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Hello there!

I write Captain Awkward for fun (and for free).  I’m an adjunct college instructor and an eternal freelancer, which means I am  always hustling for money to keep a roof over my head and satisfy my love of fine cheese.

If you like what you read here and find it helpful, please consider making a (non-tax deductible) gift  through PayPal (you can also click the picture of the ramen, below) or donate via Dwolla (you must be in the USA with a bank account).

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I also do two week-long PBS-style Pledge Drives a year in the winter and again in the summer where I ask readers to donate to the blog, but there is no need to wait: Donations are welcome at any time.

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I’m also available for small writing projects – newsletters, personal ads, resumes and cover letters, Strongly Worded Letters, proposals, corporate brochures and various web content – for a fee. I’m a decent photographer and video producer, so if you’re in the Chicago area and need a flattering portrait or a reality show audition video, I can also hook you up.  Email me at welcometoawkwardtown@gmail.com if you have a work task that can only be handled by Captain Awkward. Please continue to submit questions for answering on the blog via our Ask A Question page. Thank you for reading!

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38 comments
  1. Danielle said:

    Hi, thanks for the comment on my blog. What a coincidence, I was actually reading your blog the other day! Question #163 regarding the slut-shaming sister…”whatever asshole”…good (and hilarious) advice!!

  2. AnonCanuck said:

    Well, I donated using a random state abbreviation since it doesn’t seem to be set up for Canadian addresses. I hope it works!

  3. Hildur Ýr said:

    Thank you, for a wonderful blog. Funny, helpful… and one can feel the love and support from the community.
    Still lurking, btw… my first comment.
    Thanks for being awesome, Captain Awkward!

  4. Thank you Captain Awkward! I have now used my words on TWO occasions and you have changed my life for the better with your writing.

  5. elodierose said:

    Hello Captain,
    Long time reader and occasional commenter here.
    I wasn’t sure where to write this to you, but I wanted to thank you.
    Five minutes ago, after about an hours worth of drafting and redrafting it, I sent an email to my universities student welfare office, to request an appointment to discuss with someone trained and experienced some treatment for the depression I have lived with undiagnosed for the last five years.
    Your gentle and logical advice to so many letter writers about caring for their own mental health and being brave enough to look after themselves has finally sunk in, and I’ve taken the first tiny, scary step into looking after myself.

    Thank you for writing this blog. It might have taken me a lot longer to get to this point without it.

    • JenniferP said:

      Elodierose, rock on with your brave self. I hope you get the help and support you need.

  6. syzygal said:

    Hi there – same intentions as Elodierose! I was looking around for a place to say thank you, and figured I wouldn’t load up your already full mailbox. I’m a longtime reader of this blog – don’t know how I found it, perhaps through the feminist blogsophere (wonder where, hmm). Not only have I found the posts immensely helpful and cheery, it was this blog that led me to wonderful things like Dear Sugar – so thank you for that!

    I also moved to a big new city recently after spending 24 years of my life in one city (cough, okay, one neighbourhood) and many of the resources here about moving to a new city, “finding” one’s place, and meeting new people, are supremely useful and comforting for a mild-anxiety sufferer like me.

    Most specifically, I was lying in bed awake at 4am one day, ill and a little scared, and about to call a hotline but too shy, so I read through the guest post on what to expect when you call a hotline. That was really, really helpful, especially to be reminded that people *want* us to call. I went ahead and called, and was lucky to have a calming, cheering conversation with a very nice volunteer.

    I love you and this blog, Captain Awkward!

    • JenniferP said:

      This is incredibly kind, thank you, and happy 2014.

  7. Hi Captain!
    Have you ever considered accepting commissions instead of or along with donations? I was just reading Mark Watches (http://markdoesstuff.com/products/mark-reads-mark-watches-video-commission), who allows his readers to commission work from him. I think it’s sort of a cool way to both engage with your audience (not that you need any help there!) and keep the lights on. You could allow us to sponsor X reader questions for $Y, and just have a little note at the top of each post “This questions was sponsored by Jane D.” Just an idea! I know I am the type of person who doesn’t really notice when I see a general call for donations, but if given the opportunity to “buy” something, I might think twice.

    • JenniferP said:

      Thanks for the suggestion, I will think about it!

  8. Mildred said:

    Hello.

    I’m a long-time reader, one-time commenter and classic introvert: I won’t say anything unless I’m convinced that it’s a new and genuinely useful contribution to the conversation. But, in this particular context, a little bit of repetition feels like a good thing.

    So…thank you hugely, Captain, for essentially providing a handy primer on life. I’ve worked my way through much of the archive, reading, re-reading, and reading again. I’ve quoted posts to my therapist. I’ve sent links to my friends. And I’ve channelled Spirit of Captain during boundary-enforcement situations.

    In short, you’ve become an important part of Team Me. Thank you for helping me to be myself.

    • JenniferP said:

      You have made my tiny shriveled heart grow THREE SIZES today! Many thanks for the kind words, and keep awesomeing.

  9. Katie said:

    Another thank you here. In 2011 I used to stay late at my dead-end job just to read CA archives and get my head right. I have grown so much by the wisdom you and other people share here. I so appreciate how much energy and care you put into this site, and even if you stopped tomorrow you would have made such a difference to so many people (and probably still would, because the internet is forever.) Thank you thank you thank you.

  10. aladegorrion said:

    Your work on this site has helped me so much in the past few years in all aspects of my life and continues to keep giving me a much-needed reminder that it’s okay to stand up for myself. Thank you so much for the time you put into this. (Also I send friends to the site whenever I can, because you and your crew are SO good and helpful and kind in your advice.)

  11. Abby Normal said:

    Hi Cap’n! I’m a long time lurker, first time commentator and I just wanted to say thank you so much for all of your wonderful, relevant advice. It’s really helped me in quite a few aspects of my life and has definitely made dealing with my family easier.

    • Abby Normal said:

      I meant to put this in my original reply and it somehow slipped my mind but I think you’re awesome and such a wonderful person for taking the time to keep this blog up and running.

  12. Any chance of accepting bitcoin? PayPal has a bad history of stealing money, but I’ll send some that way for now.

    (Apologies if this double-posts.)

    • JenniferP said:

      No to bitcoin, but thank you!

  13. Myrin said:

    Hi captain, I was wondering if you’ve ever heard of the site Patreon? It allows people who produce regular/ongoing content (such as your advice columns) to get donations (once a month, if I’m not mistaken) by those who become their patrons. I’ve seen a few YouTubers and comic artists participate in it and it seems to be a really cool thing. I don’t produce any kind of content at all ever so I sadly can’t tell what it’s like from an inside perspective and I have no idea if you’re even interested in something like this, but I had to think of it when you spoke about your broken computer yesterday and thought maybe that would be something you’d like to consider.

  14. S said:

    I am broke right now and saving up to move out of my parents’ home, which has some Evil Bees, but this site has helped me so, so much. I will be donating in future. Thank you for everything you do here. <3

    • JenniferP said:

      Hold onto your money and get yourself to a good place! <3

  15. Ve said:

    I imagine you’ve already considered this to a degree, but have you thought about offering coaching or consulting services? Maybe via Skype/phone/email? Since I know this kind of work and the letters you read can be emotionally taxing, if you were interested in this, you could specify what type of problems you may want to offer assistance or guidance with. Possibly offer packages with a set number of hours. It may not even have to be entirely related to “OMG MY LIFE” advice exactly, like “building morale” sessions for businesses, helping kids with college applications, etc.

    I imagine I’m not the only one who has receive far more useful information from this blog than I’ve received from people with several letters and qualifications after their names. It wouldn’t surprise me if people were willing to pay for one-on-one time with the Captain ;-)

    Re: email as an option — A writer I follow has an email consultation program that she’s recently started, and she’s really enjoying so far. She has set business hours when she replies to emails, so her clients know when she will reply and she doesn’t feel forced to be constantly available (a mistake she learned from experience).

  16. Commissar of Cheese said:

    I have learned a lot from reading all the posts and comments – I’m glad to finally be able to chip in a bit!

    • JenniferP said:

      Thank you kindly! It improves my life so much.

  17. Seestern said:

    Dear Captain, your advice column has helped me so much since I discovered it a couple of years ago but, more importantly, you have helped my daughter immensely. You weren’t around when I was a teenager but you’re here now for her and you have my undying gratitude.
    Now to the tofu of the matter, PayPal hates me and won’t take my credit card. It’s not the first time I’ve had this problem but before there have been alternatives so I’ve been able to circumvent their intransigence. However, I don’t live in the US so I cannot take advantage of the non PayPal route this time.
    I would very much like to donate to your site because you have been such a boon to us and you deserve it. Is there some other way I can do so?

    • JenniferP said:

      Thank you for the kind words! Please don’t worry about $, just keep reading, and maybe donate that money to a mental health cause where you are.

      • Seestern said:

        I can do both! (and will.) My lovely daughter is going to donate via PayPal and I will reimburse her (for some of it – she wants to donate too).

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