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Tag Archive | Boundaries

#470, #471 and #472: Correcting Names

Dear Person, My friends have gotten into the habit of calling me by a nickname, which would be wonderful if they had asked first, but otherwise I’m okay with it. The problem comes when they introduce me to people using that nickname, leading those people to think that it’s my real name and so they […]

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#468 and #469: “Hey, knock it off”, or, Constructive Conflict, Continued.

Jolly’s great comment to Monday’s post is going to be very relevant to these seemingly very different questions: “You also don’t necessarily have to bring some of these things up in one big confrontation about The Whole Pattern Of Her Sucking. You could just make a point of standing up for yourself when she does […]

#460: Boundaries are good, even if other people don’t enjoy it when you set them.

This is a very smart post on moving on and setting boundaries with an ex from Jenn Vicious at In Our Words: “There’s this thing that sometimes happens when people break up but still care about each other: they want to continue working on things that were problems in their relationship. Don’t do that. My […]

#446 and #447: Aging, family, and boundaries

Dear Captain Awkward: I’m having a bit of trouble with my parents. To start off with, I’m in my mid-40s and have been living on my own since I was 19. My parents are in their late 60s. They’re both retired, but Dad has been volunteering his time at a local school to give him […]

#429 & #430: When depression is contagious.

Dear Captain Awkward: I need some advice on being a decent human being. My wife and I have been together for 8 years, married for 5. She has severe depression and anxiety. She’s been in therapy since before I met her, but her illnesses still hit her pretty hard. I do as much as I […]

#422: Setting expectations about frequency of communication.

Hey Cap’n, My ex and I were in a long distance relationship for a year and a half. We broke up about a year and a half ago, quite amicably. She was my first love, and we were best friends for quite some time before we began the relationship. After breaking up we tried to […]

#371: “How do I end this misery?”

Dear Captain Awkward: About ten months ago, I started a relationship (a really-long-distance relationship with someone I met on a website). At first, and I have to be honest here, I was just fooling around, I couldn’t believe that you could actually fell in love with someone you don’t even know. He was a “good […]

#369: Breaking off contact with an ex.

Dear Captain Awkward: A year ago I broke up with a girlfriend of three years. Before she was my girlfriend she had been my best friend for over 10 years, and was someone whom I deeply trusted with pretty much everything. When we broke up it was very messy and she said some very hurtful […]

#363: My partner’s career is eating all their energy and attention.

Dear Captain Awkward: I’ve been with my partner for close to a decade now.  In the past year or three, they’ve been getting way more into their career, to the point where they are barely home.   Even when they are home, they’re not dependably home, if that’s clear — they’re sometimes present and delightful and […]

#356: My parents want me to parent my brother.

Dear Captain Awkward, I love my parents and younger brother – just in small doses. I currently live about a thousand miles away from them, which is great for me, although sadly, it hasn’t kept me out of the family drama. My brother has dropped out of grad school, is living at home, has made […]


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