Hi Captain, I am trying to figure out how to still be supportive of my friend continuing on to grad school when I recently had to dropout of my own program due to a lot of different reasons (COVID striking my family, online course-work not being a good avenue for me, extra course-work due to … Continue reading #1282: “I want to support my friend without helping him with all his class assignments.”
Content note: Mention of suicide
#TFG = #thatfuckingguy Ahoy, Captain! I would appreciate any advice you could give on supporting a friend (female pronouns) who is not yet ready to leave an unhealthy relationship with her boyfriend. This has been an ongoing issue for about 2 years, but something happened a few days ago and I could use an outside … Continue reading #981: Watching from the sidelines in horror: How do I be a supportive friend to my friend who’s involved with #TFG?
Hi Captain, I am an adult (early 30’s) child of two wonderful people who are going through some turbulence in their marriage–that thing of having an empty nest/rediscovering each other/discovering they have communication issues that have just been sitting there for 30+ years and are now blowing up. They’re going to get counseling, which hopefully … Continue reading #965: “My mom wants me to be her #1 sounding board and support system about her troubled marriage.”
Hi, I have a coworker from Iran. The President is about to announce awful policies around admitting people from countries including Iran. I’m pretty sure he and his siblings are all here on non-permament statuses, though I don’t know for sure. He’s a friendly acquaintance, not someone I’d say I have a close relationship with, … Continue reading #938: Supporting Immigrant Coworkers in the USA.
Hello Captain! Long-time reader, first question. I have been having a tricky time navigating adult friendships lately. I feel like I keep getting surprised when my interactions with other adults (parents of my kids’ friends, from the neighborhood, etc.,) suddenly seem to remind me very, very strongly of junior high school. I have an amazing … Continue reading #736: “Stop asking me if I’m okay!”
Dear Captain and Crew, Ten weeks ago I asked my husband why sex and some other things hadn’t happened on a long weekend at home. He out-of-the-blue responded, “I’ve been thinking I don’t want to be married to you anymore.” It took several days to sink in, by which point we were out of town … Continue reading #700: Asking for help vs. maintaining privacy and a safe space when you’re in the middle of a messy thing.
Hi Captain et al, Like a number of commenters here, I have a chronic, incurable (not deadly) illness. I am really quite ill, it has a huge effect on my life and, advances in medical science notwithstanding, I will be very ill for the REST OF MY LIFE. But I get on with it, because … Continue reading #537: How Can I Suggest Ways for People to Actually Be Supportive?
Dear Captain Awkward, Recently, an old friend began messaging me on social media to tell me that he had cancer. Initially, I was shocked to hear that he’d been diagnosed with (an unspecified) form of cancer. He’s the same age as I am (24) and, from what I’d seen when we were closer, led an … Continue reading #534: Cancer support or pity dating?
Dear Captain Awkward: My dad’s health is declining- in the past three years he’s had a quadruple bypass, and is now on dialysis. My mom, who doesn’t have a big support network and who isn’t talkative about her feelings at the best of times, is running herself ragged keeping up with his doctors appointments, sorting … Continue reading #390: How can I support my mom without getting swamped by her emotions?