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Tag Archive | enforcing boundaries

#459: Do I have to destroy my health to be in grad school?

I’m in grad school for creative writing. It’s hard. Right now, I’m taking three classes, which means that I’m reading 500-plus pages a week, in addition to commenting on my classmates’ writing and producing a poem every week. Plus, I’m teaching a basic composition course for struggling writers, and a literature course (for the first […]

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#345: My mom won’t shut up about my weight

Dear Captain Awkward,         Ever since I can remember my worth in my family has only gone up when my weight goes down. My mom was always telling me I was too fat and that I needed to pull my pants up over my stomach or that I needed to buy larger […]

#340: How do you say “I don’t love you?”

More on the theme of parents & communication with adult children today. Dear Captain Awkward, I’ve been reading your blog for just a few days now but I already caught on to the important part ‘speak up for yourself’. Now my problem is that I can’t. Or rather I can’t make myself. I’ve grown up […]

#335: How do I set a boundary with my friend without hurting her feelings?

Dear Captain Awkward, I have a best friend.  We’ve known each other for a long time, gone through some really rough times together as we both coped with mental illness, toxic families, financial hardship and general shenanigans.  Being single ladies who are at the asexual end of the scale, we share a house, and have […]

#273: “My kid won’t be visiting you”: Steps on becoming an Emotional Badass

Hello Captain! I am in serious need of some guidance. I’ll do my best to keep the background info to being pertinent to the situation. Here it goes. I have a wonderful four year old son with my terrible, emotionally-abusive ex. I left him when my son was a little over a year old and […]

#270: I’m using my words, but the other people aren’t listening. What now?

Hi, Captain Awkward: I used to have a really hard time using my words, but therapy is awesome and now I will totally tell people, in words, when what they are doing really needs to stop. I’m stuck, though, on how to respond to people who repeatedly ignore my words when I use them. Example, […]

#205: The case of the nosy roommate.

Hi Captain Awkward, The background to this story is I moved away from the city I grew up to go to graduate school on the other coast. While I have been in the area a while I am currently living with roommates I did not know prior to living with them. This is fine and […]

Question #166: My mom is being a jerk about what I name my baby.

Dear Captain Awkward; When I was pregnant with my daughter, my husband and I made a deal: he picks first name, I pick middle name, and then should we have a 2nd kid, it would be vice-versa. We decided at the time to name our daughter after his (late) maternal grandmother and my maternal grandmother. […]

Question # 164: Redrawing boundaries with a possessive ex.

Dear Captain Awkward: I’m a transman – reasonably attractive, fairly extroverted, early in my transition. I have recently moved to a new city and found a group of people who are both awesome (sharing similar interests and drives) and supportive of my transition. I even started dating a nice young man in this group. Then […]

Variations on a theme: How can I get my “friends” to stop touching me? (Question #76)

This came into the Captain Awkward mailbox last night.  It seems like we’re all in the mood to Hulk out and get people to stop touching other people, so have at it, commenters. Dear Captain Awkward, I have a recurring problem when it comes to friends. It’s been a problem from the very beginning, as […]


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