Every time I go to hear a successful woman speak in public, someone in the audience asks “How do you balance your career with being a parent?” (if she has kids) or “Did you feel like you had to choose between your career and becoming a parent?” (if she doesn’t).
But when famous dudes come to speak nobody asks them that. The answer is assumed: They have wives to take care of that shit for them. It could be a totally wrong assumption, by the way.
This bugs me. First, it’s a really personal question. It’s not actually other people’s job to help you figure out how to navigate those choices or share their intensely personal decision making about raising (or not raising) a family at the Film Festival Q&A Session, okay? I can understand wanting advice, tips, mentoring, insights, etc., but there are many possible answers, like “Yeah, it’s really fucking hard” or “Make enough money to hire help” or “Muddle through somehow” or “Just didn’t feel like it, I guess.”
I’m going to start asking famous dudes I meet to answer that question.