Behind a cut for emotional abuse.
What if a) loneliness really sucks and b) finding romantic love is not primarily an internal and external makeover project?
Behind a cut for mention of physical and emotional abuse of adult children by parents as well as some frustrations and victim-blaming attitudes that are common in friends and support networks of people who are embroiled in abusive situations. Abusers ruin everything, pretty much.
Behind a cut for mention of child abuse, sexual abuse, and abuse from a therapist. See also, bullying about weight and fat-shaming. Basically a bingo card of triggering, problematic shit and a very awesome Letter Writer trying to handle it all gracefully. ❤
Hey there, Captain Awkward – My dear roommate (Clay)’s ex-boyfriend was abusive. He had mental health issues, and emotionally manipulated roommate (they/them) in various ways. I spent a lot of time helping my roommate to process the feels and vulnerabilities emerging around what happened in their relationship – and potentially over invested myself in their … Continue reading #1148: “Navigating the aftermath of the abuse in the social circle.”
Behind a cut for parental bigotry & abuse.
This post is behind a cut due to intense discussion of sexual violence and stalking behavior.
Dear Captain Awkward, I just had the weekend from hell. There was really no foreshadowing that the weekend would work out so horribly, but now that it has, I feel like it’s foreshadowing an even more hellish future.
Dear Captain Awkward: I appreciated your advice regarding being open to the possibility that two siblings can grow up in the same home but have completely different experiences and interpretations of the environment. As I was reading I found myself identifying with the sister, whom the question-asker describes as still being stuck in the abusive … Continue reading Reader Question #14: Spiritual abuse, maybe. How is a church like a high school Dungeons & Dragons game?
I believe the classic phrase is “don’t set yourself on fire to keep somebody else warm.”