcome his self-loathing?
- Question #137: I got promoted at work, and now supervising my old friends (and lovers) is awkward.
- A Plea
- Question #136: Job interview follow-ups
- People who like you will act like they like you.
- Question #135: How do I deflect the well-meaning people who ask me about my abusive dad?
- Question #134: How do my husband and I end this Sexican Standoff?
- Question #133: Is the boy who lives 2500 miles away FLIRTING-flirting with me or just flirting with me?
- Lies we tell ourselves. (Choose your own adventure.)
- Question #132: Should I make my film about being a virgin?
- Wednesday Links
- The problem of “It Just Happened” + other links.
- Guest post! “How do I break up with someone right after agreeing to go out with them?” (#131)
- Question #130: “My partner is depressed and I am drowning.”
- Question #129: “I am the Mayor of the Friend Zone.”
- Question #128: “I’m not being mean, I’m being safe!” or, A primer on shutting down awkward conversations with busybodies.
- Question #127: “I had a drunken threesome with my roommates, and now it’s all weird.”
- Short(er) Answer Monday
- Question #124: Can I turn back the clock with Super-Intense Guy?
- Question #123: Quitting your job the classy way.
- Question #122: Should I move away from my abusive family?
- Reader question #121: How do I convince my partner that his daughter needs therapy?
- Public service announcement re: closing your bank account
- Reader question #120: Should I text that girl who (probably) blew me off?
- See, Penelope Trunk is awesome at helping you write resumes.
- Dating While Feminist II: How do I ask out the feminist women at the feminist events where I’m feministing it up?(Question #119)
- Gone to Hell
- Question 118: How do I break up with someone?
- Short films in Chicago this Thursday
- Question #117: How is this relationship like ill-fitting pants?
- Question #116: How do I seduce women? (Yes, this was an actual question).
- How to locate low-cost mental health care in the US and Canada (Guest Post!)
- The Self-Centered Friend: Return of the Side-Eye (Question #115)
- Reader question #114: How do I reconnect with my estranged brother and help him form a relationship with his niece?
- Question #113: How do I make plans with flaky San Francisco people?
- Reader question #112: My mom wants to call herself my partners’ kid’s grandma.
- Reader question 111: What do I do about the woman who won’t leave my boyfriend alone?
- Reader question #110: How do I claw my way out of this depressing living situation?
- Reader question #109: My parents prefer my sister. How do I talk to them about it?
- Marie Claire’s Rich tells you how to keep a guy’s attention.
- Reader question #108: Jealousy and Law School
- The Wardrobe: Two Festival Screenings in Chicago
- Reader question #107: Can friends-with-benefits work? (A qualified yes).
- Reader question #106: How do I get rid of my terrible roommate without causing mutual-friend drama?
- Guest post! “I would like to be GGG for my new chap, but we’re taking it reallllllllllly slow.” (Question #105)
- Reader question #104: His wife died. Does that mean I have to be his constant comforter?
- Reader question #103: I have forbidden internet knowledge about my boyfriend’s past and what I think are his “real” feelings.
- Reader question #102: Can I ask my horrible mean houseguest to GTFO already?”
- Guest post: “My attractive married friend is unloading on me about the state of her troubled marriage. Maybe I will sleep with her?” (Question #101)
- Guest post: The Case of the Mocked Meows (Reader question #100)
- Guest post! How do I stop letting my terrible self-esteem sabotage my relationships? (Reader question #99)
- Reader question #98 + Guest-blogging at Feministe + Admin
- Saturday Links
- Reader question #97: Bizarre Love Polygon
- Reader question #96: My boyfriend’s former crush is moving away, and he won’t shut up about it.
- Reader question #95: How do I get face-time with my boss so I can get the transfer and promotion I want?
- Reader question #94: How do I get my ex-friend to get her #$%! stuff out of my house and out of my life?
- Reader question #93: I want to move away. My boyfriend is holding me back. What do I do?
- Reader question #92: I get sucked into conversations with men that I don’t want to talk to, and then give them fake numbers. How do I stop?
- Guest Post! Question #91: Moving vs. Staying. Instructions for finding Your People and Your Place.
- Reader question #90: The Sexy Thesaurus
- Reader question #89: Jewishness and Language
- Reader question #88: Strategies for dealing with an unwanted houseguest.
- Reader question #87: How do I talk about a molesting grandparent?
- Reader question #86: Tips for dating brilliant badass women?
- Reader question #85: You can just stop being friends with people who annoy the shit out of you. Seriously. Really. Truly.
- Reader question #84: Sailor with a Past
- Reader question #83: Do we have to do everything with my boyfriend’s friend?
- Question #82: The violent roommate
- Reader question #81: Defusing a racist relative
- Reader question #80: The problem of the enthusiastic (but disabled) volunteer.
- Reader question #79: I want to eat lunch by myself.
- Reader question #78: Honor students can also be inappropriate assholes.
- Public Service Thursday! Birth Control: Let me explain it to you.
- Question #77: Vacation Damnation
- Moving Day
- Variations on a theme: How can I get my “friends” to stop touching me? (Question #76)
- Reader question #75: Guest post! My “friend” is making me very uncomfortable with his touching and sexual comments.
- It’s not the shyness or the niceness.
- Reader question #74: Guest Post! Keeping it sexy in a long-term relationship.
- Blanket Statement Monday: You don’t have to make it work out.
- Reader question #73: I’m always the last to know about my friend’s love life.
- What’s more awkward than a pledge drive?
- Reader question #72: A long and harrowing tale of dealing with emotional terrorists.
- Reader question #71: Should I patch things up with an old friend who hasn’t always treated me very well?
- Blanket Statement Monday: Stop Hitting On The Waitress.
- Reader question #70: Stability (maybe) vs. Love (maybe)
- Reader question #69: The guy who lives upstairs from me wants me to be his…”friend.”
- Reader question #68: Mama Bear vs. Wimpy Kid
- Reader question #67: My wonderful boyfriend has horrible hygiene and a disgusting house. How do I talk to him about it?
- Reader question #66: How do I tell my parents I’ve been laid off?
- Reader question # 65: How do I ask out a friend of a friend who lives in another city?
- Reader question #64: I have a hard time understanding accents.
- Question #63: I feel like my best friend is cheating on me with a new friend.
- Question #62: Game of Thrones and Tits
- Reading this Wednesday, 6/22
- Reader question #61: My long distance girlfriend avoids me whenever I make it to town for a visit. Should I take this personally?
- Reader question #60: My friend’s child is acting like a @#$%!, do I say something?
- Reader question #59: Keeping in touch.
- Reader question #58: How do I get my long-distance crush to give us a real chance?
- Reader question #57: Friends, porn, and ethics.
- Reader question #56: My new girlfriend is too busy to hang out with me.
- Awkward Book of the Month Club: Live Alone and Like It
- Reader question #55: How do you correct another adult’s table manners without being a jerkass concern troll about it?
- Reader question #54: Dating while feminist.
- The One Semester of Spanish Love Song
- Who does Captain Awkward turn to for advice?
- Rich is back!
- Would you like to meet/stalk Captain Awkward?
- Reader question #53: Important Work Party Anxiety
- Get it while you can.
- Reader question #52: More Art of No
- Reader question #51: I’m insecure about my girlfriend’s feelings for me.
- Reader question #50: I’m a 27-year-old virgin and I’m mostly okay with that but sometimes I feel like a loser.
- Reader question #49: How do you say “not interested” to dating site messagers?
- Graduation Day
- Reader question #48: A cool, nice guy asked me to prom, but now our awkward silences are making me worry.
- Reader Question #47: Please solve all my relationship issues at once
- Reader question #46: I have a great job and a great life, but I feel like I should be doing more to help others.
- More depressing search terms.
- Reader question #45: How do I get someone who thinks we’re much closer friends than we are to stop touching me?
- Reader question #44: My roommate is moving out soon. Do I tell her her boyfriend stays over too much?
- How awkward can you be in 140 characters or less?
- “My boyfriend breaks things when we don’t have sex.”
- Reader question #43: How do you take back flirting?
- Reader Question #42: I must chill. How do I chill?
- Reader question #41: I’m sorry I keep touching that lady.
- Feedburner is fixed!
- Feedburner is broken?
- Reader Question #40: How do I ask my boyfriend to take better care of me?
- Reader question #39: My girlfriend is moving away to go to school and be with her other boyfriend(s). Should I wait?
- Happy Easter, Passover, and Return of Doctor Who.
- Question #38: Guest Post! How do I tell my conservative dad that my fiance is about to become my fiancee?
- Blanket Statement Monday: You don’t have to be friends with your ex.
- What Captain Awkward is Reading, Watching, Eating, Listening To, and Over The Moon About
- Reader question #37: Overcoming lust and second thoughts to set boundaries with an ex.
- Dude, you are so fucked.
- Reader question #36: The Roommate’s Girlfriend
- Reader question #35: On bouncing back and finding community.
- Reader question #34: My childcare provider just dumped me.
- 50,000!
- Reader question #33: “Tone down the Devil’s orchestra!”
- Reader question #32: Saying “no” at work…to the parade of guys who stop by my desk all day.
- Saying “No” At Work
- Reader question #31: Today on Entitled Asshole Theater: Professor Crybaby
- Reader question #30: New town, old blues, and the case for therapy.
- Reader question #29: You smell.
- Reader Question #28: New relationship angst!
- Reader Question #27: The intern is pregnant and doesn’t want to tell the bosses, which would be cool, except we work with toxic stuff in a chemical research lab.
- The art of “no,” continued: Saying no when you’ve already said yes.
- The art of “no.”
- Reader Question #26: How do I bounce back after being fired?
- Gone to Brainerd
- Dear Abby: Elope so that your in-laws won’t dress like hookers to “ruin” your wedding. Captain Awkward: Learn the fine art of not giving a damn.
- Goodnight, Dune
- Marie Claire’s “Rich”: Good girls get to meet your mom. Bad girls are too confident and hard to control….like dirty snow.
- Handling Performance Reviews When You Are The Boss
- Reader Question #25: How can I keep my cool during my annual performance review at work?
- Reader Question #24: I have a hard time accepting help from helpful people who just want to help me.
- Reader Question #23: Libido, come home!
- Recommended!
- Reader Question 22: I’m living out the European remake of 500 Days of Summer.
- Reader Question #21: Why don’t my friends-with-benefits like being told that they are friends-with-benefits?
- Reader Question #20: Captain Awkward’s Emporium of Cutting Remarks
- Blog Crush: Dear Sugar
- Rape: Awkward.
- Reader Question #19: How do I get my flatmates to do their fair share of the chores?
- Reader Question #18: I want to shake the dust of this godforsaken place from my feet, but I also want to keep my job. How do I tell my boss?
- Oh, crap, Valentine’s Day.
- Reader Question #16: The Golden Retriever/Kwisatz Haderach of Love
- Sexy Typewriter: The Man Who Would Not Break Eye Contact
- How do you balance your career with family life?
- The Book of the Face
- Reader Question #15: Noisy Oxygen Tanks At The Opera
- Today’s Dear Prudence: Your judgmental family needs to eat a bag of dicks.
- Letters & Stuff
- Reader Question #14: Spiritual abuse, maybe. How is a church like a high school Dungeons & Dragons game?
- The Year of Living Awkwardly
- Links!
- Reader Question #13: Don’t Stand So Close To Me
- The King is Dead. Open Thread.
- Reader Question #12: How do I deal with my boyfriend’s ex-from-hell?
- Reader Questions #8, #9, #10, and #11: Short Answer Friday
- Reader Question #7: “Thanks for trying to build bridges for me where you work! I think I will set them on fire.”
- Reader Question #6: I’m worried about my sister. She is still very close to our abusive parents.
- Reader Question #5: How do I deal with a clingy friend who tries to make over my life?
- Reader Question #4: My friend is dating someone terrible, or, Secrets of The Darth Vader Boyfriend.
- Reader Question #3: A shy guy caught my eye.
- Reader Question #2: Asking for vacation time from the boss who won’t plan ahead.
- The State Religion is Constant Self-Improvement
- This week’s Dear Prudence – “My boyfriend is pressuring me to have sex I don’t like.”
- First reader question: Friends With Money
- The power of vulnerability
- Midwestern Manners: “I cannot eat the last cookie unless I offer it to you first.”
- “All that crying is killing my boner.”
- How to say STFU when the FU is silent
- Life advice from a screenwriter?
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