So. That happened. If you feel overwhelmed about diving in, Rachel Scotland made a tl;dr version here. But I hope people will dive in. The commenters gave, collectively, some of the greatest advice about dating, liking and being nice to yourself, meeting people, and pulling yourself out of bad patterns of thinking ever assembled on the internet. The last communication I received from our dear LW before hitting the block button was a hearty “go fuck yourself!” I was hoping for something more poetic from the man who gave us this:
The icy grip of loneliness is always one step behind me and if I stop for one second, I’ll be ensnared. We all have to sleep, and there is no worse a time than when I must lie down and let my mind wander as the loneliness that I spent a whole day running from sucks the very essence of my soul from my body leaving me shivering and alone.
…but we get what we get. And what we got was stuff like PomperaFirpa’s guide to finding your awesome, finding your venue for awesome, and a 5-step plan for having a casual conversation with a stranger about anything that even includes instructions for making a graceful exit! Designed BY introverts FOR introverts.
This community fucking rocks, is what I’m saying. I could spend the next three months taking comments from that thread and building them out into their own posts. Next time I apply for jobs I’m going to put “curator of best commentspace on the Internet” on my resume without irony.
Good job, us.
I’m not going to close comments over there, but I’m going to ask that people don’t go in just to beat up on the LW some more. He behaved pretty badly and needs to grow up a bit and learn that the world won’t issue him a girlfriend, but he’s obviously a sad, genuinely lonely dude and I’m hoping that he’ll come back in a couple weeks and read some of the comments again (and I was serious about the reading more books, etc. by women advice, if you’re still reading, and I think you are).
I’m going to leave this up today as a general open thread. Post recommendations for great books, movies, comics, music by women! Shamelessly self-promote (as I am doing, below the cut) your own work! Use quotes from the thread to make your own counter-intuitive valentine!
I need to step away from the internet for a few hours and unfuck my habitat. Thanks for being so awesome.
Now, it’s still pledge drive week, and I wanted to say that part of why I wanted to do this was about money (to make more good internets to push the bad internets out!) and part of it was about getting my movie seen outside of a few film festivals and local screenings by a group of people who like awkward things. So I’m going end today with 5 cool facts about The Wardrobe:
1. The lead actress, Devon Carson, was the last of probably 100 women we saw for that part. She walked in on the very last day of auditions (auditions that were really callbacks) and I made her stay all day and read with everyone. That moment for a director is magical. “You. Make. My. Movie. Possible.” She is in a band in Chicago called Lights Alive, and this summer she worked at a rock and roll camp to teach girls how to be rock stars.
2. There is a scene in the movie where two glamorous stylists circle the main character and tell each other what will have to be fixed about her – her body, her hair, etc.. Both the actors (Allison Ochmanek and Erin Breen) work frequently as models, and they made up that dialogue out of things people routinely say to and about them.
3. We wanted Henri’s apartment to have an artificial feeling – it needed to be a space that nobody actually lived in. One idea we experimented with was cobbling a fantasy apartment out of the displays in Chicago’s Merchandise Mart (it’s full of life-size fancy kitchens and bathrooms and whatnot). We ended up using the model units for The Chicago Spire with the generous permission of the real estate developer. We had an entire floor of the NBC tower in Chicago that was dressed up so that potential buyers could get a feel for what the spaces would be like. We added: Mannequins, some clothes in the closet, actors. That’s it. The rest of it looked like that, right down to the fake fruit. While I loved the idea of the Spire and wanted very much to see it in our skyline, I love that my not-quite-real movie character lives in a fantasy space that will never actually exist. Architecture & Design Nerds: This might be your once chance to see inside.
4. One scene from the short story was supposed to take place in a high-end boutique. We ended up changing the script so that the stylists bring the stuff to Henri’s place for reasons of time and budget. But there was about a month during the summer where one of the producers, the production designer, and I (a very, very fat woman) walked into all of the most high-end women’s clothing stores in Chicago together and watched the faces of the salespeople fall as they tried to decide how to break the news that they had nothing that would fit me. Their relief when we didn’t want to try on pants (we just wanted to bring a film crew into their fancy store for a night or two and shoot a movie, no big deal*) was palpable.
5. If you place a Craigslist ad looking for people who will lend you mannequins for a couple of nights, you will find out things you didn’t want to know.
I really hope you guys enjoy the film. I love writing this blog, and I’m not going to stop anytime soon, but it’s time for me to get back on the filmmaking horse. Thanks to the many generous contributors so far. Your kind words and generous support are extremely gratifying, and you’re really making that a possibility for me over the next few months.
*That’s a giant pain in the ass and a really big deal, if you didn’t know. They probably should have just agreed to sell me some pants.