Dear Captain Awkward: My father and his lovely new partner – she’s really nice – recently visited my area. They planned to spend a day or two with her relatives first, but wanted to know if I wanted to meet up with the two of them after that, for a meal at my brother’s new … Continue reading #724: “We may be one big happy (step)family someday, but today is not that day, Dad.”
Content note/reminder that describing bigotry accurately sometimes includes examples. Followed by the usual reminders that boundaries are more about deciding what you will do than about what you can convince other people to do.
People who won’t take ‘no’ for an answer often present the risk as you being seen as mean or selfish when you don’t do what they want, when really, it’s that if you don’t say ‘no’ you have to put up with them in your personal space. Re-balance your risk assessments, friend!
“You dumped me, remember? Kindly sigh into someone else’s moving boxes.”
If you don’t know what to say, revert to first principles: Something is probably better than nothing.
When you want to share an extremely mood-ruining thing (death of a parent) without ruining the mood: Be brief and direct, and let other people be nice to you for a minute.
Hello, this week we have a guest post from Rachel Hoffman of Unf*ck Your Habitat blog and book fame about the tricky balance of maintaining your own sanity (and sanitation) in a house where you are a guest.
Rae is back, restoring a sense of discovery and play to figuring out who the heck you are.
Licensed therapist Rae McDaniel reminds a reader that discomfort is not harm, and trans people aren’t messing up their family events by existing at them.
Dear Captain My fiancé and I were supposed to get married this April but the wedding was postponed until May 2021 due to the pandemic. We are both in our early 30s. He’s always been keen to start a family, I’m open to having a baby but really want to be married first. This is … Continue reading #1278: “My partner is pushing me to start a family before I’m ready.”