So, so good:
“But here’s the thing: You can’t have sexual relationships without messy, awkward, emotionally risky interactions. You just can’t. You can deal with the messy, awkward, emotionally risky stuff up front and honestly and increase your chances of having fulfilling mutual interactions, or you can wait and hope it doesn’t blow up in your face. But you can’t engage on such an intimate level with another human being without it sometimes being weird. The sooner you make peace with that and stop imagining this stuff is easy for everyone but you (because it’s not: It’s messy, risky, and emotionally awkward for everyone), the sooner you’ll stop letting things “just happen” and take control of your sexual and romantic life.”
Go read this excerpt from the brilliant Jaclyn Friedman’s What You Really, Really Want at Jezebel. THIS is what we’ve been saying here at Captain Awkward Dot Com Enterprises: Put yourself out there. Even when it’s weird. Use your words. Ask for what you want. Don’t call yourself a slut – own your desires! You can be friends-with-benefits, as long as you treat each other like friends! If you’d like your partner to make a move already, talk about it. Don’t apologize for being sexually inexperienced!
I’m also loving Sady’s answer to the question Why being skinny so important to so many girls? in Rookie. (Because if people can trick women into worrying about how skinny they are, they can make us buy stuff and also divert our energies from taking over the world, mostly).
Finally, how’s this as an awesome pitch for a YA book?